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[bloodrain]

Read this thread before asking a question, it will answer most of your basic questions.

I almost forgot. THE ABSOLUTE MOST IMPORTANT THING ABOUT APPROACHING WOMEN IS BODY LANGUAGE. The best advice I can give you is just stay calm, slow your words down more than normal and give her time to answer your questions. Also dont fidgit with things, thats a big no-no.


lol well guys, I have actually recieved a few PM's from people (names will be hidden unless they want to be revieled) And I decided to start my own thread. If you have any questions on dating, love or attracting the opposite sex, feel free to PM or write a question in this thread and I will give you advice on what I have learned. And keep in mind, its ADVICE. Anywho you can find some older advice in this thread

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 19, 2006 - 10:06 AM

[Celiracer18]

So yeah.... theres this girl.... and she loves my car....more tahn me probly. How can i stop her from stealing it? lol..............It's true

[celicaGT96]

ok this is something that has been really bothering me lateley and I dont know what to do.
Theres this girl that moved down over here not too long ago and when she moved down here I met her beacuse a friend introduced us. Right away we connected and I was one of the very few people she talked to over here and still am. We have since then been talking online and I see her every so often with my other friend. I really like her alot and I cant stop thinking about her. Theres only one BIG problem and thats that she has a bf already...

I totally respect that and all but its hard to just talk to her all normal like nothings there. What Im asking is, would it be wrong of me to just let her know how I feel??

I do know that she fights alot with her bf but I dont get into her buisness so I just ignore the topic.

[ExSane]

You can tell her how you feel. It's ok. But just make sure and let her know that your friendship is open, not your heart. Your heart can wait till she is single but your friendship can last forever.

[celicaST]

the link where you gave that advice is golden, should be a sticky for every guy to read. all too often i see guys making mistakes being too nice, too available, etc. from what you wrote in other thread i can tell that you know your stuff everybody asking for advice, listen to this guy.

[IdiotStick]

So, could you give us examples of being too nice/avail? And examples of where we should stay, in terms of the 'nice/avail scale'? I'm one of them guys who just throws himself out there and I can't seem to fathom how to be in the middle of either "all out" and "not there at all".

[6th_celi_vert]

so ive got this rash...o, misunderstood the thread...



sorry. : ) lol

[chucho]

So yeah.... theres this girl.... and she loves my car....more tahn me probly. How can i stop her from stealing it? lol..............It's true

I wish I had that problem, all my ex's think i'm obessed w/ my car. And honestly I dont spend or go online nearly as much as I used to. And I really dont talk about my car like I used 2. I only really talk about cars to car guys now.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

I think youre more of a psychologist...but if ur a psychiatrist can I get some meds?


PS - a girl wants a guy thats the right amount of available and not available because i know personally I would love a guy to be there to adore me but once I have it im over it and want the chase.

This post has been edited by BlackCelicaGT94: Aug 18, 2006 - 11:05 AM

[bloodrain]

ok this is something that has been really bothering me lateley and I dont know what to do.
Theres this girl that moved down over here not too long ago and when she moved down here I met her beacuse a friend introduced us. Right away we connected and I was one of the very few people she talked to over here and still am. We have since then been talking online and I see her every so often with my other friend. I really like her alot and I cant stop thinking about her. Theres only one BIG problem and thats that she has a bf already...

I totally respect that and all but its hard to just talk to her all normal like nothings there. What Im asking is, would it be wrong of me to just let her know how I feel??

I do know that she fights alot with her bf but I dont get into her buisness so I just ignore the topic.

Ah the age old dilema. Its a simple answer, you dont tell her anything. Simple as that. What most guys dont realize is they give all the power to women. The very second you tell a girl you have feelings for her you lost all the power. The real problem is this, your deciding if your good enough for her, when in reality it should be is she good enough for you. Now think to yourself, if she has a boyfriend, and breaks up with him to be with you, what makes you think she wont do it again? If a girl EVER does that, dont ask questions, dont make excuses, just leave. History ALWAYS repeats itself. Now if you still want to be with her (and im assuming you do) all you have to do is be patient. (Refer to link at the top of the page) The first thing you have to do is NOT always be there when she wants, like I said, girls want what they cant have. And by waiting around hand and foot for her your doing exactly opposite of what you should be doing. If she is having problems with her boyfriend, dont try to interfere because more than likely it will not work out for her. Be patient, its also ok to start talking to other girls. If she has any feelings for you it will only fuel the fire. (Again, refer to my other page for DATING guidelines). If you can give me some more info on her I will be more than happy to give you more advice on what to do. But right now this statement is kinda vague because all I know is "you like her, she has a boyfriend" lol.

[bloodrain]

I think youre more of a psychologist...but if ur a psychiatrist can I get some meds?


PS - a girl wants a guy thats the right amount of available and not available because i know personally I would love a guy to be there to adore me but once I have it im over it and want the chase.

Ha, thanks for the catch ;-)

Anywho shes totally right, its all about the chase. If you know how to keep the girls guessing, your as good as gold. And thats what im here for!

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 18, 2006 - 11:19 AM

[bloodrain]

So, could you give us examples of being too nice/avail? And examples of where we should stay, in terms of the 'nice/avail scale'? I'm one of them guys who just throws himself out there and I can't seem to fathom how to be in the middle of either "all out" and "not there at all".

Ah idiotstick, you need to read my link again, lol. Read the part where I have 1-12 (i think it was) and if you still have any questions feel free to ask. Basically you have to learn to enjoy your "single life" even if you have a girl or are interested in them. Im assuming you have guy friends or other girl friends,
its OK to say "oh sorry I already have plans for thursday, how about we do something sunday." Be focused on yourself, show her you DONT NEED HER to be happy. Because as soon as she sees you trying to 'cling on' it shows a sign of weakness and insecruity, and as we discussed before, thats bad.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

So what happens when she becomes a "cling on" does a guy find that unattractive as well? much like a girl does?

[bloodrain]

So what happens when she becomes a "cling on" does a guy find that unattractive as well? much like a girl does?

The same principle still stands. While there is no denying there are different personalities, im giving general advice, so take it with a grain of salt. But for the most part, guys do not want a clingy girlfriend because they feel they lose there 'freedom'

[jgreening]

So what happens when she becomes a "cling on" does a guy find that unattractive as well? much like a girl does?

The same principle still stands. While there is no denying there are different personalities, im giving general advice, so take it with a grain of salt. But for the most part, guys do not want a clingy girlfriend because they feel they lose there 'freedom'

Except some guys that drop off the face of the earth when they get a girlfriend and their friends are like "What ever happened to him?"

I agree with what Blood is saying but think that the rules dont transfer as well to guys because guys can make up their mind better. A woman is generally always looking for something better until she hits about 32...then the panic begins to set in.

[bloodrain]

if they drop off the earth so to speak, thats the cause of a clingy guy

[Chanh55]

bloodrain

[LewFX]

i love my car more than my gf, is that normal!?

[bloodrain]

i love my car more than my gf, is that normal!?

then you obviously dont love your gf... simple enough :-p

[My2Celi]

bloodrain you so crzy I think this is really good.

The only problem i have is I spend so much on my car just to get it maintenance cause the previous owner did not care for it at all. I spend my whole paycheck just about. After getting all my maint. done i get a hit and run, broken into or one lil thing cause a whole castrophe. I feel like giving up on it. But i dont want to let it go. I'm in love with the car, I adore it so much and its so bad that its a turn off to the girls i talk to now. I was looking around for a mr2 or a rx7, but i just cant seem to let it go. I really need a reliable car right now cuz my job is a 45min drive and i car pool with a guy that listens to gothic death metal @ 6am in the morning. gd. i rather drive myself but i only got 4 gears to work with and i dont wana blow my motor up driving 5k rpm. So iono. What would YOU do? Maybe i should post a couple of pix of whats bad of it.

This post has been edited by My2Celi: Aug 18, 2006 - 12:43 PM

[bloodrain]

8) For your next relationship/gf, when you get her number, DO NOT call her for atleast 5 DAYS. So if you get it on a saturday call her one a thursday. But if the 5 day rule falls on a friday, saturday or sunday(IE. you get the number monday you call on saturday, right? NO only call and make plans for non-normal date days (normal date days are friday saturday)

^ ok tom lykis


NEVER approach a woman in a club who has her girlfriends with her. There is NO point, you will NOT get laid when women are in groups.

If you are not getting laid by the 3rd date, dump her and move on. (i agree with this if both sides arent really looking for a relationship)

Haha nat, first, im not tim lykis (whoever he is, lol) second, there is nothing wrong with approaching a woman in a crowd, its just VERY hard to get the number. You have to know what your doing, i've succsesfully done it 4 times, out of about 8 attempts (all different groups of course.) And about the getting laid part, if you base your relationship off sex, its not going to last. Period. If you looking for a good time, then follow that rule, if your trying to have a relationship, then dont even push for sex. And the less you push for it the better your chances are of getting it. Again, this throws girls in a loop, they always assume you want to get laid, if you can show them you dont, you've managed to retain the power. Good job ;-)

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Ya know whats hot? when ur dating a guy and ur in the moment of messing around and he wont let it go further!

[bloodrain]

Ya know whats hot? when ur dating a guy and ur in the moment of messing around and he wont let it go further!

and again, it proves my point. Girls want what they cant have. And the less you want it, the more you get it. lol

[BlackCelicaGT94]

No its more of a wow he wants this to go somewhere rather than a place to keep his friend warm and happy

[brianforster]

treat a girl like dirt and shell stick to you like mud.

[CelicaBuddy]

treat a girl like dirt and shell stick to you like mud.

^

That seems so f'd up... but it is true in some cases... Girls that do that in my opinion are stupid for putting up with a guy who's treating them like dirt...

I myself would scram if I even had the sense I was being treated like dirt... Hence my last relationship, he suddenly changed from a nice guy to a big douschebag... I left him quick, even though we were together for a year.

2 Weeks later I got another boyfriend (my current one) and I guess you could say I've never been happier... I've been with him for nearly 8 months strong now and he's my best friend. He has never treated me badly, he's respectable, he listens, he's there for me, he can cheer me up... and I do the exact same thing for him.

Unfortunately though... our relationship is going to be going through a huge test... He's going off to the military in less than a month. I really dont know whats going to happen. Time might get the best of us, I really hope it doesnt tho... I really love him and he loves me...

[bloodrain]

treat a girl like dirt and shell stick to you like mud.

first, this statement is completly false. Girls DO NOT WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE DIRT. Now your probably gonna say "i see it all the time, he treats her like ****, but she wont leave." The thing is, the girls not attracted to be treated like ass, shes attracted to the fact he is mature (more or less) and he doesnt act clingy. While hes treating her like ass he is demostrating leadership and male dominance, which girls are attracted to. Girls DO NOT want to make decisions, that is the mans job.


and celicabuddy, your situation is gonna be difficult. As I see it, you have 2 choices.

Option A: Continue the relationship
If you choose to continue it and try to have a long distance relationship, keep in mind they RARELY ever work out. You also run into 2 majors problems.
1) Human nature - While it is possible to 'hold out' until he comes back, you must realize BOTH of you are fighting human nature. Its 100% natural to have 'cravings' for the opposite sex. We love attention from the opposite sex, and being gone for extended periods of time creates thoughts that arent so 'loyal' so to speak. This comes down to how much do you trust him, and how much he trusts you. Because let me tell you, it only takes 1 time for someone to cheat and it will permanatly put thoughts in your head.

2) The military - When people go to the military, they change. He WONT be the same person when he comes back. You can ask anyone who has been in the military, Im sure they will all agree with me. Or even look at your other friends who went into the military, they changed. While he will have alot of the same characteristics of he did before, there will be things that have change, and you will notice them. Now keep in mind I never said ANYTHING about changing for the worse or for the better


Option B: End it on a good note

This would honestly be my choice. Im sure you've heard the old saying "If you love it, set it free, if it comes back, its meant to be" or some variation of that saying. Its 100% true. This will give you time to miss each other, you will be free to date and experience other things. Maybe you find someone else, maybe you realize hes who you want to ultimatly be with. The time apart is a good thing. And like I said, you ended it on a good note, there were no bitter rivlaries. If he kiss's another girl or you kiss a guy, you guys werent together anyways. And when he comes back you can decide if you want to resume where you left off.



Anywho, ultimatly its your choice, as I said before take everything I said with a grain of salt. Use your judgement on what to do. All im here for is to provide some insight on how us humans work, and share past experiences.

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 18, 2006 - 5:31 PM

[IdiotStick]

I bet you he's been reading it all and writing down notes, but just wanted to add the usuall immature remark, such as that.

I can't think of anything else to ask right now, you've pretty much summed up the basics.

[MaskedMan]

wow you are awesome, this is all very good advice.

[CelicaBuddy]

I get what your sayin Bloodrain.... I dont ever really find myself cheating. I would end it before I'd ever stoop that low.

I've thought of both choices to be honest...

K my reason's for hanging in there and continuing...

His job he's got in the Army will give him A LOT of leave time... He's going to be a Linguist (sp?). Basically he'll get every federal holiday off and then some more... Which means he's gonna be around a lot, but then again he wont.

Then also... It wont really matter that he's gone, cuz even if he was still around I wouldnt really have the time to hnag around with him. Cuz I'm gonna go to school in the winter. I'm gonna be far too busy with that, like homework, projects, studying all that bs and then plus working. i wont really have time for a boyfriend With him leaving it's kinda a bonus... Cuz now where doing what we want to get our lives all figured out, and we cant really slow each other down... In my eyes I see it as a positive thing...

There's a few other reasons... but thats basically it...

Then I thought of just ending it... cuz well I'm still very young. I dont wanna like make a mistake by waiting around for someone, when later having it end... Cuz then whats the outcome of that? I waited around for someone who was never around, then when they were around it ended and i wasted my time for nothing, when I coulda been out and about with other people ya know... finding out what type of person i really want... Thats the main reaosn why I thought about ending it.

And then yes the military does change people... but not that much. I would know My best friend left for the army after I graduated. She calls me every now and then and its as if nothing really changed. She's got the same old sense of humor, and everything. I think the only thing that's changed about her is that now she's more responsible, WAY more mature, and well serious. But she's still herself... But that's just one person from the military. I dont know what could happen to my boyfriend... But from what Ive seen with my best friend, that would be an added bonus to my boyfriend lol

Im not too worried about the military changing him... Ive hung around a lot of military people, and I love them all, they are all just so awesome... I'm actually kinda excited to see what the military will do to my boyfriend...

For now I'm gonna hang in there and see what happens... When he leaves in the middle of September, he'll be back for Christmas... 3 months basically... We'll see what 3 months can do...

It definetly sucks tho...

This post has been edited by CelicaBuddy: Aug 18, 2006 - 9:19 PM

[bloodrain]

ya you have good reasons for tryin to hang in there. And like I said about the military, just because it changes people doesnt mean its bad, it also can be for the better (and usaully is) And since your going back to school that will definatly help, because right now you need to worry about school. Knowledge is forever (until you get old, lol) boyfriends, usaully arent... when hes down, focus on the time that hes there, not about what hes been doing. When he comes back hes gonna have a few stories to tell but hes really interested in you, so try to stay away from the "what did you do, where did you go" questions. Anywho, I wish the best of luck to you guys and if you have any other questions (relationship related or not) feel free to ask :-D or PM like a few others did who didnt want there bussiness posted on the internet, you secrets are safe with me! lol

bloodrain you so crzy I think this is really good.

The only problem i have is I spend so much on my car just to get it maintenance cause the previous owner did not care for it at all. I spend my whole paycheck just about. After getting all my maint. done i get a hit and run, broken into or one lil thing cause a whole castrophe. I feel like giving up on it. But i dont want to let it go. I'm in love with the car, I adore it so much and its so bad that its a turn off to the girls i talk to now. I was looking around for a mr2 or a rx7, but i just cant seem to let it go. I really need a reliable car right now cuz my job is a 45min drive and i car pool with a guy that listens to gothic death metal @ 6am in the morning. gd. i rather drive myself but i only got 4 gears to work with and i dont wana blow my motor up driving 5k rpm. So iono. What would YOU do? Maybe i should post a couple of pix of whats bad of it.

sorry I didnt reply to ya, didnt see ur post at the bottom.

this is another pretty simple situation, even tho it doesnt involve girls (much) it involves material possession. The first thing you have to do is decide what do you really want. What makes you really happy? From your first sentence alone I said to myself was "the celica is a highly reliable car, why would you have to blow paycheck after paycheck to fix it." So what I would theoretically suggest is sell the car and buy a decent celica. How much did you buy the current celica for? How much have you dumped into it for repairs? How much would a decent celica cost? Im sure you got the celica pretty cheap, no? Well the old saying still stands "you get what you pay for."IF it was me, I would sell the celica and just buy a reliable one and save your money for something larger (house, condo, or just plain out save your money) but I do understand how you feel, its fun to have a nice car that u can work on. As far as always talking about it around girls, thats just something you have to train yourself on. If you think your going to start talking about your car to them, simply just stop yourself. Now im assuming when you talked about your celica to girls it was on a date or something? Give me an example and I could help ya out more with it. Maybe give you something to say, or just find another way to divert your attention away from the celica.

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 18, 2006 - 9:36 PM

[BlackCelicaGT94]

I get what your sayin Bloodrain.... I dont ever really find myself cheating. I would end it before I'd ever stoop that low.

I've thought of both choices to be honest...

K my reason's for hanging in there and continuing...

His job he's got in the Army will give him A LOT of leave time... He's going to be a Linguist (sp?). Basically he'll get every federal holiday off and then some more... Which means he's gonna be around a lot, but then again he wont.

Then also... It wont really matter that he's gone, cuz even if he was still around I wouldnt really have the time to hnag around with him. Cuz I'm gonna go to school in the winter. I'm gonna be far too busy with that, like homework, projects, studying all that bs and then plus working. i wont really have time for a boyfriend With him leaving it's kinda a bonus... Cuz now where doing what we want to get our lives all figured out, and we cant really slow each other down... In my eyes I see it as a positive thing...

There's a few other reasons... but thats basically it...

Then I thought of just ending it... cuz well I'm still very young. I dont wanna like make a mistake by waiting around for someone, when later having it end... Cuz then whats the outcome of that? I waited around for someone who was never around, then when they were around it ended and i wasted my time for nothing, when I coulda been out and about with other people ya know... finding out what type of person i really want... Thats the main reaosn why I thought about ending it.

And then yes the military does change people... but not that much. I would know My best friend left for the army after I graduated. She calls me every now and then and its as if nothing really changed. She's got the same old sense of humor, and everything. I think the only thing that's changed about her is that now she's more responsible, WAY more mature, and well serious. But she's still herself... But that's just one person from the military. I dont know what could happen to my boyfriend... But from what Ive seen with my best friend, that would be an added bonus to my boyfriend lol

Im not too worried about the military changing him... Ive hung around a lot of military people, and I love them all, they are all just so awesome... I'm actually kinda excited to see what the military will do to my boyfriend...

For now I'm gonna hang in there and see what happens... When he leaves in the middle of September, he'll be back for Christmas... 3 months basically... We'll see what 3 months can do...

It definetly sucks tho...

Good luck Sabrina :-) If its meant to be it will all work out.

Sabrina not to scare u cuz from what ive seen ur bf does not seem low and not to say all military personel are but...have you been on base before? Barracks are full of horny dudes and its not weird to see a few guys in line to do a military hoe (the girls that flock to a man in uniform) Ive been on base more than a handful of times and it can get nuts (i dont know from like first hand experience just from walking around and observing) <--dont want yall getting the wrong idea

This post has been edited by BlackCelicaGT94: Aug 19, 2006 - 3:16 AM

[celicurr]

this is the biggest promotion thread evAr, to make all the girls on the board think that bloodrain is a pimp LOL

[hitcachi]

its good advice and all but its just so weird............taking relationship advice from a guy that has a screen name of "Bloodrain". I've seen it all on the internet!

[IdiotStick]

its good advice and all but its just so weird............taking relationship advice from a guy that has a screen name of "Bloodrain". I've seen it all on the internet!

Maybe he doesnt use his own advice to get sex, he uses it to get them to trust him so he can RIP THE HEARTS FROM THEIR CHEST!!!

This post has been edited by IdiotStick: Aug 19, 2006 - 7:13 AM

[bloodrain]

oh I also added a paragraph to my first post in this thread, its required reading!!!

this is the biggest promotion thread evAr, to make all the girls on the board think that bloodrain is a pimp LOL

SHH your gonna ruin my plans!!! lol

its good advice and all but its just so weird............taking relationship advice from a guy that has a screen name of "Bloodrain". I've seen it all on the internet!

have you seen the girl that had sex with.... nevermind, its gonna get this thread closed... lol

its good advice and all but its just so weird............taking relationship advice from a guy that has a screen name of "Bloodrain". I've seen it all on the internet!

Maybe he doesnt use his own advice to get sex, he uses it to get them to trust him so he can RIP THE HEARTS FROM THEIR CHEST!!!

Im just getting girls back for all the times they messed with us!! lol

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 19, 2006 - 10:07 AM

[CelicaBuddy]

Good luck Sabrina :-) If its meant to be it will all work out.

Sabrina not to scare u cuz from what ive seen ur bf does not seem low and not to say all military personel are but...have you been on base before? Barracks are full of horny dudes and its not weird to see a few guys in line to do a military hoe (the girls that flock to a man in uniform) Ive been on base more than a handful of times and it can get nuts (i dont know from like first hand experience just from walking around and observing) <--dont want yall getting the wrong idea

I've been on the base lots of times, cuz I use to go there with my best friend all the time before she went off to basic training. I'd even sit down and have lunch with all the army guys... It would be funny cuz me and my best friend would be the only two people in the room not in camo, while the rest of the room (which would be completely packed full) was army guys in uniform... It was not only awkward but it was pretty funny. Whenever I'd get up to like grab something, all eyes were on me... hahaha

But I get what your saying... I can see why some guys would be like that, them not being around chicks in awhile lol.

Yeah from what I've seen of my bf for 8 months, he doesnt seem like the type to just go and do something like that. He's got that very loyal, trusting, honest personailty... He's a good guy.

I hope everything works out tho.

This post has been edited by CelicaBuddy: Aug 19, 2006 - 11:25 AM

[amysmojo]

PS - a girl wants a guy thats the right amount of available and not available because i know personally I would love a guy to be there to adore me but once I have it im over it and want the chase.

I realized that when this happens to me it means he isnt right for me anyway cause if he was I wouldnt lose interest

[amysmojo]

treat a girl like dirt and shell stick to you like mud.

Some girls actually do like to be treated like dirt. Dirt might even be too nice of a word to use...

My best friend of 6 years has been seeing this stupid guy for like 5 months...they are always together, ALWAYS. Mainly because he doesnt have a job, cause he cant keep one! He is 29 for crying out loud...OH & he still lives with his parents. *every girls dream* Anyway he farts & burps on her literally 15 - 20 times a day. This guy doesnt care who is around or where he is at he just lets it all out, then laughs about it. One time he told her to close her eyes, so she did, & when she did he dumped a beer down her head then laughed saying "I cant believe you let me do that!!!"

Anyway...I hate him, she adores him. She doesnt realize that he is ruining her friendship w/ other people...like me. She knows I hate him but "no one has ever made her happier" Although a couple months ago he stormed out of her place one day callng her a terrible mother (she has kids) & that he feels like she is just using him for sex. So she calls me (since im the best friend) & of course Im right there by her side like a best friend should be, trying to comfort her & dry her tears while telling her he is a jerk & to move on. BUT no.. a few days later he is back & she lets him right back in w/ open arms. Thats the other thing...he rarely wants to have sex & my friend cant live with out it!!

There are tons of guys she knows who would loooove to date her & treat her like a princess, she is a pretty girl!! But she wants this idiot...... I dont understand it, all I know is I want my friend back This isnt like her @ all....

This post has been edited by amysmojo: Aug 19, 2006 - 2:50 PM

[JoKeRkId613]

wow. this thread is real depressing. anyway, i would like some advice while it's still free.

im currently 19 years old. i used to be a friggin pimp in high school. now that im in college and work fulltime i find myself not having as much time as id like to dedicate to a gf. ive been working at this place for 2 years and hold a professional position and deal with fortune 500 clients all day long. i think this has grown my mentallity a lot and i find myself not enjoying the same conversations/friends that i used to back when i was in high school. i also think i lost a lot of self-esteem and confidence in myself. i try to be myself when i go out. i try to talk to girls but it's not how it used to be when i'd go out in high school because i find all girls i meet to be immature and focused on dumb ****. not to say that im focused on all the right things, but in my opinion, dumb ****. anyway, i wish i could go somewhere where they have hot chicks with dreams and goals that go to school and work or just go to school. is there such a place? ive met girls like that but they're all 30+ rich chicks but i dont believe in the whole "age aint nothin but a number" thing. i mean, i still hit the old rich chicks, but im looking for a real relationship. its been almost 2 years since my last real relationship and i kinda miss the whole relationship thing. i really dont know what to do. perhaps im approaching this the wrong way? i dunno, life is too short and i dont wanna end up alone or anything.

*sigh* im going to some strip club now to pay for some ass. jk, but its saturday night. for now, i guess i'll try to have more of an open mind and see if i find anyone interesting.

thanks.

[bloodrain]

ha jason, im goin to the mall but as soon as i get back i'll give you some advice, so check the thread around 8 or 9

[JoKeRkId613]

cool. thanks man.

[bloodrain]

wow. this thread is real depressing. anyway, i would like some advice while it's still free.

im currently 19 years old. i used to be a friggin pimp in high school. now that im in college and work fulltime i find myself not having as much time as id like to dedicate to a gf. ive been working at this place for 2 years and hold a professional position and deal with fortune 500 clients all day long. i think this has grown my mentallity a lot and i find myself not enjoying the same conversations/friends that i used to back when i was in high school. i also think i lost a lot of self-esteem and confidence in myself. i try to be myself when i go out. i try to talk to girls but it's not how it used to be when i'd go out in high school because i find all girls i meet to be immature and focused on dumb ****. not to say that im focused on all the right things, but in my opinion, dumb ****. anyway, i wish i could go somewhere where they have hot chicks with dreams and goals that go to school and work or just go to school. is there such a place? ive met girls like that but they're all 30+ rich chicks but i dont believe in the whole "age aint nothin but a number" thing. i mean, i still hit the old rich chicks, but im looking for a real relationship. its been almost 2 years since my last real relationship and i kinda miss the whole relationship thing. i really dont know what to do. perhaps im approaching this the wrong way? i dunno, life is too short and i dont wanna end up alone or anything.

*sigh* im going to some strip club now to pay for some ass. jk, but its saturday night. for now, i guess i'll try to have more of an open mind and see if i find anyone interesting.

thanks.

Ah jason jason jason, if my memory serves me right the first time I saw you was when we all met up at BCC and you were like look how dirty the inside of my car is, lol. Good times, good times. Ok, now on to the important stuff. The first thing you have to realize is this, your young, just like me. Your NOT going to find the perfect girl at this age. So stop thinking your going to find her. Second after you've done the first thing I've told you, now your in the right mind set to start your search. From what you've said about your job, you take things very seriously, which is a doubled edged sword. You probably work so hard that the second you leave work, your still thinking about work, much like me. What you have to do is force yourself NOT to worry about anything, when you leave work there is nothing you can do to change anything thats going to happen, so just let things fall into place. What i've noticed is 70% of my 'despression' comes from work, while im at work I give 110% to make sure things run smoothly, the second I open the door on my celi, I put my music on and just clear my head... relax... If you try and go dating while your still worried about work, lets just say you already lost the battle, and the war isnt looking much better. So give that a shot first, Im sure you've heard the saying "work hard, play harder." So what I want you to do now is go back through both of my threads and look at the advice I gave other people, most of it will revolve around 'its all about you' and 'be happy single,' once you can accomplish that NOW your in the right position to pick up pimp status again, lol. So from what it sounds like you dont have any problems talking to girls, so what I want you to do is work on your single life and find out what makes you happy. What hobbies are fun, what sports do u enjoy watching (or playing) ect. And as always, if you give me more details I can give you more advice. And keep in mind its all just advice, whatever you want to do is up to you. And whenever your in hollywood give me a call, we'll go chill and see what trouble we cant get into, haha! Anywho, sorry about posting later than I thought, I was takin care of the misses, if you know what i mean ;-)

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 19, 2006 - 9:59 PM

[JoKeRkId613]

i got ya. yea, sometimes i feel like im giving work too much effort when all the 'big boys ' in the company are a bunch of sharks anyway. thats very true though. even when im outside of work, thats most of what i think about. im going to take a small amount of focus off work and point it towards school and the tC. thanks for the advice. i guess one of the good things about ur advice is that u seem to have an answer for everything so it makes me feel as im not the only one with this issue. i dont hit up hollywood too often (i used to live there a looong time ago), but sometimes ride around pines and miramar area (pines mall, muvico24-well, that kinda davie area but w.e., you kno wut i mean). thanks man.

[IdiotStick]

Yeah, I went out tonight and I managed to get 3 phone numbers. 2 of which arent that spectacular, but one was a HOT waitress. You're **** actually worked man. I didnt give a **** and had your tips in the back of my mind the whole time.

This man speaks every bit of hte truth.


So...now that i got these numbers and im only here till friday...any other quick tips on how ot get them while im in the city? heh...since the 5 day rule doesnt apply here

[bloodrain]

like I said jason, when ur working concentrate 100% on work, the second u leave, pretend it doesnt exist anymore and I personally GAURENTEE it will help.

Yeah, I went out tonight and I managed to get 3 phone numbers. 2 of which arent that spectacular, but one was a HOT waitress. You're **** actually worked man. I didnt give a **** and had your tips in the back of my mind the whole time.

This man speaks every bit of hte truth.


So...now that i got these numbers and im only here till friday...any other quick tips on how ot get them while im in the city? heh...since the 5 day rule doesnt apply here

lol im glad it helped you out. As far as going to the next step in such a short time, give me an hour or 2 to think of it while im at the gym, this is gonna be a tough one.

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 20, 2006 - 9:32 AM

[bloodrain]

ok, after much thinking, there is no LEGAL (without the use of drugs) way I could give you advice on how to get a woman to the next step. Its just something you develope over time. Theres no real pointers or advice I can give as far as getting her 'there.' But I'll try... You have to figure how to get her over your house or hers. Then you have to test her a little, see if she will let you tickle her, pinch her, nibble on her ear, or kiss her cheek. These are all good signs and psyical contact is always a plus. Make sure the mood is right, if its just a one night stand then candles arent necessary, just have the lights low, make sure shes comfortable. Again, speak slowly and in a deeper voice than normal (not Barry White, but you get the idea.) And slowly work your way to the 'unspoken' areas. Other than that theres not much advice I can think of at the moment (probably because Im tired as hell) but if I think of anything that can help you i'll let you know.

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 25, 2006 - 3:53 PM

[jgreening]

This thread is an entertaining time waster. Keep up the good work Blood.

Us married guys dont really have such problems but I might think up a hypothetical or two just to keep the thread going.

[mzztoyota]

This thread is so awesome, it's getting me all riled up and making me laugh out loud all at the same time, lol...

A lot of this info seems like it would work for the hot-but-materialistic/immature girl....but a real woman....well...hmmmm

I guess it depends on the kind of girls you want. If you want them in your pocket, then go for this, lol.

If you want a girl who will appreciate and understand that your car is important to you and will even help you mod it, etc., without getting jealous, you need a real 6GC.net girl! lol...

I've dated my share of car buffs, and I can totally dig it now (though it was rough the first time, but once his 'crew' made it obvious that they thought I was cool and that they didn't mind teaching me what they knew, it was all gravy)....

but gamers, ugh, I still can't put up with that addiction. Casual play and nights out with the boys, sure, but when you'd rather play online RPG's than get out on a Friday night...or at least watch Comedy Central with me...we have problems...

at least car buffs want to go out and DRIVE, lol...and I love helping out on weekend projects...

[IdiotStick]

Good thing I dropped my gamer addiction a few years ago, right? haha

[bloodrain]

haha, ya gamers are in a league of there own. I actually started talking to this girl back in high school (while I broke my own "code of conduct" by asking the 'interview' questions) I asked what do you do for fun, and she said I play Everquest alot. With that I decided she wasnt right for me, lol. Anywho guys im back from Las Vegas (holy crap I had fun) anywho if there are any questions, real or hypothetical, i'll be more than happy to answer.

[IdiotStick]

oh, im takin that hot waitress out tonight

My last night in TO to boot

[bloodrain]

haha good job stick, remember, dont spend alot of money, and invite her in for some coffee. OR try this (granted you know how to cook) When you pick her up tell her "change of plans, I decided to make dinner" and get a good movie, you should be good as gold. Just keep your confidence up and make sure you know "shes lucky to be with you" not the other way around. Anywho, im glad my teachings have paid off.

[IdiotStick]

I can cook...but not in a hotel room. haha

I'l just get her drunk and bring her back

Seriously though, I got this.

[bloodrain]

sooooo how'd last night go?

[neKronos]

I can cook...but not in a hotel room. haha

I'l just get her drunk and bring her back

Seriously though, I got this.

Thats class right there.

[mzztoyota]

I can cook...but not in a hotel room. haha

I'l just get her drunk and bring her back

Seriously though, I got this.

Thats class right there.

Hey, my kind of date!

[neKronos]

I can cook...but not in a hotel room. haha

I'l just get her drunk and bring her back

Seriously though, I got this.

Thats class right there.

Hey, my kind of date!

So if im ever in that area of the caribbean you wanna go get some drinks? Im sure that puerto rican rum is pretty cheap over there.

[JoKeRkId613]

hey bloodrain. ORLANDO MEET THIS FRIDAY. YOU BETTER GO!

[mzztoyota]

puerto rican rum? No, man, here it is all about the

CRUZAN RUM!!!

(look it up )

[IdiotStick]

sooooo how'd last night go?

Sorry for the late reply. I had to catch a plane in the morning and i was in a ****ing hurry after the whole date thing.

Basically I emphasised that it was my last night in TO while feeding her drinks. We had gone for dinner then she wanted to dance somewhere, so we went downtown and found a place. around 1 we said **** it and got a cab back to my hotel room. I ordered some more drinks from room service...wine this time though. The hotel room had some pretty decent lamps (Not candles ) to set the mood. I had turned on some music (Dance music, since she was still boppin) and started to dance with her in the room. next came the kissing...then me throwing her on the bed...then it went down.

I think this success was a bit on bloodrains advice, and me just saying **** it and givin her hell. bloods advice got me the girl in the first place, and helped me seduce her so to speak, while alot of the seducing was just me being funny where it counted, and touching/rubbing alot.

Definately a fun last night in TO.

[hitcachi]

me just saying **** it and givin her hell.

[bloodrain]

glad my advice 'reached out and touched' somebody, lolololol

[neKronos]

puerto rican rum? No, man, here it is all about the

CRUZAN RUM!!!

(look it up )

Well the only thing of cruzan ill drink is the single barrels and estate collections.
Plus I likes me some Bacardi 151 and thats from the puertos.

[JoKeRkId613]

lol. this is great stuff. congrats man. did u get any pics of her?

[IdiotStick]

No, I don't have a camera.

Plus, who would stop and say "can I get a picture of you for my internet friends?"

lololol

[bloodrain]

No, I don't have a camera.

Plus, who would stop and say "can I get a picture of you for my internet friends?"

lololol

i would.... but thats me... lol

[XS4lv1Truch0x]

i sure got tha stone rolling on that other post.

i didnt kno my lil post would get this big lol

dayum!

i didnt kno we had a psychologist in da house.

hehe im a psychich! lmao naww i duno but i dream about a crapload of stuff.

hehe bloodrain tha Love psychologist lol kudos 2 u.

[mzztoyota]

puerto rican rum? No, man, here it is all about the

CRUZAN RUM!!!

(look it up )

Well the only thing of cruzan ill drink is the single barrels and estate collections.
Plus I likes me some Bacardi 151 and thats from the puertos.

so you haven't tried the new Raspberry Rum?

[bloodrain]

puerto rican rum? No, man, here it is all about the

CRUZAN RUM!!!

(look it up )

Well the only thing of cruzan ill drink is the single barrels and estate collections.
Plus I likes me some Bacardi 151 and thats from the puertos.

so you haven't tried the new Raspberry Rum?

please save the rum convo for another thread.

[mzztoyota]

sorry

[neKronos]

No I havent tried the raspberry.

Comon blood whats wrong with a lil hijacking who doesnt like bumps

[mzztoyota]

*bump*

teehee

what?

[JonCars17]

I'd just like to ask, does the 5 day waiting period for both calling after getting the number and after first date still apply if you see her everyday? I'm in the process of getting with a girl that is in 3 out of 4 of my college classes and she sits right next to me.

This post has been edited by JonCars17: Sep 6, 2006 - 5:01 AM

[neKronos]

I'd just like to ask, does the 5 day waiting period for both calling after getting the number and after first date still apply if you see her everyday? I'm in the process of getting with a girl that is in 3 out of 4 of my college classes and she sits right next to me.

I think so, but lets have mister expert chime in on this.

[bloodrain]

yes, the 5 day rule still applys. Its ok to talk to her during class and not call her later that day. It will make her wonder what your doing, and it will show her your not attached. The trick is getting her to ask YOU out, and as always, if she wants friday, say your busy and ask for saturday. She wants saturday, ask for sunday. Ect. DO NOT jump at the first chance you have to hang out with her, always delay it. A few weeks down the road if she wants to hang out on saturday you can be like "ya sure I was actually just about to ask you the same thing, I had in mind we could go do *insert fun activity here*." Oh and dont try to make her decide what to do. 1) It will show your not 100% of the 'male' in the relationship and 2) It will take forever for her 2 make up her mind, and chances are she'll end up saying "i dunno, whatever you wanna do"

[JonCars17]

yeah, but kindof late now, LOL! She wanted to ask me something so I called her. Your probably wondering why she didn't call me, well she was in the middle of a class and wanted to know something so she texted me. I HATE TEXTING so I called. GAWD wasting all those extra minutes on a few words -_-.

Edited:
But if you have advice on my next move please state it. Cause I may ask her to lunch or something tomorrow or next week depending on how I feel at that time.

This post has been edited by JonCars17: Sep 6, 2006 - 2:42 PM

[bloodrain]

yeah, but kindof late now, LOL! She wanted to ask me something so I called her. Your probably wondering why she didn't call me, well she was in the middle of a class and wanted to know something so she texted me. I HATE TEXTING so I called. GAWD wasting all those extra minutes on a few words -_-.

Edited:
But if you have advice on my next move please state it. Cause I may ask her to lunch or something tomorrow or next week depending on how I feel at that time.

lunchs are good, asking for lunch on the next day would be a 6 out of 10 for me. Its a good idea, lunch keeps things simple, light, and fun. If you want, if you run into her today, ask her out for tuesday for some lunch. Thats about a 7 outta 10. Let me know how far u guys are into each other, like do u hold hands, ect. and I can try and give u some advice on how to advance to the next level. As always, take anything I say with a grain of salt, dont print out these pages and call it the new bible or anything, else i will personally kick ur ass... lol

[JonCars17]

Actually, I see her tomorrow and won't see her again til next monday. We aren't holding hands or anything. We just talk a good bit in class and today we spent 45 minutes on the phone.

Please do give advice on advancing to the next level I need all I can get.

[IdiotStick]

I've learned one thing over the times...talking on the phone for too long is like shooting yourself in the foot.

You feel like she likes you, she feels like you're her best friend. Never good.

[Mynzeyes]

I had a dream that I was in the middle of a field. I was sitting on the edge of an empty stage, and my friend was standing on the ground in front of me. He started to pet a turtle, and I said, "Dude, don't touch that turtle. It's got horns."

Give it to me straight, doc.

[neKronos]

I had a dream that I was in the middle of a field. I was sitting on the edge of an empty stage, and my friend was standing on the ground in front of me. He started to pet a turtle, and I said, "Dude, don't touch that turtle. It's got horns."

Give it to me straight, doc.

Lay off the narcotics.

[Mynzeyes]

Lay off the narcotics.

I'm totally clean. It was a dream. .

[Bitter]

what the heck is wrong with people who like feet or dress up like babies? i just cant wrap my mind around that. i mean ****ing a sheep, sure its like a little love glove of mutton, but footjobs or diaper sex? wtf!

[Mynzeyes]

what the heck is wrong with people who like feet or dress up like babies? i just cant wrap my mind around that. i mean ****ing a sheep, sure its like a little love glove of mutton, but footjobs or diaper sex? wtf!

hey hey hey! there's nothing wrong with a minor foot fetish! (only if they aren't nasty feet..) who are you to judge!

[Mynzeyes]

but actually, if you think about it. it's really no different than any other form of non-traditional sex. blowjobs, handjobs, tit jobs, anal sex, etc. it's all just a matter of personal preference and what that person, or their partner, enjoys.

[Bitter]

i guess...but i dont get how feet turn anyone on. i mean theres no hole, nipple, or lips.

[Mynzeyes]

i guess...but i dont get how feet turn anyone on. i mean theres no hole, nipple, or lips.

well, unless she's been previously crucified.

[bloodrain]

Actually, I see her tomorrow and won't see her again til next monday. We aren't holding hands or anything. We just talk a good bit in class and today we spent 45 minutes on the phone.

Please do give advice on advancing to the next level I need all I can get.

I've learned one thing over the times...talking on the phone for too long is like shooting yourself in the foot.

You feel like she likes you, she feels like you're her best friend. Never good.

jonscars, listen to this guy, he is my direct student and has learned very well.

[IdiotStick]

Haha.


Or maybe the women might like to know what its like to have someones toes in their vagina's? I mean, it would be kinda weird to wiggle around in there.

[JonCars17]

Actually, I see her tomorrow and won't see her again til next monday. We aren't holding hands or anything. We just talk a good bit in class and today we spent 45 minutes on the phone.

Please do give advice on advancing to the next level I need all I can get.

I've learned one thing over the times...talking on the phone for too long is like shooting yourself in the foot.

You feel like she likes you, she feels like you're her best friend. Never good.

jonscars, listen to this guy, he is my direct student and has learned very well.

LOL! that's short I use to talk to girls on the phone for 2 hours. We have only talked once on the phone which was 45 minutes. So I've kept it to a minimum. I got the lunch date set thou She said yeah for monday.

[Bigmeanbulldog55]

I just want to bring up the point that Psychologist is spelled wrong in the title. If you can't spell it, don't practice it.

[JoKeRkId613]

i guess...but i dont get how feet turn anyone on. i mean theres no hole, nipple, or lips.

well, unless she's been previously crucified.

LMFAO. Wow, that's some f*cked up sh*t! Lol. Sorry, that just caught me by surprise.

[Mynzeyes]

i guess...but i dont get how feet turn anyone on. i mean theres no hole, nipple, or lips.

well, unless she's been previously crucified.

LMFAO. Wow, that's some f*cked up sh*t! Lol. Sorry, that just caught me by surprise.

That's what I was goin' for. .