Starting Over Again......., Kind of hard to admit this stuff, but I ask for advice Options

[Random_Stranger]

Okay, need both the advice from a woman's perspective and men who know how to talk to girls (obviously I am tired of being shy and ready to get back out there). So I am over this whole "Ex" thing now and ready to get back out there. Naturally I am not too too aggressive, but aggressive is necessary in my city as women are not likely to just walk up and talk to you.

So I want some advice on etiquette. Is it okay to ask a chick out who you just met for the first time, let's say if you show up at her work? For instance....

Just tonight coming back from Tuner Tuesdays, I stopped off at a store to get some smokes. A girl about my age asked if I needed help. So I asked for the smokes, showed ID. Then she is like "So how are you doing tonight?" and I was like "Good" then I paused thinking "Why would she even bother talking to me? No one really does that they just ring you up and send your happy ass on your way". I am not the kind to take kindness for general interest, yet I was curious to pursue because she was pretty and had a Fat Booty (which I admit I like that* Here is where you laugh). So I asked her "How is your day?" and she was like "Good actually, and I get off work here in a bit so that is even better" and I was like "Yeah, that is good". Then she was like "Well you take care" and I said "you too" and left.

Now, normally this really doesn't happen to me. The only time it does is when I make eye contact with a girl and she smiles a lot and then we end up talking a bit before I leave. So I dunno how to read women. Was a situation like that just out of kindness? I mean, me personally, would strike up conversations with "regulars" be it man or woman, and if a girl caught my eye, then I try to talk to them. So would a woman operate the same way?

I am lost. It has been awhile (like a few years) since I have started dating (I mean seriously, not just having booty calls here and there from chicks a lil lower than your standards). Looking for something around my level (not saying that I am all that either though). I know this is a stupid thread, but I dunno who else to turn to and it is starting to be kind of a big deal for me. I mean I am 26! I am still young, but this stuff I should have down already!

You guys wanna flame me it is cool, but like I said, I really ask your thoughts.

[95st-celica]

shes just doin her job...i wouldnt worry about her...look for someone else

[Random_Stranger]

shes just doin her job...i wouldnt worry about her...look for someone else

k thanks. no pointers? Is it okay to ask for someone's number first time you meet?

[soulshadow]

I'm Afraid here, we just talk mostly about our 6GC cars and give advice on that. If it was a 6GC, I would say " Yah that New Body Kit sure made her hotter" or "Man that new muffler sure made her ass stand out " and "Is it just me? or did the Le-Bra make her headlights bigger?"

Love comes and goes. I've seen some old farts marrying some young tarts just because of the financial situations and I mean a 40+ married to a 17.
Dam makes me jealous. Ask for her # the first time? If she really likes you she will be asking for your number. These days a lot of girls are materialistic, gold diggers and only hang around popular people. If your desperate and feel lonely or just need somone to hug you and hold your hand because you feel insecure I would suggest you to go to a strip club. At least the girls there will respect you® {money} and dance around you. They always smile, and will do anything to take you® {money}.

Sorry I just had to say it.
but next time roll up to the gas station in a Benz and buy some smoke, the conversation will suddenly change to "Can I go for a ride in your car?"

[OregonBoy]

shes just doin her job...i wouldnt worry about her...look for someone else

k thanks. no pointers? Is it okay to ask for someone's number first time you meet?

Yes everything is ok man. If you felt that she was kinda flirting with you than go for it. Whats the worst that can happen? Dont use pick up lines. DONT use pick up lines.

I'm Afraid here, we just talk mostly about our 6GC cars and give advice on that. If it was a 6GC, I would say " Yah that New Body Kit sure made her hotter" or "Man that new muffler sure made her ass stand out " and "Is it just me? or did the Le-Bra make her headlights bigger?"

Love comes and goes. I've seen some old farts marrying some young tarts just because of the financial situations and I mean a 40+ married to a 17.
Dam makes me jealous. Ask for her # the first time? If she really likes you she will be asking for your number. These days a lot of girls are materialistic, gold diggers and only hang around popular people. If your desperate and feel lonely or just need somone to hug you and hold your hand because you feel insecure I would suggest you to go to a strip club. At least the girls there will respect you® {money} and dance around you. They always smile, and will do anything to take you® {money}.

Sorry I just had to say it.
but next time roll up to the gas station in a Benz and buy some smoke, the conversation will suddenly change to "Can I go for a ride in your car?"

haha not all girls are golddiggers. Im more broke than my car and my girl and i are happily in love.

[TRD_Ian]

dude just go for it, swing for the frigin fences man, its how i work....be confident when your talking to them also, go back some time and if u come across her again strike up a convo, don't be a creeper about it just play it cool, then play off of that, usualy i go with, some thing along the lines, you have very kind eyes and a warm smile, drop a line like that after u make em laugh make eye contact and say some thing nice, ask her if you could treat her to a coffee or some thing along thos lines. and for god sakes dont use stupid lines man, you strike me as some one who knows better but if not dont drop " those are nice legs when do they open or any other pigish remarks, be urself and be confident, it works.
i know cause it works for me, and im an over weight hillbilly, and i do fine around women, it took a while to get use to talkin to em but its easy as pie now, any who good luck and cheers, p.s if all else fails offer her a drive in ur sweet ride, chicks love our cars

[whatthe]

If uve seen sex drive do what the duo guys do in the eclipse. "Heard of a motel?", "Yehh", "Heard of a bed?" "Yehh", "Wanna get in one?" ...... (something along the lines of that) Ahhh that movie cracks me up hard.

[Random_Stranger]

If uve seen sex drive do what the duo guys do in the eclipse. "Heard of a motel?", "Yehh", "Heard of a bed?" "Yehh", "Wanna get in one?" ...... (something along the lines of that) Ahhh that movie cracks me up hard.

LOL


Thanks guys I appreciate the help. It has been awhile and before it wasn't a problem, but it is time to get back out there. I mean my ex moved on, so should I. I have noticed in person I do a whole lot better as people have always told me I look better in person than in photos (which I do agree), plus people get to see your personality as well. I guess if we are brave, we are rewarded for our courage. Failure is the price for an education anyways.


I kind of feel stupid posting this thread, but luckily I feel comfortable and honest enough with myself to understand that I really seek some answer or just words regarding such issues.

[Supersprynt]

shes just doin her job...i wouldnt worry about her...look for someone else

k thanks. no pointers? Is it okay to ask for someone's number first time you meet?

It should be done the first time you meet, it will identify yourself as an interested party and set the tone for your next meeting. Not doing it will start down the path to the friend zone.

[Random_Stranger]

shes just doin her job...i wouldnt worry about her...look for someone else

k thanks. no pointers? Is it okay to ask for someone's number first time you meet?

It should be done the first time you meet, it will identify yourself as an interested party and set the tone for your next meeting. Not doing it will start down the path to the friend zone.

So even if people try to tell you that you come off too aggressive, we should say "Ugh yeah! That's what men do!" and just keep it up then? Because I get told that a lot by my cousin. But then again, I think that is how it needs to be, a woman is not really going to walk up and talk to a guy and when it happens to me, I end up getting the psycho chicks. Sometimes they are psycho nympho, which sounds not so bad for the second part, but it turns bad because they are major psychos.

[Supersprynt]

Asking for a number isn't aggressive in itself. It's also not asking someone out - it's just creating a possibility.

I wouldn't be asking for a number within the first few minutes of meeting someone, and a cashier would probably require a couple more visits. For instance, I was at a bar and ended up talking to this girl and she was cute and funny so within the first few minutes I knew I wanted her number, but I took the conversation as far as it allowed (which is when her bf took her away) before asking for her number. Asking to soon may make you seem to aggressive or desperate.

This post has been edited by Supersprynt: Jan 14, 2009 - 11:34 AM

[richee3]

Everyone here has got some really good advice for you, so I'm sure mine won't be that good. All I can say is, go out of your way to go by that gas station a little more often. Just keep making small talk with her every chance you get. Maybe she's already got a boyfriend and she was just doing her job. Maybe not. But no matter what happens, it will be a good warm-up to get you ready and confident and get back out there. For every ten no's you get, there's got to be one yes. Here's another good thing for you... In the conversations I've had with you, it didn't take very long for me to find out that you are good with words. Seems like most girls are after the bad guys, but if you give the right girl a compliment, she'll notice you. I would say don't even bother with the girls that want the bad guys. Odds are they've got the herp anyway. Just be patient and let them know that you are a nice guy, and eventually the girls will find you. Trust me on that. That's how it happened with me and all of my friends. I just walked into a Dairy Queen one night, next thing you know Tyler and I are texting each other until 2 in the morning, going to lunch together a couple of days later (she even took me- I didn't have a car at the time.) Now here we are, and neither of us could even think about being with anybody else. Just be patient and let girls know you are there, and everything will work out.

[Random_Stranger]

Asking for a number isn't aggressive in itself. It's also not asking someone out - it's just creating a possibility.

I wouldn't be asking for a number within the first few minutes of meeting someone, and a cashier would probably require a couple more visits. For instance, I was at a bar and ended up talking to this girl and she was cute and funny so within the first few minutes I knew I wanted her number, but I took the conversation as far as it allowed (which is when her bf took her away) before asking for her number. Asking to soon may make you seem to aggressive or desperate.

Yeah see, this incident with this chick. She was a cashier. Normally they just ring you up and send you on your way, but she seemed to kind of strike up a conversation. Plus she told me personal information (That she was getting off soon), which came off to me as if she might be interested. Normally I am the kind of guy who cannot pick up on subtle hints a woman may give, so I was just wondering if I should just make sure to make more visits there and see if we can talk a bit more and then make my move.

I was hoping you would give advice amongst everyone else, for the simple fact that I know you got that "Magic", and I also know you have good insight on things. You are also brutally honest which is a good trait of a true friend which is why I respect you in more ways than one.

Everyone here has got some really good advice for you, so I'm sure mine won't be that good. All I can say is, go out of your way to go by that gas station a little more often. Just keep making small talk with her every chance you get. Maybe she's already got a boyfriend and she was just doing her job. Maybe not. But no matter what happens, it will be a good warm-up to get you ready and confident and get back out there. For every ten no's you get, there's got to be one yes. Here's another good thing for you... In the conversations I've had with you, it didn't take very long for me to find out that you are good with words. Seems like most girls are after the bad guys, but if you give the right girl a compliment, she'll notice you. I would say don't even bother with the girls that want the bad guys. Odds are they've got the herp anyway. Just be patient and let them know that you are a nice guy, and eventually the girls will find you. Trust me on that. That's how it happened with me and all of my friends. I just walked into a Dairy Queen one night, next thing you know Tyler and I are texting each other until 2 in the morning, going to lunch together a couple of days later (she even took me- I didn't have a car at the time.) Now here we are, and neither of us could even think about being with anybody else. Just be patient and let girls know you are there, and everything will work out.

Awe, Daniel. You're advice is always welcomed man. You are a good guy and always look forward to what you have to say. But you are right my friend. Ok, I guess I will get back out there and make things happen. I mean failure leads to success, because it has to. If in fact our success at times has lead to failure. Great! This is what I needed. Thanks guys.

[808celica]

Faust you Pinoy man you supposed to have the touch

aye Pare!!! jus no make like dat like dat

[Random_Stranger]

Faust you Pinoy man you supposed to have the touch

aye Pare!!! jus no make like dat like dat

LOL Jon!

[808celica]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o_d8e9mTeZs

[Random_Stranger]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o_d8e9mTeZs

LOL That guy is funny! Isn't he from Hawaii?

[forkee]

I wouldnt read too much into the conversation. It was just small talk and its not like she was asking you what you were gonna do later. she just sounded either bored or tired of working that day and couldnt wait to get off. a lot of times, striking meaningless conversations with people makes the time go by faster. it also thins the air if its awkwardly quiet for no reason.

what you should do next time to get a better idea of whether or not she is into you is to continue the conversation and have her say more

her - "Good actually, and I get off work here in a bit so that is even better"

"Yeah, that is good".

then you can either ask

-- "but why stop the fun youre having here?" (sarcasm, use only if you think theyre that type of person)
-- "long day?" (safe question that just allows them to talk freely)
-- "you going to go home and relax?" (an ok question but predisposes an idea that doesn't include you unless youre really that lucky)
-- "were you going to go out and see a movie or something? (takes some guts, allows you to talk about a movie or restaurant you like or want to check out and if they havent gone, maybe you can take them) ex. "well actually im not doing anything tonight but i really wanted to check out ______ because ive heard it was really good. if you don't have anything planned, would you be interested in joining me tonight?"
-- "sounds good. is your boyfriend taking you somewhere special tonight?" (really ballsy if you think about it, but if said calmly, comes out smooth like normal conversation. it also flat out asks if they have a significant other, great if you want to know right away so you dont have to waste anymore of anyone's time.)

[MaskedMan]

First off, I would like to say congrats on getting over the EX. It can be hard sometimes, but the best thing you can do is move on and life the rest of your life.

Ray just gave some good examples up there. Replying with an open ended question is always good if you want to keep the conversation going. Asking for a number is perfectly fine, but you can't ask for it right off the bat. There are a few requirements before you can ask for a girls' phone number.

First of all, after you get the conversation started (which you seem capable of doing), you'll need to at least carry on the conversation for about 10-15 minutes (but don't drag it out, if you feel the convo begin to end, then make sure that YOU end it). Look for signs of interest, this can be eye contact, smiling, etc. Sometimes it can just be because it's their job, but oh well. Before you ask for their number, you should at least have exchanged names by then. If not, they will feel like they don't know you well enough. It is okay to ask for a girls' number if she has a bf, however, I personally do not appreciate guys who go after girls who are already taken, but it's your call. You should ask for her number by inviting her to an upcoming event. Example, "Hey my friends and I are having a party this Sunday, you should stop by" At this point you hand her your phone and ask her to put her number in it. Ok, not really ask, but say, "here put your number in it". Then you can follow up with ok here I'll call you right now so you get my number too (this is really just to check that she gave you a REAL number hahaha). And make sure to stay in control and alert. You say that you come off as aggresive, sometimes it works well, but there are different types of aggressive. There's the type that shows you are in control and confident, and there is the type that shows you are desperate. You want to avoid coming off as the latter haha.

But with all that aside, I would like to say that out of all people, I'm surprised that you are making a thread asking for girl advice. Jeff told me that you were a super ladies man!

[Jeunesse]

I didn't read all the long post but this is all I have to say, and I'll say it again just like what I said to joehernandez(I think that's him who created that post regarding his bestfriend and are now dating because of a fish)... IF YOU WANT IT GO AND GET IT!!!!

[Random_Stranger]

First off, I would like to say congrats on getting over the EX. It can be hard sometimes, but the best thing you can do is move on and life the rest of your life.

Ray just gave some good examples up there. Replying with an open ended question is always good if you want to keep the conversation going. Asking for a number is perfectly fine, but you can't ask for it right off the bat. There are a few requirements before you can ask for a girls' phone number.

First of all, after you get the conversation started (which you seem capable of doing), you'll need to at least carry on the conversation for about 10-15 minutes (but don't drag it out, if you feel the convo begin to end, then make sure that YOU end it). Look for signs of interest, this can be eye contact, smiling, etc. Sometimes it can just be because it's their job, but oh well. Before you ask for their number, you should at least have exchanged names by then. If not, they will feel like they don't know you well enough. It is okay to ask for a girls' number if she has a bf, however, I personally do not appreciate guys who go after girls who are already taken, but it's your call. You should ask for her number by inviting her to an upcoming event. Example, "Hey my friends and I are having a party this Sunday, you should stop by" At this point you hand her your phone and ask her to put her number in it. Ok, not really ask, but say, "here put your number in it". Then you can follow up with ok here I'll call you right now so you get my number too (this is really just to check that she gave you a REAL number hahaha). And make sure to stay in control and alert. You say that you come off as aggresive, sometimes it works well, but there are different types of aggressive. There's the type that shows you are in control and confident, and there is the type that shows you are desperate. You want to avoid coming off as the latter haha.

But with all that aside, I would like to say that out of all people, I'm surprised that you are making a thread asking for girl advice. Jeff told me that you were a super ladies man!

Wow! Not bad Derrick! Not bad at all! I also like the examples that Ray gave and Jeunesse, you're right. I can make it happen. I was told to not bother asking a girl if she has a BF and she is likes him, she won't do it, but if she don't then she will. If you find out she does, then just stop. I had a hot girl ask me for my number while i was with my ex, but I told that girl I can't talk to her because it wouldn't be right for my ex. After me and my ex broke up, not a day has gone by where I didn't hope I ran into that chick. She was HOT and this is just not by my own opinion. lol

[Jeunesse]

Don't stop if you found out that she had a BF.. stop if you found out that she's married. Dating/BF/GF is still choosing the right partner. Married already chosed but still has the possibility to choose again. get it?

[Random_Stranger]

Don't stop if you found out that she had a BF.. stop if you found out that she's married. Dating/BF/GF is still choosing the right partner. Married already chosed but still has the possibility to choose again. get it?

That's is true. Just because you are BF/GF gives no obligations. I like the way you think buddy. That is so right on! If more people thought like that, there would be a lot less psychos in the world, and my friend Brent would have less enemies or guys trying to stab him. Huh Brent?!

[jcaron9gt4]

Of course BF/GF have certain meaning and obligations. I know I would be pissed off if some dude was trying to get with my gf, knowing she had a bf. Have some respect and back off if they have a bf/gf. Unless the girl could careless about having a bf and it is nothing serious, but if she is persistent and says, I have a bf, then do not pursue it.

[masterluie214]

Have going down that road my self personaly I have learned just to let what ever happens happen look at it like this if you ask for her number or to go on a date or even to grab some coffy (something not as pushy and will make them feels safer being with someone they dont know) the worst she could say is No and then nothing has changed you go back to your normal life sometimes you will be suprised and get a yes and go from there just let what ever happens happen in its own time. My girl and I now have been together for 4 years and still strong (have had our problems but still ) and when I met her I was no where neer over my ex(psyco) (hens the problems ^).... so as I see it you already got that part out of the way lol anyway good luck with the hunt you know we all love the hunt.


Luis

[MaskedMan]

Ahh the hunt, the hunt is always the best part, is it not? It seems like a lot of guys say that they've dated "psyco ex's", and it find it kind of funny . I have my share of psyco ex's too, but I'm sure there is always a story to top the ones I have. Anyways, asking a girl out who has a boyfriend isn't impossible, it's just more of a morale decision. She could have a guy that really cares about her, and here you are trying to steal his gf away from him. Ofcourse it's her decision to go after guys or not while she's already in a relationship, but if that's the kind of girl she is, you really have got to wonder if she's the type you really want.

[Random_Stranger]

Guys I need your advice again.



Scenario:

Walking to my car at college. Parking is a pain, and a girl asked me if I was leaving. Now this is the second time I have been approached and both times the girls were HOT. I think nothing of it, because it is hard to find parking. I pointed out where I am parked, although I couldn't see my car because of a truck, which I did point out to her. She was like "Well, do you need a ride to your car? I think it will be easier that way for both of us", so I got in. Oh, she drives a BMW SUV by the way. We get up there and I get in and get out so she can park. I was curious, so I drove around back her way and asked her if she wanted a ride to the school, and she got a big smile and was like "ReallY?! Thanks!" so she got in, I asked her her name, she told me (Ruby), I told her mine. She asked if I was Mexican, I told her I am Flip, she asked my name, I told her, she was like "Does it mean Warrior?! LOL", and I told her it meant "Lucky or Bearer of Luck". She said "Oh you got a ride, so you were lucky", and I was like "Yeah, from a pretty lady, so I suppose I am quite lucky". She then said "Oh noooo..... (saying she wasn't all that)" and I was like "Yes, you are very pretty". So we got up to the school and she said "Thanks", and I said "have a good day". Then I drove off.


Conclusion:

Parking? It was necessary to make good time and convenience. The ride offer on her part? Who would just trust some guy to get in their car? So that may be a good sign. Her getting in my car? Maybe was a way to make good time, but also could be put out there as a way to make something happen.

Jeff says I should have got her number. I feel that might have been too strong. What do you guys think?

[jcaron9gt4]

Yes you should have got it.

What are you waiting for, for a girl to ask you?

Not to be blunt, but grow a pair and ask...if she says no, you say okay, and be on your way.

[Random_Stranger]

Yes you should have got it.

What are you waiting for, for a girl to ask you?

Not to be blunt, but grow a pair and ask...if she says no, you say okay, and be on your way.

Ok. Then when an opportunity like that happens then I shall. It is just that women complain men are too too aggressive, and usually say they don't like when they try to get their number all fast. But then again, I am sure they are too aggressive here because it probably works. I know women like that here because it makes them feel more "valuable".

[jcaron9gt4]

Yes you should have got it.

What are you waiting for, for a girl to ask you?

Not to be blunt, but grow a pair and ask...if she says no, you say okay, and be on your way.

Ok. Then when an opportunity like that happens then I shall. It is just that women complain men are too too aggressive, and usually say they don't like when they try to get their number all fast. But then again, I am sure they are too aggressive here because it probably works. I know women like that here because it makes them feel more "valuable".

Asking a girl for their number is by no means aggressive and just shows that you have interest in them.
In that situation, it would've been the perfect opportunity to ask. She already showed interest by offering a ride, and then accepting a ride from a complete stranger.

[Sinyk]

Reading the last post made me think of Pirates of the Caribbean when Jack Sparrow said "If you were waiting for the opportune moment, that was it. "

[masterluie214]

Should have taken advatage of your situation man she alowed you in her car so that tells you right there she is not scard of you in anyway and then she got in your car that right there was your chance if i say so my self dont be scard of rejection the worst that can happen is you make a new friend dude and if she was hot like you say she was im about to start taking cool point away cause thats the 2nd time lol if you get the chance to talk to her again GET THE NUMBER (or make a new friend ) either way stop letting these things go by its like this joke i heard.

There was a priest who was stuck in the middle of the ocean and he prayed to god please save me nothing happen. few hours later a ship comes by and they ask sir do you need help the priest says no god will save me. Afew more hours later another ship comes by and asked sir please let me help you, priest says NO GOD WILL SAVE ME!. finaly the last ship came by asked the same thing please im here to save you, priest says NO! god will save me I know he will. no more ships come and the priest dies he gose to heven and sees god and he dosent understand so he asked god dear god I asked you to save me I prayed to you ...... god replys YOU IDIOT I SENT 3 SHIPS TO SAVE YOU AND YOU TURNED THEM ALL WAY LOL HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA OK I THOUGHT THAT WAS FUNNY

basicly dont pass it up

[forkee]

ummm.....yea u totally blew that one. you should have ask "so do u usually have classes around this time? or just on (day of week)? that way you can find out what kind of schedule she has (possibly suggesting that you can wait for her to get your parking the rest of the semester). hell you could have continued on the subject of your name and asked if you were gonna get lucky tomorrow too, lol. then you can continue by asking what classes shes taking, if theyre hard, easy, whatever. good/bad teacher. suggest maybe you can swap numbers so that when a particular class comes along maybe you can get/ receive some pointers, etc. this approach is way less creepy than flat out asking for their number. chicks see that as desparation rather than being straightforward.

"Oh you got a ride, so you were lucky", and I was like "Yeah, from a pretty lady, so I suppose I am quite lucky". "totally. i just wish i was this lucky every day. so whats your schedule tomorrow?"

never use pretty. use cute, hot, stunning, fine
never use lady (unless theyre old). use chick

"maybe i can get lucky again and get another ride from a hot chick."

fyi college people always ask if you want a ride to your car, especially if theyre late for class. it guarantees them a spot rather than having to stalk someone walking then realizing theres a car idling nearby that has first dibs on that parking space. think happy thoughts if u like, but if its an ugly chick or even a dude, theyre not trying to hit on you, they just want your parking.

[MaskedMan]

Ok. Then when an opportunity like that happens then I shall. It is just that women complain men are too too aggressive, and usually say they don't like when they try to get their number all fast. But then again, I am sure they are too aggressive here because it probably works. I know women like that here because it makes them feel more "valuable".

Dude, right there. You're caring too much about what you think women want to hear. You want to be the one who decides if they are good enough for you, not the other way around. You could have asked a question like, "Do you always give random strangers rides?" (no pun intended). Or you can find something she has in her car and ask her about it (or poke fun of her about it). Other than that, you're getting some really good opportunities, so you'll likely get another one in the future .

[Random_Stranger]

ummm.....yea u totally blew that one. you should have ask "so do u usually have classes around this time? or just on (day of week)? that way you can find out what kind of schedule she has (possibly suggesting that you can wait for her to get your parking the rest of the semester). hell you could have continued on the subject of your name and asked if you were gonna get lucky tomorrow too, lol. then you can continue by asking what classes shes taking, if theyre hard, easy, whatever. good/bad teacher. suggest maybe you can swap numbers so that when a particular class comes along maybe you can get/ receive some pointers, etc. this approach is way less creepy than flat out asking for their number. chicks see that as desparation rather than being straightforward.

"Oh you got a ride, so you were lucky", and I was like "Yeah, from a pretty lady, so I suppose I am quite lucky". "totally. i just wish i was this lucky every day. so whats your schedule tomorrow?"

never use pretty. use cute, hot, stunning, fine
never use lady (unless theyre old). use chick

"maybe i can get lucky again and get another ride from a hot chick."

fyi college people always ask if you want a ride to your car, especially if theyre late for class. it guarantees them a spot rather than having to stalk someone walking then realizing theres a car idling nearby that has first dibs on that parking space. think happy thoughts if u like, but if its an ugly chick or even a dude, theyre not trying to hit on you, they just want your parking.

True, but I asked her if she wanted to follow me for the spot. I have had them follow me before without saying anything before, or just following me. A ride? You know we got ex convicts an stuff at my college? Literally people straight up out the Pen. Notice in movies like The Cell, psychos are often related to "Bakersfield" in movies? They mean here for a reason.

I really hope I run into her again. I am going to try and leave class again early the next day on purpose! Sit outside the car on the phone and piss off everyone else until I see her up around that time. LOL It is going to be great!

[LewFX]

see im right, your a a$$-hoooo...whered pimp fausto go? when did this new what women want fausto come from?!!

[Random_Stranger]

see im right, your a a$$-hoooo...whered pimp fausto go? when did this new what women want fausto come from?!!

I talked to my mom about this, because she is a very passive person. She basically said "OH, you will see her again. When you do, then make your move". So let's see how lucky I am. So when I run into her, I can be like "Damn! I really am lucky! Now I gotta ask for your number. You know, so I can push this luck thing to it's limits". Or something bs like that.

[jimmykay]

basicly like everyone else has said, don't be affraid to ask for a number. its just a number. just dont go crazy with it and call like 7 times in a row if she doesnt answer the first time. My wife refuses to answer her phone if she doesnt know the number, so don't start overthinking it if you go call some girl and she doesnt answer.

[Random_Stranger]

basicly like everyone else has said, don't be affraid to ask for a number. its just a number. just dont go crazy with it and call like 7 times in a row if she doesnt answer the first time. My wife refuses to answer her phone if she doesnt know the number, so don't start overthinking it if you go call some girl and she doesnt answer.

No I am fully aware of that. That is why I offer my number because I grow tired of women complaining men bug. Considering the "Tease" factor that takes place in this town and end up giving it up to a complete stranger by the end of the day. You feel me? This town blows, but there are a few roses that do sprout about. Anyways, thanks for your input. Thank all of you.

[garin]

dude just go for it, swing for the frigin fences man, its how i work....be confident when your talking to them also, go back some time and if u come across her again strike up a convo, don't be a creeper about it just play it cool, then play off of that, usualy i go with, some thing along the lines, you have very kind eyes and a warm smile, drop a line like that after u make em laugh make eye contact and say some thing nice, ask her if you could treat her to a coffee or some thing along thos lines. and for god sakes dont use stupid lines man, you strike me as some one who knows better but if not dont drop " those are nice legs when do they open or any other pigish remarks, be urself and be confident, it works.
i know cause it works for me, and im an over weight hillbilly, and i do fine around women, it took a while to get use to talkin to em but its easy as pie now, any who good luck and cheers, p.s if all else fails offer her a drive in ur sweet ride, chicks love our cars

this guy is good. haha. not bad advice.

[Random_Stranger]

Check this out. I think that chick lives on the next street from me. What makes me think that? Well there IS a BMW SUV on the next street. Supposedly a HOT chick DOES drive it. This we have known. But I asked a neighbor who lives closer to that house and he said she has "Blond" hair, which I know this chick does have and it isn't natural. She is Hispanic, and so is the family that lives in that house. I think they are Dominican. Anyways......... Once I discover if that is her, I am so going to flag her butt down and talk to her. It would make sense that she knew my car and knew what I looked like to trust enough that she would allow me to get in her car and get in my car, being so trusting. We stand on my corner outside my house all the time and just watch cars go by and talk. Like a lil neighborhood mini meet every day til late at night. We are like the mixed race ghetto version of King of the Hill.

[richee3]

Check this out. I think that chick lives on the next street from me. What makes me think that? Well there IS a BMW SUV on the next street. Supposedly a HOT chick DOES drive it. This we have known. But I asked a neighbor who lives closer to that house and he said she has "Blond" hair, which I know this chick does have and it isn't natural. She is Hispanic, and so is the family that lives in that house. I think they are Dominican. Anyways......... Once I discover if that is her, I am so going to flag her butt down and talk to her. It would make sense that she knew my car and knew what I looked like to trust enough that she would allow me to get in her car and get in my car, being so trusting. We stand on my corner outside my house all the time and just watch cars go by and talk. Like a lil neighborhood mini meet every day til late at night. We are like the mixed race ghetto version of King of the Hill.

[Random_Stranger]

EYE OF LA TIGRE!!!!!!


So that chick in the Chevron that I originally wrote about......... Guess what? We went in for some gas after Tuner Tuesday (because I knew she works there on Tuesdays) and I bought some Rockstar. I told my friends about her and they are like "Dude! You better go talk to her". Turns out she is single, I gave her my number and I said "Hey I know it isn't proper for a lady to call a guy, but I wasn't sure if you were talking to anyone and last time I seen you, I wanted to do this right then and there. Since then, I couldn't stop thinking about that and I promised myself I wouldn't let a chance like this go by if God gave me the chance again." She got a big smile and said "Yeah I am not seeing anyone, and I don't mind, so long as you don't have a girlfriend or anything."

So that's the story. No time to rejoice yet, I still have to hear from here. Any ideas on how to follow up should I not hear from her? Or just let this be as is and if I don't hear just continue to show up without mentioning anything of it? I know I could pull some hot chicks if I were to chase those kind, and she seems really nice. Not the kind of girl who is going to be looking like a superstar, but humble and attractive, which is perfect for me. Again, just based on appearances.