Depression Options

[6th_celi_vert]

My GF of 2 years just told me that she wanted to spend time apart. I have never had pain like this before. I cant stop thinking about her, and im extrememly depressed. All i can do is cry, and im also having trouble eating. It just hurts so much. Does it ever get any better? (we were planning on getting married, even though were both 19)

[Coomer]

Yep...it gets better. Go do something to keep you busy. Go work out or hang out with friends or something to try to take your mind off of it.

[devilsden97]

some of the best cars came out of ended relationships....got some free time....tweeeking becomes a new love.....it gets better, takes time, but it does.

Or U'll find someone else...who is "better" for u or your "better" together


I know thats how it went with me. Horrible break up, really sad....time passed, felt better, and found someone that I would do just about nething for.

This post has been edited by devilsden97: May 22, 2006 - 2:49 PM

[x_itchy_b_x]

girls are evil their sole purpose in life is to make men miserable. right?
just keep your head up cause you have a whole life to live and eventaully you will find the right girl or maybe she doesnt realize she is the one yet. hope things get better for you.

[celicarus]

like Coomer said - it will get better - just occupy your time with friends, work, school, what ever you can do to keep yourself busy

in most normal relationship the guy usually needs the girl more than the girl needs the guy -- if you occupy your time well enough - after 1 month you'll feel alot better and ready to move on - just make sure you start looking for another mate also - keep your options open

new love makes old love fade away

[6th_celi_vert]

thanks guys, i think i really just needed to talk to people. I just cant stop picturing her with other people, or even picturing myself with other people, and everything i think about has memories of her tied to it. Since ive never had my heart broken before, ive never had deal with anything like this. I do hope it gets better though.

[dstrbcelica]

it will get better in due time.

-dstrb

[6th_celi_vert]

gathering from the answers, i take it im not the only one who has gone through this before.

[m0dd3d1]

hell no are you crazy? it definitly get's better dude! trust me, one of the worst feelings in the world is when someone you love tells you the two of you should spend time apart...i'm engaged and it happend to me, when you're that far and it comes to that, what else is there? but honestly, it get's so much better!

[celicarus]

happened to me 3x -- the previous one was hell - but it got better - after 3 months i moved on and found the person i'm with now which has lasted close to 5 years -

[RedGTS]

Being 16-20 is a pretty ****ty time for most people. It's about the period everyone starts to figure out who they are, what they believe in and somtimes even their political stand point. This time can often be the breaking point for most high school -to- college bound relationships.

Most girls are ****ing psycho at that age anyways.

Just keep your head up cause there is that other girl, whom you've yet to meet who will treat you better.

This post has been edited by RedGTS: May 22, 2006 - 3:59 PM

[6th_celi_vert]

thanks guys, i dont think you all realize how much you've helped out.


ive taken down all the pictures, that helped me more than anything, not having to see us smiling together.

[Jen]

I understand exactly what you are going through, except I am the girl who broke up with the boy. And, it's rough. There's not a night that I don't cry, wondering if what I did was the right thing.

[6th_celi_vert]

i dont get extremely sad until night, when im layin in bed. I went to her graduation today, and just kinda of hid in the crowd. That really made things worse. But i had to see her get her diploma. I just miss her so much. Im slowly gettin better though.

...tomarrow is a new day.

[devilsden97]

...tomarrow is a new day.

Damn Straight! Everyone should live by that motto

This post has been edited by devilsden97: May 22, 2006 - 9:47 PM

[dustin15brown]

thanks guys, i dont think you all realize how much you've helped out.


ive taken down all the pictures, that helped me more than anything, not having to see us smiling together.

ok maybe i'm the only one to have the balls to say it.... but maybe it's not over... Don't instill false hopes, but dont lose hope. Many relationships go on a hiyeadus (major spellling) at some point or another... It just is up to how hard you are willing to fight for it and if she realizes..... currently i am in this situation and there's not an easy day....

[pure_dx]

my gf broke up with me when i was like in 7th grade or when i was about 12-13 yrs old however you see it, anyways, since then, i've been afraid to fall in love again, and been single ever since (i'm 19 now) i use video games and sports in place of chasing girls, i'm a big gamer (xbox, ps2, gb, mainly RPG games, preferably japanese rpgs) and i was one of the top football players for my high school team. And now that i'm in college, i'm spending time modding my car now in place of girls, dont worry man,......let them chase you, for me i'm still scared to fall in love, because i'm not ready, i need to get my education first, get a real job, make the $$, and get a life,.....THEN when i'm financially ready and psychologically ready, let them come to you, good luck and keep us updated! we're here to help man, you're not the only one whos been through this! we're all here, attached is something i find interesting, laters



This post has been edited by pure_dx: May 22, 2006 - 10:59 PM

[devilsden97]

ok im depressed now.....nothing as bad as yours and i dont mean to hijack the thread, but i need to get my feelings out. I like some girl, a hell of a lot. And she says she likes me alot too. ur gonna ask, wheres the problem? Problem is that i tell her all the time, everychance i get. She says it after i say it (most of the time). And tonight, when i was on the phone with her, at the end of the conversation, i told her how much i cared about her, and i told her that i really wanted her to know that. Her response was, "i know, ill ttyl" My problem is that, if she likes me as much as she says, dont u think she would show it alittle more? Idk im just feeling like I tricked myself into likeing this girl alot more then she likes me.

( i know i didnt give you any background info on her or our relationship/whatever u wanna call it. But i just needed to get my feelings out cuz its driving me nuts)

[6th_celi_vert]

I am holding on to that hope that maybe it isnt over, that does make me feel alot better, afterall, this did happen once before.


That math solution you have there is friggin hilarious.


Im glad im not alone and that it does get better, and im more than happy to have opened a topic that you can vent your depression into also devilsden. lol. Afterall, this website is like an extended family. lol.

[devilsden97]

Afterall, this website is like an extended family. lol.

so says my myspace.


"6gc.net is like a second family to me."

[dlx742]

i know exactly how bad things get when laying in bed... try listening to music (not related to love, relationships, girls) while you are trying to fall asleep... just have it on quiet so you will actually be able to fall asleep.... it takes your mind off of everything else

find a good hobby... something that is very tedious and has nothing to do with girls. cars, model building, rc cars, computers, a sport, working out... something that takes your mind off of everything else

[Cutrara]

Working out... W00t! It def works to take your mind off it.

[bloodrain]

well u gotta look at it this, can life really get much worse? answer is yes. Life does go on but your lucky to even be where you are. Like everyone else said, find a hobby, yes it sucks but theres not much u can do.

[Jeremy1210]

What was the reason for the time apart? DId she give one? remember you're only 19. Many more fish in the sea. Yeah you're lonely and feel like poop, but it will go away. Look at it like you know what her loss and move on; don't give false hopes and live in the past cause that will def keep you down big time. What really works for a lot of people I know is go for a run, a long run... Run till you can't run any more then walk and run some more. Just keep running... Its your own personal alone time adn time to think and give yourself good pep talks about how to get through it. Thats all you can do, tough it out and endure...

As for the sleeping thing, not mcuh you can do. The mind is evil at night time right before bed

[bloodrain]

tylenol PM owns for these situations, just dont get addicted, lol. Take 2, get a shower, lay down and you'll be out in 10 minutes.

[6th_celi_vert]

What was the reason for the time apart? DId she give one? remember you're only 19. Many more fish in the sea. Yeah you're lonely and feel like poop, but it will go away. Look at it like you know what her loss and move on; don't give false hopes and live in the past cause that will def keep you down big time. What really works for a lot of people I know is go for a run, a long run... Run till you can't run any more then walk and run some more. Just keep running... Its your own personal alone time adn time to think and give yourself good pep talks about how to get through it. Thats all you can do, tough it out and endure...

As for the sleeping thing, not mcuh you can do. The mind is evil at night time right before bed

She just graduated, She's comin into the real world, gotta full time job interview, marriage scares her, she said she was just confused and needed time apart.

This post has been edited by 6th_celi_vert: May 23, 2006 - 4:52 PM

[JonCars17]

Your talking like your back together by using the word "was". Was is a past tense word meaning she isn't anymore, Is is a present tense word meaning she still is.

I think she has a good reason to separate, but honestly I would have told her "I'll postpone the marriage or end the engagement if your afraid of marriage but lets work this out". I too say there may be hope, but either way just do something like hang out with friends, work out, get an extra job or just go for a drive. Me personally, I go for drives when I'm in a bad mood or just feeling lonely. I just like to site see and I normally just think my problems away. Plus no one can tell you to turn the radio down when your driving alone . I haven't had many relationships and the ones I've had weren't long at all, but you still get attached and like being with them. My last one was only 5 days long -_- I was over her in a day. She was just an immature brat, I'll find someone someday. BTW, What does her parents have to say about all of this?

This post has been edited by JonCars17: May 23, 2006 - 10:12 PM

[Cutrara]

I was dating this girl for a while, things were going awesome, out of NOWHERE she stops talking to me. I later found out she had a b/f the whole time, she cheated on him with me.... wtf... now shes going out with this drug dealer. This was six months ago. My bench went up 50+ lbs, deadlift went up 70lbs and squat went up 90 lbs... woot...

Heartbreak: Nature's steroid.

[devilsden97]

I was dating this girl for a while, things were going awesome, out of NOWHERE she stops talking to me. I later found out she had a b/f the whole time, she cheated on him with me.... wtf... now shes going out with this drug dealer. This was six months ago. My bench went up 50+ lbs, deadlift went up 70lbs and squat went up 90 lbs... woot...

Heartbreak: Nature's steroid.

and u snaped that coke dealer of a boy friend in half

[97lestyousay]

I dated a girl for 4 years, then it was over. I am still not over her after
almost 2 years. I met a girl or 2 but still think about her all the time,
and am really not intersted in anyone else. She has moved on long ago,
I can't seem to.

[Digndoug]

Things to keep in mind. Women want a guy that dosnt need them. If you guys are ment to be togather, then she will come back. Shes right, she needs her space .. GIVE IT TO HER...

You dont want to be in a relationship while she is figuring out what she wants, you'll get hurt more.

Just start working out, surround your self with friends.. Try to pick up some new hobbies..

also you are young, expect this to happen atleast 5-10 more times before your married.

Oh all women are fukling nutts..

I have been with my girl for about 5-6 months.. and I think we both alreayd need time apart to fiugre out what we want..

good luck man, it happens everyone./.

[Jaws4God]

thanks guys, i think i really just needed to talk to people. I just cant stop picturing her with other people, or even picturing myself with other people, and everything i think about has memories of her tied to it. Since ive never had my heart broken before, ive never had deal with anything like this. I do hope it gets better though.

I know how you feel. my first real relationship ended abruptly after 2 years and it was hard.. but it just took time. and I know its not helpful to some, but give it to God.

[lil_lissa]

if you actually want her back, i will tell you that the easiest way to make a girl want a guy, is to act like you don't want anything to do with her. lol

in my last couple break ups, one guy was obsessed with me, he was psychotic (seriously) and would call me 50 times a day.. i was with him for a year, and automatically wanted NOTHING to do with him, i got over him in like a month
the next guy i was with, i was crazy about and we broke up, he won't talk to me and has moved on to another girl, and all i can think about it how i can get him back, and that was almost a year ago...
if he was to start obsessing over me after we had broken up, i'd probably not give two ****s about him

anyways, my point is... one of the easiest ways to get her to want you back, is to act like you've moved on (80% of the time anyways )

[97lestyousay]

if you actually want her back, i will tell you that the easiest way to make a girl want a guy, is to act like you don't want anything to do with her. lol

in my last couple break ups, one guy was obsessed with me, he was psychotic (seriously) and would call me 50 times a day.. i was with him for a year, and automatically wanted NOTHING to do with him, i got over him in like a month
the next guy i was with, i was crazy about and we broke up, he won't talk to me and has moved on to another girl, and all i can think about it how i can get him back, and that was almost a year ago...
if he was to start obsessing over me after we had broken up, i'd probably not give two ****s about him

anyways, my point is... one of the easiest ways to get her to want you back, is to act like you've moved on (80% of the time anyways )

Ah the reverse psycholgy game. Me and the ex GF played it
many times, Quarters would have been a better game.
Next week is the apex of the corner of my life. I hope I can turn this
piece fo crap around. (my Life, not my Celi).