Hes just not that into you if..., Please confirm boys Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

1 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Asking You Out

2 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Calling You

3 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Dating You

4 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Having Sex with You

5 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Having Sex with Someone Else

6 He's Just Not That Into You If He Only Wants to See You When He's Drunk

7 He's Just Not That Into You If He Doesn't Want to Marry You

8 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Breaking Up with You

9 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Disappeared on You

10 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Married (and Other Insane Variations of Being Unavailable)

11 He's Just Not That Into You If He's a Selfish Jerk, a Bully, or a Really Big Freak

[Drocay]

#7 isn't somthing any guy thinks about at least for a while.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

^ agreed.. but if ur with him for like 4 years and he hasnt even thought about asking her to marry him and ur in ur twenties or something

[Drocay]

yea after 4 years if u don't know somone its time to move on.

[ILuvMyCelica95]

Idk, maybe its just me but I can never tell if a guy is interested. It needs to be really obvious.

[coustoe]

I wouldn't agree with all of those, love takes time, physical attraction or infatuation are instant

[BlackCelicaGT94]

I always know pretty well if a guys into me..cuz its just about every guy! hahaha im so playing!

i am starting to get better at knowing if he likes me or if he "likes" me!

[Consynx]

#4 is different

not everyone has sex then gets to know the other person more...

[coustoe]

#4 is different

not everyone has sex then gets to know the other person more...
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true, but it seems like everyone expects it after the 3-5 date these days.

[Terzin1]

what kind of thread is this? oh well, i was going to add something but i really just dont care.... sorry

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Do you even have to ask what kind of thread this is


Its another useless topic brought to you by NATALIE


:-)

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Oh those are chapters from a book by the way!

I have those listed on a business card in my wallet just so in case i like a guy i can take a look at those things and end up saying F HIM

[latinomasfino]

girls are hard to read too LOL they might flirt wiht u or seems like they like u when in fact they dont we live in a ver confused society

[juBz86]

i agree with latino!

[playr158]

haha thats cause you suck with girls latino and girls you will stay hahahah


no i can read a woman like a book
i know if she's interested i know if she's not
and i'll drop her a clue or to to let her know but past that you gotta play the game to see if the interest holds and as stated above you don't gotta have sex with them to mean your interested in them
interest can be simple fone calls throughout the day
or random text messages.....showing up at the other person's job for lunch or random stuff like that

but marraige takes time and how much or little time depends

so besides the sex ones, and married ones

i agree with most of them

[erics1one]

I think you first need to acknowledge eachothers intentions.

Finding a guys intentions is pretty easy, its normally quite obvious if we're going for just sex, or if we're looking for something more like a relationship.

Males typically show their pattern and intentions within a few days/hours/minutes.

Females will tend to show interest (and flirt) if they like what they see, but will hardly ever reveal thier intentions for a couple days (so they can see how you respond). Even if a girl is truly looking for a relationship, she isn't going to go around letting every guy know, it always starts with playing hard to get.

...player knows whats up...

[playr158]

"...player knows whats up... "

thank you eric

[saleeka]

lol, from what ive heard from you Nat, guys arent interested in you unless they ARE a number 11

[dustin15brown]

I agree with Playr for once in a long while. he said it pretty good

[BlackCelicaGT94]

haha thats cause you suck with girls latino and girls you will stay hahahah


no i can read a woman like a book
i know if she's interested i know if she's not
and i'll drop her a clue or to to let her know but past that you gotta play the game to see if the interest holds and as stated above you don't gotta have sex with them to mean your interested in them
interest can be simple fone calls throughout the day
or random text messages.....showing up at the other person's job for lunch or random stuff like that

but marraige takes time and how much or little time depends

so besides the sex ones, and married ones

i agree with most of them
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aww is that why you randomly text message me thru out the day? :-P ur so sweet! :-P

[Digndoug]

Player your a TOOL...

Those are all just stupid. Theres no clear direction or thing to do ro say when yuor atracted or liek someone, Thats why people lead people on, or say the wrong thing, or dont get it.

[erics1one]

Well sure its difficult to determine exactly what a girl is thinking and what their plans are, but the pattern that all females take is generally in the same direction.

All you need to do is recognize that person pattern (or style) and play your cards accordingly.

If you have experience with that type of person, and learn from it...there is always a clear direction of what to say or do. Some people just don't make the connection, and those people go home alone.

It usually boils down to:

Aggressive or Passive
and
asking Open, and Closed Ended questions

[playr158]

ha i'm no tool you fool

[dustin15brown]

aww Daniel how come you don't text me randomly throughout the day ne more lol

[jojobombiest]

haha if you didn't know #5 then thats just sad...

[latinomasfino]

haha dan dan dan llol u think u knwo women lol

movie EVERY guy shoudl watch mel gibson "what women want" WUT I COULD DO IF THAT HAPPEN TO ME OHHH GOOOOOOOOOOOD

[creis]

yep..... howeer (I bed the things that go thru grils heads are better left out of mine)

I think girls have it much easyer then guys in that catigory, where easy to read for the most part, if we wana hang out with you we like you. if not then its a no.


for me its like, if I "like" a girl, I'll wana hang out a lot, and talk a lot maybe not so much "date" like things but just hanging out and having fun, it kinda takes me a wile to decide if I really like someone but if so I would wana go on more "unofficial dates" because real dates, like dinner in a nice resturount are nurve racking, and not really "fun." doing things that are fun makes it easy for both people to to be themselfs so if there is a connection, then it makes going out on real dates really easy later on (because you know how to ack around them)

then again I'm old fashion and dont try to get laid. on a serious note, personaly I dont like the idea of 3-5 dates makes it an exspectation. I think that it should come on its own, so if that means it takes months worth of dating before you hit the sack then thats what it means, the longer you put if off the more shure your gana be.

[ILuvMyCelica95]

then again I'm old fashion and dont try to get laid. on a serious note, personaly I dont like the idea of 3-5 dates makes it an exspectation. I think that it should come on its own, so if that means it takes months worth of dating before you hit the sack then thats what it means, the longer you put if off the more shure your gana be.
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^ there needs to be more guys like you.

This post has been edited by ILuvMyCelica95: Apr 28, 2005 - 8:50 AM

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Ha i came home yesterday and my parents handed me the book and said Read this and take notes


So i took it to the gym and read it while doing some cardio and showed it to my trainer...he was upset cuz now his game is ruined by the guy who wrote this book. Then he showed it to his friend trainer and he said it should be called "HEY DUMBASS"

hha

[dustin15brown]

aww... poor guy

[coustoe]

so, what is the typical timeframe before a girl will have sex with you? is there a rule?

I only mention the 3-5 dates as a minimum, because most girls dont want to be seen as easy, but at the same time, if your on your 3-5th date then theres something there, I think most girls just expect they have to put out to keep things going or the guy might lose interest.

Also, having sex is like saying youre exclusive with that one person, so you just can't call them a friend and keep on looking/dating around.


someone correct me if im wrong.

This post has been edited by coustoe: Apr 29, 2005 - 4:20 PM

[BlackCelicaGT94]

i think 3-5 dates is safe to assume

[dustin15brown]

ehh or u could just not have sex until ur married.....

[ILuvMyCelica95]

so, what is the typical timeframe before a girl will have sex with you?  is there a rule?

I only mention the 3-5 dates as a minimum, because most girls dont want to be seen as easy, but at the same time, if your on your 3-5th date then theres something there,  I think most girls just expect they have to put out to keep things going or the guy might lose interest.

Also, having sex is like saying youre exclusive with that one person, so you just can't call them a friend and keep on looking/dating around.


someone correct me if im wrong.
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3-5 Dates?!!?! I was going with months...Idk i think if you want it to be a serious thing there is no rush.

If its some drunk one night stand then yeah its different, but if your dating...eh. Maybe this is just me....

If I need to have sex with a guy to keep him interested hes not worth my time.

[dustin15brown]

Good Job Tina

[saleeka]

I, for one, will test drive before I sign on the dotted line

[Mike]

ALL OF THE ABOVE!

[playr158]

lol

a test drive is one thing
signing the dotted line another

but dude you don't test drive the 1st time out there
you gotta do sum research..

but yea that book does destroy sum game
but if your a true player of the game
you adapt you learn new tactics and you keep it goin

[dustin15brown]

^ IS THE SINGLE REASON DANIEL SITS THERE SINGLE AS OF RIGHT NOW!!He never learned to adapt..... Mayb you should READ that book for help

[creis]

what book, did i miss something?

If I need to have sex with a guy to keep him interested hes not worth my time.

yep.... If you "have to" at all, then its not a real relationship, it should be a unanumus (sp) desition where both "want to".

ehh or u could just not have sex until ur married.....

I think waiting till marrage is not a bad idea, if I love someone enough to wana spend my life with them, who cares about sex, besides even if one or both suck at it, we would have plenty of time to teach each other what works best and waiting till marrage does not mean you cant rev it up and look under the hood from time to time.