Need some opinions...., I guess there's a first time for everything.... Options

[dabazied]

Ok, you guys and gals are fam, so I figured I'd vent and get some opinions here.

Went to a buddy's house for his b-day party(it was all day and night). He turned 40 and had all kinds of family and friends come over(along with some mutual friends). One of his nieces was there and we kind of hit it off all day. By 630pm all the older family members left so the party got a little wilder. I took her to bed around 9 and had a bedroom dance going on. Got woken up after a lil 15min nap by 2 friends I hadn't seen in 2yrs at around midnight......

Side note.... She had been asking her uncle(my buddy) whether I was a good guy or whether I was going to "play her face" during the day and asked for advice from her brother's g/f. They told her the truth, I am an a-double snake-hole but am honest, upfront, forward, loyal(when in a relationship), and sweet(to those close to me). Also, I found out that the niece lives only like 10 mins from where I'm staying at the moment(the party was about 2 hrs drive from where Im staying). Also, the niece was steady saying, "you won't even remember my name or who I am if I get your number but I want it anyways." End side note.

I got up and hit the keg again and tons of shots with my friends I hadn't seen in a while.(At this point the niece is still sleeping in the room) At this point the party had dwindled to only about 9 of us not counting the sleeping lady. I went for a bathroom break and as I finished washing my hands, the door opened suddenly and I was pushed into the shower by two 19 yr old ladies and it went from there. Anyways, that all finished a while later and then one of the 19yr old's bro was ready to go and he took both of them home.

Side note #2.... None of the birthday boy's family was at the party by the time I got woken up by the friends I hadn't seen in 2yrs other than my friend and the niece. End side note #2.

After another hour or so of partying the niece woke up and decided to hang out. At this point there are only 6 of us. One of the friends left and we were more in chill mode and hanging other than partying.

I had to leave at like 5am because I had a meeting for business about an hr and a half on the other side of where I am currently staying, so about a 3.5hr drive. I gave the niece my number because she asked for it. I went to my meeting and all that jazz. After the meeting on Sunday(a week ago) she texted me and we texted for a while just talking. Monday, work work and more work for me but we were still texting all day. My night work didn't end until 1am Monday/Tuesday morning. She works 715-415. Tuesday she was supposed to go out of town for some learning thing for her work, but she wasn't driving and wanted me to come over after work Monday night/Tuesday morning. So I did.

We learned a lot about each other and have a lot in common. We talked for hours about anything and everything without skipping a beat and never running out of stuff to talk about. I told her, when it's time I have to leave just to let me know. We ended up having some more fun again that night, talked some more and then she let me know that she needed to get to bed and stuff so I took that as the sign to go, but asked just for reconfirmation to be the nice guy. She said yeah, so I left.

We texted all day Tuesday(her initiating all texting btw from the get go). She had told me she has no b/f and it appeared so from her apt. We texted Wednesday as well. Then it all stopped, no texts no communication at all. I sent her a text on Friday and got no response. I have tried not bothering her, but this has been kinda bothering me quite a bit. I really like this girl(for her, not the fact that we had bedroom time cuz bedroom time is easy to get). Ive never had anyone just fall off the face of the earth before and never been played before. Did I just get played or am I over thinking things? We are really compatible. Hit me up with opinions. This is just frustrating and has been bothering me a bit.

[95CelicaST]

Perhaps she is just really busy? IDK.


Why don't you not act desperate to talk with her. You have tried to contact her, so the ball is in her court to get back to you. If she does then great, but if she doesn't then you got played.

However, the internets isn't a reliable place for advice. Be forewarned.

[HaysoosKreesto]

I went for a bathroom break and as I finished washing my hands, the door opened suddenly and I was pushed into the shower by two 19 yr old ladies and it went from there. Anyways, that all finished a while later and then one of the 19yr old's bro was ready to go and he took both of them home.

Can uhh... can you elaborate a bit more on this part? I feel it would be beneficial to the story .

[GriffGirl]

I was gonna say, maybe she found out about the two 19 year olds and just figures you for a player. I'd be pretty put off by that if it was me.

[Supersprynt]

So you sleep with one girl not long after you meet her, and 2 others double team you in the shower, I'd like to just flip you off but... if you haven't heard a peep from her in nearly a week I'd say it's about done.

[xs94st]

Maybe she did think you were a player.

Same thing happened to me..cuz I sorta had relations with 3 other coworkers, the 4th is not going as well because of my prior engagements..

[Supersprynt]

Playing with fire there.

[D-Man]

Have you tried hitting her?




sry (someone had to do it.)



SERIOUSLY! she probably found out about your "3's company action" and probably thinks of you kinda like this. So you're probably ruined. rather you like it or not- new relation stuff wont endure much stress. Plus you have to worry about this:

the niece was steady saying, "you won't even remember my name or who I am if I get your number but I want it anyways."

Did I just get played or am I over thinking things?

Chicks wont really "play" you. (dont mean this in a dirty way) they're just along for the ride- If it's a good ride they'll stay with ya; If you're a "two timing backstabbing doubble 19 year old fcuking SOB" then they'll find out and you're best to stay away. (mind you that's what'll be going threw her head. - Personaly, i say "Play on playa~") ain't no single woman worth worrying about. i learned me that lesson long ago.

as Faust would say: Cars > Women

so fcukett!!

(but that's my advice. May not be good, but it's what i'd do)

[SwissFerdi]

Who gives a **** what she thinks...WTF do you do to get two women to rush you in the shower?

But anyway, I'm gonna echo what has been said...she probably found out. Unless her line got cancelled or her family took her phone away or something, she's just not replying is my thought. Her initiating all of the texting would make me think that she'd want to talk, and the fact that there's suddenly no response makes me think it's her choice.

This post has been edited by SwissFerdi: Apr 19, 2010 - 7:28 PM

[yarik83]

Do you really find yourself that special that you justify fondling 2 women while trying to hook up with the 3rd as something that is the right thing to do? Without a doubt she not only found out but because of your overall social circle I am sure that all females are talking about you right now. Gathered in circle with their purses and trying to find a way to get back at you.

I had fun in college and me and my at the time girlfriend were on and off constantly but it was disclosed in our "relationship" that there would be shenanigans.

I would not expect her to want to call you... especially when she found out and as things go... even walls talk. Every action causes an equal and opposite reaction... be it in physics equations or in real life.

Reputation of a player is harder to erase when your social circle is small. By small I mean a typical frat party of 100-400 people.

People see things and people talk... even while wasted with their big eyes wandering around.

But at least you had shower fun so be thankful for that.

[D-Man]

Who gives a **** what she thinks...WTF do you do to get two women to rush you in the shower?

... or her family took her phone away or something...

1- it's quite easy actually. I find being a total asshole to everyone works, and dont care about anything but yourself, and whats yours. Chicks dig self-centered ass holes! look at how far Lil'Bit has gone for me; with only knowing me a few months. But to keep this thread open (well, as long as it's going to last) you can PM me for tha details.


2- Not everyone here is 14 years old just you.

[SwissFerdi]

2- Not everyone here is 14 years old just you.

Andrew's the one that's 14.

But let me rephrase that, I meant that they got wind of the OP's doing and convinced her not to text him anymore.

[D-Man]

nice attempt at a save, but i'm sure we can both agree that she likely found out and is currently plotting his demise. :evil-laughter:

[joesmith94celica...]

it's because you drive an ST.

ok serious: she doesn't know how to tell you...she's preggers.

Ok, really serious: why wonder about the one, when you could have TWO.
Honestly, continue to be yourself. Don't fret too much, stress kills. And continue to pursue as a gentleman would...there's a line...on the other side is a title: stalker. Don't be that guy. If she is pi$$ed about the 3-way, you could always try to explain, "Hey...it was 2 at once...what was I supposed to do...NOT do them?!" <---that is the voice of reason!

[CelicaST_CALI]

She found out,or lost her phone.I say find those 2 19 year old girls again.../thread


ok ferdi,haha i was gonna stop myself,but ****iit 6gc is getting boring.I'm 17 first of all DB,and have gotten/get more action in 10 minutes than uve gotten in your entire life

This post has been edited by CelicaST_CALI: Apr 19, 2010 - 9:06 PM

[SwissFerdi]

ok ferdi,haha i was gonna stop myself,but ****iit 6gc is getting boring.I'm 17 first of all DB,and have gotten/get more action in 10 minutes than uve gotten in your entire life

Please go and make some more baseless assumptions about my life, it makes you look cool br0.

I was only joking. Let it go. That is all I'm going to say.

[CelicaST_CALI]

As am I,but,you started it

[97celiman]

threads like this make me lol so much. IBT(near-semi-immediate-future)L

[D-Man]

SWISS, CALI - Both of you stop it before i FalconPunch you both.

OP- you were found out. Continue meaningless (but fun) party lifestyle.

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edit: to avoid the feeling of being played (even though you weren't) go ahead and do THIS to stay on top of things.

This post has been edited by D-Man: Apr 19, 2010 - 10:17 PM

[Random_Stranger]

Daniel, that is a long long story.... Pretty much, don't show emotional need. Women always walk over the nice guy bit. Be the one who let life surprise you, no expectations, only hopes without anyone in specific to fulfill any voids. All in due time, they will come, and if not, then you are better off without.

[CelicaST_CALI]

All in due time, they will come, and if not, then you are better off without.

so..hard...not..to make..come joke....must resist...

This post has been edited by CelicaST_CALI: Apr 20, 2010 - 1:09 AM

[dabazied]

Who gives a **** what she thinks...WTF do you do to get two women to rush you in the shower?

... or her family took her phone away or something...

1- it's quite easy actually. I find being a total asshole to everyone works, and dont care about anything but yourself, and whats yours. Chicks dig self-centered ass holes! look at how far Lil'Bit has gone for me; with only knowing me a few months. But to keep this thread open (well, as long as it's going to last) you can PM me for tha details.


2- Not everyone here is 14 years old just you.

Point #1 is sooooo very true and one to live by..... And of course she knows about the 2 in the shower(I'm an a**hole and am very honest, so I've told her that before even going to her house).

All of your guys who think the 2 19 yr olds is a big deal, simmer down, it's nothing new and not at all a big deal(maybe to the niece but not overall). Stuff like that happens to me on a regular basis to be honest. I coulda had a 3rd in there but her bf was actually at the party and watching her like a hawk. And both of the 2 19yr olds' bfs called me the other day(same time, conference call) and were acting all hard(like most Caucasian males do and on the east coast they don't do much). I gave them all my info, where I work(both job infos) what my schedule usually is and when I should be in their area again for the next party that they don't have an invite to but told them that their gfs were more than welcome to come again(in more ways than one). They got flustered(especially since one of the girls told me that she had never had the big "o" before me and I used that as a convo piece with the bfs) and haven't heard from them since. Have heard from the ladies tho, meh..... I'm over it.

The niece called me last night. Apparently her bro has been in the hospital, I went and saw him this morning and then me and the niece left to celebrate the holiday today. I jumped the gun, my bad, but its cuz she is pretty cool.

Side note, she knows that until she asks if she can claim me as a bf/gf status relationship, I will still be up to shenanigans. End note.

[Serhey]

this is the most pathetic **** i've read on this site. anyone else think he's compensating for most likely being a 30 year old virgin?
even if some of this is true, im pretty sure majority of it is exaggerated. you dont really care about this niece character, 90 percent of your storytelling has nothing to do with her, its just bragging bull**** about how much pussy you get. its like a lil wayne song where he sings about how hes the **** and then at the last second tries to squeeze something meaningful in it. which never works.

[HaysoosKreesto]

this is the most pathetic **** i've read on this site. anyone else think he's compensating for most likely being a 30 year old virgin?
even if some of this is true, im pretty sure majority of it is exaggerated. you dont really care about this niece character, 90 percent of your storytelling has nothing to do with her, its just bragging bull**** about how much pussy you get. its like a lil wayne song where he sings about how hes the **** and then at the last second tries to squeeze something meaningful in it. which never works.

Ha ha. Lets just say it crossed my mind, but I'll give him the benefit of the doubt and say... I hope he is living his life the way he wanted to and I hope he is wrapping it up tight.

[yarik83]

I wanted to post about it yesterday but got sidetracked with my 2 pussy..... cats.

What defines a real man is that he never describes his sexual escapades with other people. Most men of character usually mumble something about having a lady friend and switch to another topic. The fact that this guy continuously talks about getting in multiple woman's pants as if it took 0 effort on his part is as you said "pathetic". But having seen what my roommate did in college (had sex with 365 girls in one year on a dare).... well there were 3 pregnancy scares and he did get a few venereal diseases out of it but.... what I meant to say each and every one of those girls was a skunk. They were always wasted at a frat party and probably did not consent in the first place but were too drunk to do anything about it.

When it boils down to it.. non of us care about what you did or imagined that you did (whichever applies to you). This car website is not a proper venue to talk about your sexual ego

[Serhey]

I wanted to post about it yesterday but got sidetracked with my 2 pussy..... cats.

What defines a real man is that he never describes his sexual escapades with other people. Most men of character usually mumble something about having a lady friend and switch to another topic. The fact that this guy continuously talks about getting in multiple woman's pants as if it took 0 effort on his part is as you said "pathetic". But having seen what my roommate did in college (had sex with 365 girls in one year on a dare).... well there were 3 pregnancy scares and he did get a few venereal diseases out of it but.... what I meant to say each and every one of those girls was a skunk. They were always wasted at a frat party and probably did not consent in the first place but were too drunk to do anything about it.

When it boils down to it.. non of us care about what you did or imagined that you did (whichever applies to you). This car website is not a proper venue to talk about your sexual ego

thats really immature and irresponsible in my opinion. he's going to regret it in the end, for obvious reasons that you mentioned but also how do you think the girls he actually decides to date are going to feel? nobody would wanna date someone thats been around the block 365 times.

[dabazied]

Wow, hater alert. Simmer down. It is the off topic section... WoW and wallpapers for your computer make it here, because it's the correct section, yet neither(for the most part) are about cars. I did not go into details, but added in details to what was going on so that people could give me an honest answer(lil different from bragging, at least in my opinion).

Not quite 30 yet and I keep telling my hairline that, but it doesn't quite agree with me. Remember, the main point was to get opinions about the situation with the niece, which is going fine now.

Just for good measure about keeping it in the car realm, don't worry Haysoos, I keep some wraps in the glove compartment of the celi at all times and use em religiously.

[HaysoosKreesto]

Just for good measure about keeping it in the car realm, don't worry Haysoos, I keep some wraps in the glove compartment of the celi at all times and use em religiously.