Your Parents, Success or Failure. Options

[Consynx]

Be as harsh as you want...their your own rents.
but im curious, how many of your parents are loaded, how many are broke as sh*t...and just all that jazz...

That's all..

[Akimbo]

My parents worked their asses off all the time and we were pretty well off. I really love them each. My dad died and we lost like 3/5'ths of the houses income and it was a really rough time. Then my mom remarried and we're back to normal I suppose. Not quite as well off as we were anymore, but I'm alive and doing quite well.

They raised me very well. I see myself as a success and just want to be in the eyes of my father. I have made a TON of mistakes along the way, but thanks to the way I was raised I know how to deal with them and recoop. I'm trying that right now. I just 'cleaned' my slate so to speak and I am waiting to see where life takes me. That's just something I learned from them.

I can't be that harsh about them. They've really done nothing wrong. Sometimes my mom pushes me hard about school and work and money and stuff...but she just wants to see me succeed and go to college since she never did (college that is, my mother is a huge success in my life). I really admire my adoptive parents, and my stepdad. Yes, I'm adopted. No I never knew my real parents. No I don't want to know them. Thanks.

[Uppitycracker]

My parents used to be rich, then my dads business fell through, we weren't poor but we lived in a town house and lived pay check to pay check. Then my dad went back to school, became an engineer and now he is doing really well, he actually just got a promotion the other week. Im proud of both my parents, couldnt have asked for a better mom and dad.

So ya we are doing good, live in a pretty big new house, new cars, big tv, all that stuff.

[orvillescelica]

My parents both come from semi-poor families from Malaysia. And thats really saying something because Malaysia is a poor ass country. Today my dad has his PhD in Computer Science, owns two companies, and teaches PhD level courses for the University of Pheonix online. My mom is a financial analyist with her MBA. My dad use to be a partner at Arthur Anderson heading their technology consulting firm. After thier accounting firm had thier little Enron "error," our family personally lost close to $200K. Our standard of living didnt go down all too much.

Although my parents are rich, it DOES NOT trickle down to me. Do you know what i got as a gradation gift from college?? A picture frame. Whoo hoo! Do you know what my friend got? an RSX

My parents are very successful people, but i feel that puts a lot of pressure on me to achieve the same success. But realistically, how can I?? Nobel prize?

[Jen]

I would classify my parents as being successful for the most part. My mom did not go to college, but has a job as a budget analyst for the government. She gets paid decently. My dad also works for the government as an engineer. He gets paid quite a bit. I wouldn't classify my parents as being "loaded" although most of my friends would say so. But, I'm definitely not spoiled, and do not get everything I want.

This post has been edited by Jen: Dec 12, 2004 - 3:02 AM

[chucho]

we survive, dont get in debt and keep the bills in order.

[saleeka]

Finantialy, my parents (dad) are a great sucess... dad ended up working for a dental lab that he eventually bought out and just recently sold to a Greman dental firm, and he currently works as their lab manager, soon to retire at 55... mom on the other hand has done some ofice work here and there, but has lived off my dad's sucess for a long time now... Dad came from a VERY well to do backround, mom from poverty...

As for rasing kids, id say my parents have failed miserably in the traditional sense. I grew up watching my mom be a severe alcoholic for most of her life, was there when she tried to commit suiside, and now i'm blamed for her problems in life. My dad is a good hearted guy, and we get along way better than me and my mom do, but he listens to my moms insanity too much and he has lost a lot of respect from me in the process... I have a sister who is tweleve who has no respect for my mom (and i have absolutely ZERO as well), to an extent my dad either. the other day my mom and my sister got into an argument over somthing petty, and my sister ended up slapping my mom across the face HARD, and instead of doing what a real parent would do, she screamed at my sister "you little f*cking b*tch your a nastly little thing" and left it at that... in turn in all honesty i could care less what happnes to my mom, im perfectly content not dealing with her anymore or having to deal with her trash, and i dont feel ive missed out on anything either. me and my dad are hot cold, mostly because of her, and i honelsty dont see it changing ever in my life... ive had to do everything for myself since i was 18 and i havent had parental support since my early teens, so in all honesty i dont think there is anything to gain from either of them now...

[Coomer]

we survive, dont get in debt and keep the bills in order.
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That's pretty much how our family is. Except my parents have $8,000 worth of credit card debt because they can't manage money at all.

They're both teachers by the way.

[Digndoug]

I would say pretty well off. My pops has grow up in the restruant and bar life. His parents have owned bars then their parents and so on. He grew up in a rich faimly I would say, went to catholic U (very expensive architecture program) and is now his own firm. Mom went to college and teaches pre-school (dosnt pay crap, cause its for a baptise or whatever church) But We live on the water and have a bunch of boats and my pops has had three nice big restruants that he as all to now, sold. and do fine. I would say we would be very nice off, but my oldist bro got into drugs and a lot of ****, that cost my parents a ton of money.

[latinomasfino]

well my parents came to this coutry the way most hispanics do (they came from El Salvador) crossing da RIO GRANDE and well my dad i would consider to be a success....he was teh second oldest of his 10 siblings and his father was murdered by corrupt police..so he came to the US (with $20) to try to make soemthing...he lived in DC for a while in an unairconditioned apartment...sending most of the money he got from working construction back to his mother and his bros and sistas...he saved up some money and finally one by one brought all his bros and sisters and his mom to america....my dad did not even finish high school..since his dad died while he was onlyu 12 he had to take responsibliity (his odler brother was off gettin bytches pregnant) My dad married my mom and they had me..we lived in a ghetoo area of Langley park...my dad after years of hard labor decieded he needed to do better...so he left the company and started his own....keep in mind thast this is without ever finishing high school, without that good of english speaking skills...nothing...but somehow he made it and im not saying we are rich...but we are good and stable...i have to younger sisters and we live in a home worth $400,000 now plus 2 other homes we have and the busienss for a total of about 1 million in assets...my dad turned $20 into $1 mill i think thast a success
(my mom cleans houses which helps us pay for groceries)

i think he rasied me right cause im doing teh same thing...im at university of maryland where hispanics are like 3% and doing fairly well..not to mention i just got my real estate license and wil begin to sell proterites in the upcoming year..with my dads construction company adn my license we will be able to buy damaged hoomes and fix them up and sell them for $$$

[Yota]

My dad is a successful man.. I mean, I know he makes a lot of money, but there is so many trade-offs that I would almost take rather than being "well-off" It wasn't until a year ago when my dad and I actually started to get along. I've been damn near in fist fights with him, it wasn't anything for us to go a few weeks without speaking to each other. But atleast now we're not fighting and arguing and we actually have something in common: We both watch the University of Illinois' basketball team.

[zachattack15]

My dad worked his way up from the bottom of his type of business. He started by selling and installing tile flooring locally. Then he moved up to selling the tile to the local businesses. He kept moving up, and now he takes the tile straight from Spain and all those good places and sells it to the biggest dist. in the US. Because he worked his way up like that he knows more than anyone in his business. He kills his competition. Sells more than 3x what they sell. Funny thing is all I ever see him do is sit in his home office and play games lol. He does all business over the phone mostly. He has 3 children and gives us almost everything we want.(except for stuff for my car ) And my mom works but only because she works with her friends and like being with her. My dad always tells her she doesnt have to work.

[Kwanza26]

My dad's a social worker and my mom's a homemaker... we're surviving. My brothers and I help pay bills... then again... Asian families are very different from your typical 'white' family (sorry for not being politically correct). I know Vangsta will know what I mean... ;]

[macavely]

my dad is an asshole.. touch me a lot about cars..but still and asshole with money that.. but i don't care.. cause to me he died like 6 years ago...

my mom.. she is great at managening money... we get by... we have everything we need.... so we living ok....

[vangSTa_celica]

My dad's a social worker and my mom's a homemaker... we're surviving. My brothers and I help pay bills... then again... Asian families are very different from your typical 'white' family (sorry for not being politically correct). I know Vangsta will know what I mean... ;]

Definitely Kwanza. Coming from a different country sucks. New language, new laws, new everything. But now, my parents both speak English fluently, both work full-time jobs, we have our own house, and they have raised six kids successfully. But yeah, like Kwanza said, the Asian lifestyle is WAY different.

[brianforster]

my dad died when i was 8 and my mom didnt go to college, she makes 30k a year and my (2nd) stepdad makes about the same

we struggle to keep our house and put food on the table and I guess I am lucky enough to have her let me live at home for free for now (Im 18)

[CelicaBuddy]

My dad is a sucess.....

and my mom...... well.... shes a drug attic.

My parents have been split up my etire life. I live with my dad and things are going great. I think we can all guess why I dont live with my mom....

This post has been edited by CelicaBuddy: Dec 12, 2004 - 1:53 PM

[Consynx]

okay;
My Dad and my Mom got married right after HS or right before it ended...basically i think they did this because i was...unexpected
My Dad has a fro(which is AWESOME) and my mom, well...i dont have any HS pics of her, but right after she looked normal. So they get married, have me...and shortly down the road my dad is arrested for drug smuggling, and he's gone. During his sentense my mom divorces him, I'm told he was even abusive, though i dont remember. My dad was adopted, and i love the family that adopted him more than anything, they are the nicest people in the world.
After that my mom and i were living in a crummy lil place. Eventually she started dating this guy from work, who we ended up living with, and later my mom married...she's been w/ him for over 10years. She never got to to go college, and he graduated in PA, but moved to AZ where he met her.
Now we have moved back to PA, my step-dad, Pete, has opened his own business. It only consists of him and my mom as workers, but they needed "a business". Pete travels around the US, as his company was hired by toyota. He consults the managers and suck on what they can do to improve sales, and he's been doing GREAT, with over 100% difference to sales.
He's making...well, he's making a good bit...they're attempting to save though, because when we first moved here he was with a company called Arcata, owned by millionaires, and a yr through the owners decided it wasn't worth it and folded...leaving him jobless, so he's trying to get back on his feet enough to retire, and live the rest of his life while also putting my baby-sister, Emily, through college.

I'm going to be an ME at one of the top college in the US, although not Ivy League, and my mom seems happy...so, if this were a weak summary...it's good

[mmerical]

Well, my story should fit in pretty well with some of the other stories. My father was a stockbroker and my mom was a lawyer. Father went to jail in 1984 for investing clients money in accounts they didnt agree to invest in. Parents divorced a year later, after my father had spent almost $500k of our families assets. Mother worked as a lawyer for a few more years, then worked at a private practice firm as a partner. Sold her stake there and worked as the state director for the dept. of health and human resources for two years(she was in charge of the child support agency) and now she is an administrative law judge. Father is somewhere in Florida I believe but he isnt a good man and I do my best to stay out of contact with him. Mother remarried in '90 and my stepfather works for the state dept. of education evaluating common market programs at state colleges and universities. He just received his doctorate and does pretty well. Parents are well off but my mother to this day drives a toyota corolla. She is very frugal with her money and doesnt extend herself. She always says that she would rather be able to have money saved in case something happens versus driving an expensive car. I was never spoiled as a child and the biggest gift I ever received was my old celica(the chameleon one) for my 16th birthday(it was stock then). My mother is definately my role model in life as she is 52 now, still a judge, is on the board at our local credit union and is the president of our local YMCA as well. On top of that she plays tennis 6 days a week and can still outrun me in a sprint(im 24 and went to college on a partial soccer scholarship, im not too slow). I have three brothers within 5 years of me(oldest is 25, im 24, then 23 and 20). I am in the military to pay for my education and im finishing my degree in Engineering before applying to law school. Overall im very happy with my parents(or at least my mother). When I was younger I wished she would spend more money or buy me things but in hindsight I wouldnt have it any other way.

matt

[coustoe]

Thats great!! most everyones parents here seem to be succesful and RICH!!!

Question how much income do i need to generate per year to be considered rich these days? I would say over $160,000

This post has been edited by coustoe: Dec 12, 2004 - 4:36 PM

[latinomasfino]

Thats great!! most everyones parents here seem to be succesful and RICH!!!

Question how much income do i need to generate per year to be considered rich these days? I would say over $160,000
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umm depends on wut u mean by rich cause some paretns only make around 70,000-100,000 but they have assets totally MIllinons so u have to onsider that

[dstrbcelica]

uhm...my parents are teachers. mother=high school speech/middle school english. dad=college professor (speech, which i currently am in for a final week). and i'm from arkansas which is one of the worst places to be a teacher b/c the state doesn't pay them sh*t. so, draw ur one conclusion. ::shrugg::

-dstrb

[Digndoug]

Thats great!! most everyones parents here seem to be succesful and RICH!!!

Question how much income do i need to generate per year to be considered rich these days? I would say over $160,000
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Soon enough faimlys are going to need to have that much to live. Im just hopping to clear 100k my self when im older. That would be a partner in an architecture firm. we''ll see

IM also kinda suprisedthe amount of faimly members that have gone to jail or been into drugs. Its kinda sad. but theres nothing u can do about it.

[FallenHero]

well my parents came to this coutry the way most hispanics do (they came from El Salvador) crossing da RIO GRANDE and well my dad i would consider to be a success....he was teh second oldest of his 10 siblings and his father was murdered by corrupt police..so he came to the US (with $20) to try to make soemthing...he lived in DC for a while in an unairconditioned apartment...sending most of the money he got from working construction back to his mother and his bros and sistas...he saved up some money and finally one by one brought all his bros and sisters and his mom to america....my dad did not even finish high school..since his dad died while he was onlyu 12 he had to take responsibliity (his odler brother was off gettin bytches pregnant) My dad married my mom and they had me..we lived in a ghetoo area of Langley park...my dad after years of hard labor decieded he needed to do better...so he left the company and started his own....keep in mind thast this is without ever finishing high school, without that good of english speaking skills...nothing...but somehow he made it and im not saying we are rich...but we are good and stable...i have to younger sisters and we live in a home worth $400,000 now plus 2 other homes we have and the busienss for a total of about 1 million in assets...my dad turned $20 into $1 mill i think thast a success
(my mom cleans houses which helps us pay for groceries)

i think he rasied me right cause im doing teh same thing...im at university of maryland where hispanics are like 3% and doing fairly well..not to mention i just got my real estate license and wil begin to sell proterites in the upcoming year..with my dads construction company adn my license we will be able to buy damaged hoomes and fix them up and sell them for $$$ 
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Rock on dude.

My dad's a social worker and my mom's a homemaker... we're surviving.  My brothers and I help pay bills... then again... Asian families are very different from your typical 'white' family (sorry for not being politically correct).  I know Vangsta will know what I mean... ;]
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What the hell? You're asian? Why is your handle Kwanza? lol


OOK, Well, Dad is/was and Educator (Principal, retired, now part time teacher=semi hobbie) Mom has worked for the state for eternity. Now she is the personell manager for the state department of the Treasury... which is sweet because I could go just about anywhere in the capital as a kid. I freakin have locked the big honkin vault in the reinforced bunker type place in the basement.= really cool.

Success? ehh. I think both my rents are successful. they have provided my brother and I with a high standard of living, and a great understanding of life and how to live (kept us straight, make us pay for college and other such things while providing us with cars and when they are generous, gas money. )

It's a good life. I love my parents to death, although my mom can be a pain when I come in late on the weekends.

[Uppitycracker]

Thats great!! most everyones parents here seem to be succesful and RICH!!!

Question how much income do i need to generate per year to be considered rich these days? I would say over $160,000
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Id agree. My parents combined bring home around 100k, and they just get by with all there bills, Ive learned my lesson being on my own, don't spend money you dont have and you'll be much more happy, worrying about money just takes away from the quality of life.

[97sccelica]

well, currently

my dad is in a comma.

before that, when he came home from vietnam, he got a job with only a HS degree and some college units working at lockheed fixing airplanes.

had that job for 32 years, untill his massive heart attack last May. at the time he was making $60k a year depending on how much overtime he took on.

he invested his money in real estate with his brother and dad.

we currently own several appartment buildings and shopping centers which are covering the massive fees of taking care of someone that is in a comma

since i was 8 i was helping my dad do all the repairs on our appartment buildings. i even helped him reroof our old house which we sold to pay off our current house and invest in an office building and another shopping center. its a good thing we did that, otherwise we would have lost the house we live in when my dad went into the comma.

btw, we purchased the house we live in 14 years ago at $260k. its now worth over $600k, and its paid off.

my mom also has a HS degree and some college.

she recently took up real estate again, she stopped when my dad first got in the comma.

she was making 30-40k a year, but since May, she hasnt made much of anything.

as of now i do little computer repair jobs to earn my spending money. i maintain the home and the cars and still make repairs at the appartments, which i do to have my mom pay for my WRX. last month i did over $1k in repairs to one appartment alone.

im also in college, studying to be a mechanical engineer. as soon as i am done with that i will support my mom and put my sister through college.

so for now, i technically dont bring money in, but i do my best to make sure as little goes out as possible.

summary- parents worked their asses off so that my sister and i could have a good life and get college educations to in turn, support them when they need it. sadly, my parents will need the support sooner than planned.

[Bigmeanbulldog55]

My parents are loaded. They make around $180,000 a year together. You'd never know it to look at us. We live like poor people and we drive crappy cars. Mines the best of all ours and we bought it for $5000. I hate that my parents have money but they don't give me or my brother any and we have to live in a ****ty house. If we were poor it would be okay, because there would be a reason why we can't have anything.

By the way, when I say we bought my car. I mean I paid $3000, my grandparents paid $1000, and my parents paid $1000.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

my mom doesnt work and my dad is a salesman - they get buy! but when no ones getting in car accidents then times get hard!


i consider them successes cuz they have raised my brother and i very well!! u cant consider success by how much someone makes! and my parents give up everything for my brother and i! i think my mom went about 10 years without new clothes so that my bro and i could have things. Im so lucky to have parents like them - i can only hope that i will be like them when i have kids! my mom has MS so she is very sick and her immune system is very weak but she comes off so strong!!++



but down the line when my grandpa bites the dust - my brother and i will each have a house! so atleast we dont have to worry about buying our first houses cuz they will be handed to us! so in the end my parents have played their cards right!

This post has been edited by BlackCelicaGT94: Dec 15, 2004 - 1:01 PM

[coustoe]

My parents are loaded.  They make around $180,000 a year together.  You'd never know it to look at us.  We live like poor people and we drive crappy cars.  Mines the best of all ours and we bought it for $5000.  I hate that my parents have money but they don't give me or my brother any and we have to live in a ****ty house.  If we were poor it would be okay, because there would be a reason why we can't have anything. 

By the way, when I say we bought my car.  I mean I paid $3000, my grandparents paid $1000, and my parents paid $1000.
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i dont see anything wrong with the way your parents live, actually I kinda hate some of my brothers and sisters because they always ask my dad for money, always saying hes rich, it pissed me off when my sister would bring people over to our house to brag about our material possessions when i was in HS. I remember my dad was always frugal, he didnt get Highspeed internet until recently, when his his annual income is something like 7times what i make.

I still drive my celica, and Could I buy something more expenses, hell ya, but I hate pretensious people. Thus I would never buy a Mercedes or some stupid luxery car.

In fact I only drive my celica on the weekends on when im picking up a girl, other than that I just drive my 2002 Hyundai Sonata to work and around town

This post has been edited by coustoe: Dec 15, 2004 - 9:37 PM

[Bigmeanbulldog55]

Yeah, I completely understand not just throwing money around. But in the winter we have to keep the house at like 65degrees, and in the summer we can't use the airconditioner. I don't ask for money, just about everything I have I eared. I just hate going home now (I'm away at college), because it's cold and run down. There's no point in letting things run down and not using heat and never buying anything to injoy yourself if you have the money. If you work for it and you earn it, why cant you injoy it? Don't get me wrong, but I thought that was the whole point in making money.

[coustoe]

Yeah, I completely understand not just throwing money around.  But in the winter we have to keep the house at like 65degrees, and in the summer we can't use the airconditioner.  I don't ask for money, just about everything I have I eared.  I just hate going home now (I'm away at college), because it's cold and run down.  There's no point in letting things run down and not using heat and never buying anything to injoy yourself if you have the money.  If you work for it and you earn it, why cant you injoy it?  Don't get me wrong, but I thought that was the whole point in making money.
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haha, ya I remember always being cold in the winters at home, I never saw the point but we would always stock up on fire wood for the winter and thats how we would heat our house, I remember going out in 4 feet of snow to get firewood then huddling around the fireplace. My dad was weird like that, would skimp on the most stupid things, but I always remember our house being nice, I think he just thought the money could be spent on better things like family vacations around the states and to different countries.

oh yea, the college dorms arent that great, your home gotta be more comfy then the dorms.

This post has been edited by coustoe: Dec 15, 2004 - 9:39 PM

[Bigmeanbulldog55]

We hardly ever go on vaction either, last time was when I was 13. I'm 20 now. We burn firewood too. Most every one I know around were I live does. A bunch a country folk I guess. My girlfriend says I look like an old redneck, the way I dress an act. I'm just saying that it sucks to have money and never get to spend it.

[Kwanza26]

My dad's a social worker and my mom's a homemaker... we're surviving.  My brothers and I help pay bills... then again... Asian families are very different from your typical 'white' family (sorry for not being politically correct).  I know Vangsta will know what I mean... ;]
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What the hell? You're asian? Why is your handle Kwanza? lol
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Yep... naturalized Asian American. The name "Kwanza" goes all the way back to my grade-school days. A good majority of people who know me simply know me by 'Kwanza' or 'Kwanz'. It has little to do with the holiday... ;]

[Clipsetuner]

Mom Teacher/Secuirty guard (runs own business)
Dad Acholiic .....

Mom works day and night pretty much non stop. helps me with my own place, and she lives with her B/F.

Ive pretty much had about the ****tyest life up to this point and happiness still eludes me but hey its better then giving up. I'd my mom all the props in the world for doing everything she has ever done, even if I didnt think it was enough at those times.

DTE

[Sev408]

dad racks 150k a year but we live paycheck to paycheck. we have a great house and live fine but my mom hates the fact that my father refuses to budget.

anyway anything over 75k is considered rich nowadays cause average income is like 45k in the US i believe.