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[Celica_Fan]

I call this chick everynight and I am speaking to her next minute I run outta things to say I kinda like her a bit I'm really shy and it's pissing me off tonight I had to go coz I forgot what I was going to tell her she gives me one sentence after I ask her what she likes and I want to be able to make a descent conversation any tips this is really making me mad. and I made myself look like a dick and tonight she isn't on msn.

This post has been edited by Celica_Fan: Dec 16, 2005 - 1:31 AM

[forkee]

whoa man, slow down. ur thinking too much. just spend the time listening to her and figuring out what shes into from what she says and just take it from there. bring up some stuff u like. if shes into the same stuff then talk about it. but if she just says "oh..thats..cool....." that doesnt mean shes into it, lol. just dont think about it too much

[Celica_Fan]

Am I now screwed I don't know what the hell is wrong with me I can chat to chicks on msn but that one I can't she doesn't like celicas only likes gts skylines and I embarrassed myself tonight when I forgot what to say. I am really pissed off.

This post has been edited by Celica_Fan: Dec 16, 2005 - 1:50 AM

[Tech9ine]

ask questions, get her talking. Have you seen this and that movie? what did you do last week? what are your plans for the weekend? wanna see my ball bag? that sort of thing. then touch on that, for instance, (she says, last thing i saw on tv was chapelles show, you say "WHAT!~?", and so on and so on.

girls love to laugh, so being funny helps. Just dont overdo it.

how old are you by the way?

This post has been edited by Tech9ine: Dec 16, 2005 - 1:34 PM

[Celica_Fan]

She mocks celicas which pisses me off says they look ugly well they look and go a hell of a lot better and are faster than a gts skyline which are even more common than celis in nz I like 4 cylinder cars and not 6 cylinders. I'm 19.

This post has been edited by Celica_Fan: Dec 16, 2005 - 2:48 PM

[acenova]

Alright, first off man, you need to relax, and start breathing! Second off, talking online and on the phone are two completely different concepts. Online you don't have the akward silences, and thats the first hump to surpass!
Now look, what I've found to help me relax when talking is to just tell myself "F*it. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out, and it just wasn't meant to be." You care too much about the impression you're making on this girl which inhibits you from your natural flow of speach that you have around your friends, where there, you may be a chatter box. The only impression you need to make on this girl, is to show her your true self, and if she doesn't like it, the **** her, she wasn't deserving in the first place, then you move on.
As soon as you can tell yourself that, and believe that to be a fact in your mind, you'll be able to speak your mind. You'll be able to say anything that comes to mind, you just have to relax when you're on the phone and not build it up to be such a big deal, because right now it seems as though this is a HUGE deal, and its REALLY not! Just one fish in an ocean full of boobs...I mean girls! Regardless man just calm yourself down and say what comes to mind and if she has one sentence answers, then even use that as a topic of conversation! Just give her **** a little, a little bit of a hard time. If you can clown on her in a purely joking manner without over doing it, that will relax her a little bit to. Bring up BS conversations and tell her she should learn to BS, which is basically talking about empty topics that keep the mouth moving, but no one's really listening!
Trust me man, if you can relax yourself, everything tends to sail smoothly from there.

[amysmojo]

just ask her about herself....people love to talk about themselves if u get nervous & forget what to say then write some stuff down to talk about BEFORE you call her so you have something to keep you on track & not saying "uuuuuh uhhhh hmmmm" the whole time

how old are you?? you sound so young! If you were 21+ i'd suggest meeting up for a drink to loosen things up a bit so your not thinking about 20 million things at the same time & freaking out & making topics like this

[bloodrain]

one thing I have learned, is NOT to call every night, as much as you want to DO NOT. The more 'dull' moments you have, the less she will probably like you. So call her maybe 2-3 times a week, and 1 of those times ask her out for the weekend, make plans for friday and saturday. DO NOT MAKE PLANS FOR SUNDAY. Sundays are generally a dull day. So on friday night, take her 2 dinner and the movies, well, movies and then dinner, and then at the end of the night ask her if she wants to do something tomarrow night OR next weekend.

[Celica_Fan]

So I better not call her tonight and say sorry about the way that I acted than?

[Tech9ine]

damnit NO!, of course not, dont apologize, you didnt do anything wrong.

[amysmojo]

yeah dont tell her ur sorry for anything! just let her call u or somethin....

...does she have a myspace page??

[Celica_Fan]

I have spoken to her on msn it's all good now I think she got jealous when I said I was going with another girl I know to see king kong though. Well she did ask if I had seen any good movies.

[bloodrain]

if she has a myspace page, tell her you never want to see her again. Especially if shes attractive b/c then ur gonna have her 'friends' getting her # and stuff and it WILL cause problems. Unless you dont mind ur girl giving her # out, but thats another story. Anyways, do NOT call her, if she calls u then its cool to talk, but dont stay on the phone for hours on end b/c then ur friendship gets really dull, fast. So just remember, if shes the one for you, and you take things slow, then you will have the rest of your life to tell her everything you ever wanted to say. If shes not the one for you, then think of it as you didnt waste your breath on that BIAAAAATTCCCHHH. lol. But what I suggest you do is call her tuesday around 11am (depending on what she does for a living) and ask her if she wants to get some lunch, talk for a little while, drop her off or w/e. then DONT CALL until thursday afternoon, and then ask the oh so obvious question "so what are you doing friday night?" If she says she has no plans really, then thats what I like to call an "ASK ME OUT YOU F*CKING RETARD" dating signal. Oh and on the lunch make sure you bring her some flowers, if you live by a major highway there are always some bastards selling nice flowers for really cheap. Like for my last GF I bought her 3 dozen roses (for no reason) for only $11 and I guess she really liked em cuz the sex that night was amazing, lol. Anywho, after a few dates ask her if she wants to hang out with you and your friends and go do something that night, especially where you can be yourself. Girls like guys who are confident, they want someone to hold them by the hand and be fearless and show them where to go in life. After a few dates and a few nights with her and your friends, see if she wants 2 bring some of her friends along when u guys go and hang out, your friends will love you for it and if her friends start talking good about u 2 her, then your golden. The last thing u want is 2 piss off her friends b/c then all they do is talk **** behind your back and it more or less ****s up your relationship. And then lastly after hanging out for 6 or 7 weeks, when your pretty sure you know her, ask her out. Most guys after highschool think its retarded to ask it, but trust me, they love it Oh, and while you are on one of your dates, if you even think for 1 second that its the right time to kiss her, then go for it. Because if you dont, they know. I dont know f*cking how, but they do, and they will put a really bad thought in the back of your mind, kinda like voodoo. Anywho, thats all my advice for now, holla atcha boy and let me know how things went.

[Cutrara]

if she has a myspace page, tell her you never want to see her again. Especially if shes attractive b/c then ur gonna have her 'friends' getting her # and stuff and it WILL cause problems. Unless you dont mind ur girl giving her # out, but thats another story. Anyways, do NOT call her, if she calls u then its cool to talk, but dont stay on the phone for hours on end b/c then ur friendship gets really dull, fast. So just remember, if shes the one for you, and you take things slow, then you will have the rest of your life to tell her everything you ever wanted to say. If shes not the one for you, then think of it as you didnt waste your breath on that BIAAAAATTCCCHHH. lol. But what I suggest you do is call her tuesday around 11am (depending on what she does for a living) and ask her if she wants to get some lunch, talk for a little while, drop her off or w/e. then DONT CALL until thursday afternoon, and then ask the oh so obvious question "so what are you doing friday night?" If she says she has no plans really, then thats what I like to call an "ASK ME OUT YOU F*CKING RETARD" dating signal. Oh and on the lunch make sure you bring her some flowers, if you live by a major highway there are always some bastards selling nice flowers for really cheap. Like for my last GF I bought her 3 dozen roses (for no reason) for only $11 and I guess she really liked em cuz the sex that night was amazing, lol. Anywho, after a few dates ask her if she wants to hang out with you and your friends and go do something that night, especially where you can be yourself. Girls like guys who are confident, they want someone to hold them by the hand and be fearless and show them where to go in life. After a few dates and a few nights with her and your friends, see if she wants 2 bring some of her friends along when u guys go and hang out, your friends will love you for it and if her friends start talking good about u 2 her, then your golden. The last thing u want is 2 piss off her friends b/c then all they do is talk **** behind your back and it more or less ****s up your relationship. And then lastly after hanging out for 6 or 7 weeks, when your pretty sure you know her, ask her out. Most guys after highschool think its retarded to ask it, but trust me, they love it Oh, and while you are on one of your dates, if you even think for 1 second that its the right time to kiss her, then go for it. Because if you dont, they know. I dont know f*cking how, but they do, and they will put a really bad thought in the back of your mind, kinda like voodoo. Anywho, thats all my advice for now, holla atcha boy and let me know how things went.

Ladies and gentlemen, the pimp has spoken. lol

I think it's been said before in this topic, but talk about her all the time, and relate your past experiences to it. Ask lots of questions. Personally, I hate talk to ANYBODY on the phone. I think it requires too much devotion, I'd rather talk to someone in person so I can see them, or over IM so I can be on 6gc.net.

[Celica_Fan]

I would rather meet someone I want to meet her but I have only known her for 6 weeks and she keeps going on about her skyline which is automatic Non turbo rear wheel drive why anyone would want to buy a rear wheel drive, N/A, Automatic skyline confuses me.

[zachattack15]

you got a different girl problem every week lol. A girls opinion of a car is no reason to get bent out of shape. My girlfriend personally doesnt like my MR2 but I definately dont let it get to me. I just use my tahoe when im with her. haha

[Celica_Fan]

Automatic skylines suck we have heaps of them in nz we don't have many manuals around.

[Celica_Fan]

what is myspace exactly?

[bloodrain]

myspace is a sh*tty web site that people put pictures of themselves and make new friends. People have to 'request' to be your friend. Its retarded, dont go to the dark side.

[Celica_Fan]

what a f***ed up site almost sounds as bad as the some of the crappy car clubs we have over here in nz where you have to be accepted. I will tell her I don't want to speak to her again if she is on myspace.

This post has been edited by Celica_Fan: Dec 18, 2005 - 9:20 PM

[bloodrain]

what a f***ed up site almost sounds as bad as the some of the crappy car clubs we have over here in nz where you have to be accepted. I will tell her I don't want to speak to her again if she is on myspace.

lol nice. Im kinda just kidding about the myspace ****, I hate it to death but thats no reason to leave a girl, but if you think there is suspicious activity, thats usaully the first place they get caught. Thats how I found out what my ex was hangin out with her friend and like 8 guys every friday night, so much for a girls night out huh? Either way for me I will never date a girl that goes on it. Oh btw, did she call u at all today?

[Celica_Fan]

She is at work she is kinda shy she has a really quiet voice so thats why I call her. Damn it she is hard to hear sometimes

This post has been edited by Celica_Fan: Dec 18, 2005 - 9:30 PM

[Celica_Fan]

Well I spoke to her last night we spoke for an hour we had plenty to talk about we spoke about cars and movies and music she is a lovely person she is even going down to the Auckland city mission to help out the homeless people on xmas eve. I don't want to rush into anything because she has had her feelings hurt by guys before and she needs to gain her trust back. Btw Bloodrain she isn't on myspace. I am on something called Hi5 and it's like myspace and it sucks people have to request to be your friend etc I don't go on it at all. She teases me playfully sometimes

This post has been edited by Celica_Fan: Dec 19, 2005 - 4:14 PM

[bloodrain]

ok since she doesnt have myspace shes a keeper, lol. But I loath entirely all myspace and myspace wannabe sites. Anywho, like I said, be yourself, be calm and confident. And dont call way to much, if u wanna call a few times a week go ahead, just dont call every 10 mins and listen 2 each other breath.

[Celica_Fan]

just dont call every 10 mins and listen 2 each other breath.

Lol hahahaha. She is a very nice person and she said she goes to the gym. Yeah high5 sucks you have to choose accept or reject a person to be your friend very sad I think and very unacceptable. Does anyone on here like the myspace, high5 crap?

[Cutrara]

The Skyline thing is like a V6 Auto Mustang. Middle aged ladies buy them thinking, "Hey awesome, I'll look younger if I drive a Mustang!" While I'm on the subject, when I ask girls who don't know much about cars which is their favorite, they always say Mustang Convertible. I went out with a girl who thought 2005 Mustangs were ugly. Needless to say, the relationship didn't last long.

[Celica_Fan]

No offence to her coz I like her alot we tease each other all the time not meanly though. Her skyline won't even beat a celica let alone my mirage her car has 130 hp and is a sohc lol it also weighs 1360 kg's.

[Celica_Fan]

I'm going to call her tonight and we have the best conversations now. She is a brunette and is taller than me she said lol. Shes quite pretty as well

[amysmojo]

what is myspace exactly?

I <3 MYSPACE! Its is addicting like ebay! Lol dont listen to bloodrain...you can customize ur page & make it all kick ass....& a bunch of us celica people are on there....its a great way to "mingle" with ur friends while ur at work when u should be doing other things haha. u can post pics & friends can comment on them & u can comment on theirs...etc...just doooo it! theres also groups u can join...like car groups (I think we have a few 6gc groups on there too)

ANYWAY Here is my page, go there....sign up & add me onto ur buddy list :

http://www.myspace.com/amysmojo

[Celica_Fan]

Hey Bloodrain you were right those sites are total crap.

This post has been edited by Celica_Fan: Dec 21, 2005 - 1:46 AM

[Celica_Fan]

There is a chick at a supermarket that likes me she is slim and she always looks at me everytime I go grocery shopping I don't want to wait for a chick to be ready to date I want one that is ready. I might give her my number. Not being vain or anything but heaps of girls like me lol.

[amysmojo]

Hey Bloodrain you were right those sites are total crap.

[Celica_Fan]

I was talking on the phone to her and she flirts with me and teases me playfully she always wants me to chat to her on msn and she calls me sometimes. I think she likes me. I'm not to sure what to do about that chick at the supermarket as I look at her too and she looks at me.

[Celica_Fan]

I'm so pissed off she has really annoyed me she went on holiday and she is making up some BS that she met a guy I ask her what his name is she says I don't know and says not telling you who I like she is making it up to make me jealous and it is hurtful I couldn't hardly sleep last night I think it's coz I told her that girl from the supermarket looks at me and she got jealous she seems to tease me she says she is not slim and that chick from the supermarket has a perfect figure I don't like the supermarket chick coz she seems a bit sl*tty. What should I do I am thinking about not calling her or chatting to her for a few days will this help. She told me she isn't looking for anyone yet as she needs to be alone first she is really jealous and it's hurting my feelings I'm mad and oh yeah she does have myspace she even added me to it. She also made up some BS to me about moving away at the end of the year and I know she won't.

This post has been edited by Celica_Fan: Jan 4, 2006 - 8:08 PM

[ILuvMyCelica95]

oh my goodness this is so childish.

[Celica_Fan]

Your right Tina I know she is. She told me she wasn't looking for a relationship yet with anyone on the 24/12 and she got really angry when she saw her ex fiance last week when he was staying at the same holiday park.

[ILuvMyCelica95]

let it go.