was i wrong for saying it??? Options

[macavely]

ok here is what happened.. i have this one female friend i'm mad cool with .. we talk about any and everything... .. then one day we were talking and she asked me what was it about her that did make ther the girl of my dreams.... Now me and her have this thing where we tell each other the truth no matter how much it hurts the other one..... So when she asked me this question I really didn't want to answer it cause .. the answer was a shallow one... and i told her this.. but she wanted to know anyway.... so i told her.. I said .. she would be the perfect girl for me if she had the body type i liked.. she got really quite and did say anything for a while.. i knew that i hurt her really bad.. she said that she is glade that i told her .. this was a few weeks ago.. but i still feel bad that i did... cause she is they kinda girl that is cool about everything.. but i didn't want to hurt like that....

so my question is would you guys have done the same thing.. or lied and said something else??

[creis]

Its a dificult situation, she asked you what maid her the girl of your deams, that implies that she thinks she is the girl of your dreams, witch implies that your not just friends but together. meaning she basicly flat out told you she liked you and though you where more then friends.

Its a dificult situation, a question such as that has the potentioal to make or break the (thing between you) I would handle it by ansering the question with another, ask her what makes you the guy of her dreams, and let her anser it for you, you can mold your anser from hers and prevent any hart break. however this does also allow her mind to think that your "together" witch (if you dont want) has to be stoped at the same time, witch you can probibly ask what she wants out of the realation ship or something, and break the news via her response.

its hard to say that what you said was not shollow, however she wanted the truth, and that is what you gave her, what she wanted. I have to give you credit for telling the truth straight out.

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My 2 cents

Yeah why do we assume she is over waight, it could be anything.

I dont think I could ever tell a girl that there body is not my type, even if it was nothing bad, just not "my type", I cant imagine how they would feel thinking what it was that is not good, girls are critical of themself's enough to bring them to tears, adding an outside opinion could make it even worse. (not saying that, that is what happend or she would be so hartbroken, just saying my opinion on that reply in general)

Lighter note: What is this about P.I.M.P's not having feelings, dem hoes ant easy to take care of, it takes feelings, and understanding.

This post has been edited by creis: Dec 7, 2004 - 4:44 AM