in all seriousness..., i dont know what to do. Options

[Sh0gunkid8721]

I think my mom has the beginning stages of alcoholism and i dont know what to do. My mom has drunk and driven many times and then passed out on the living room floor of where we live. Ive yelled at her many many times and honestly ive come to the point of wanting to punch her. I live without a father and i have lived without a father for over 11 yrs now so its not like i can turn to him and i am the only child here. I dont have a brother or sister to turn to and i just dont know what to do. My mom and i made a promise that she would only drink one drink a nite and if she couldnt do it, then i was not responsible for my own actions towards her and im on the verge of beating the **** out of her. LITERALLY. Ive had it. She broke the promise TWICE in a week and cant even control that.

Does anybody have this problem running in their family? And please dont give me that obvious bring her to AA meetings cuz u know that it wont work unless she's willing to go.

[Supersprynt]

Might need to get family members together and sit her down and make her realize.

[bloodrain]

rehab? its never too early, better start it now than when its way too late.

[snapshotgt]

This is serious. You need to find help outside of you. You need to find professional help quick.

Also, whatever you do, do not result to violence.

~snap

[devilsden97]

violence and hate only breed violence and hate

[Silver94CelicaOw...]

Dude I had no idea....a good friend of mine suffered from alcoholism about 10 years ago when he was in college, and then quickly resorted to popping pills and then just a few years ago started serious drugs like heroin, cocaine, extacy, etc....

Its been a problem for him being on and off drugs and its really hard at times. You can obviously tell when somebody is doped up, and its VERY easy to get frustrated and want to be violent, I understand where you're coming from.

Best thing you can do really, is BEFORE it becomes a serious problem get you and your family members together or whoever she's closest to and tell her that she needs to take your advice and get on the right track because you love her and only want the best. The less confrontational the better, just make sure that she understands that the ones she's closest to are concerned for her well-being, and want to help her kick the habit.


I hate to see anything become worse, I've seen what can happen when it gets out of control and its not pretty. Do it now.

[DomGT]

Hitting her you should never do. IMO, you need a third party, and that third party should be a professional. Talk to your mom, her health benefits may include a few FREE therapy/psychologist/psychiatrist appointments per year. Don't take your time here, get it done and you'll get her the help she needs.

[snapshotgt]

Hitting her you should never do. IMO, you need a third party, and that third party should be a professional. Talk to your mom, her health benefits may include a few FREE therapy/psychologist/psychiatrist appointments per year. Don't take your time here, get it done and you'll get her the help she needs.

x2

[saleeka]

My mom has been a hardcore alcoholic since I've been in grade school. These arent the words you want to hear, but honestly, until she admits to having a problem and she wants to make the change, there is nothing you can do... My family forced my mom into rehab twice, and it was a waste of time and money because she never saw herself has having a problem. The first time was outpatient, the second, thanks to a failed suiside attempt, was inpatient. The longest i have seen my mom not drink was after inpatient rehab, and it only lasted 5 months... Approximately 1 out of 10 alcoholics are lucky enough to get treatment and never relapse, leaving the other 9 to continue their life either as is, or to have continued relapeses... Honestly, you should think about getting counseling to tame the anger you have inside, because that will create more problems than her alcoholisim will. I had the great fortune to come home one night to find all of my belonings either thrown around our yard, or destroyed in my room when i still lived with my parents. She did this because I was disrespectful to her because I was fed up with dealing with her drunk 6 days of the week. Long story short, I assaulted her. I then went to Jail for the weeked and had to pay way more money than I ever imagined to make sure it diddent ruin the rest of my life... there are support groups for family living with alcoholics, and although I never came around to liking them, It may work for you. hang in as best you can and just avoid her at all costs. You getting mad hasnt worked yet, and it most likely wont in the future... I hope everything works out in the long run bro-

Chris

This post has been edited by saleeka: Jun 15, 2006 - 6:57 PM

[JonMarkos]

You can't make your mom get help for Alcoholism if she doesn't want it. But you can still try to help yourself, find a local Al-Anon meeting in your area and go talk to them, they will be able to help you out more than you though.


Here is a site that lists al-anon in the new jersey area http://alcoholism.about.com/od/meetala/a/alanon_nj.htm

This post has been edited by JonMarkos: Jun 15, 2006 - 7:20 PM

[soulshadow]

These are tough times, she is probbaly going through one. Most likely $$ issues. Perhaps you should ask her what is wrong, what you can do and if so make her take some time off from reality.