Boy Rant, Warning Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Yeserday

So Ive been dating this guy for close to three weeks. Ive been sleeping at his house every night for past 2 weeks *as of this friday* and ive hung out with him every single day since the night we met. Well today he is gonna hang with his homie cuz his homie is getting jealous that im always with him. And ya know i know in the back of mind that he should be hanging with his homies. but this homie in particular is nice but just doesnt have his head on straight. Doing lots of drugs and ****! and id rather not have the guy im seeing around him as he himself used to be heavily into all that. Plus I have no car and i gotta bus it home from work this week and monday and tuesday he bused it down to take the bus home with me or one of his friends came by with him and they drove me home. So I thought today would be the same..he would bus it down here and take the bus with me home *i dont like to roam the big city by myself* but he says hes gonna hang with his friend


sorry im ranting! i guess i just am the typical girl in that - i start freaking out about something so little and make it a bigger deal in my head then it is. I start playing out every possible things of why were not hanging this evening. Im sure ill end up sleeping at his house tonight. I dont know why im fretting!


wow this was a waste of space but i just had to tell someone!





Today


Feeling like crap today!


So last night I had my lap top at his place and I let him use it while hes trying to find a job cuz its faster than his computer. well i notice he's IMing and I told him "hey i dont mind you using my computer to search for a job but i find it disrespectful ur just IMing when im here with you in bed watching TV while ur sitting at a desk talkin to girls" then he logged off and we got in a tiff. So we end up deciding that Thursday *today* that were gonna do our own thing cuz there is some tension and maybe its cuz weve seen eachother everyday for hte past 3 weeks and spent the night together for the past 2 weeks. I end up leaving at 2am thinking its probably best to start then. Then i get home and check his myspace and see a girl left a comment saying "i thought about you all day. i miss you. cant wait to be with u" i call him and just ask who she is and he said some girl on the site. and i was like oh well can i come over and just be in ur arms for tonight. and he said yeah. so i go back over and everything is fine between us and he says i have no need to fret. I told him i wanna trust him but its hard to when i see comments like that and that we dont have a title so i just want him to be honest if hes meeting other girls so that I dont get hurt down the road.


I dont know what to do - obviously we need to slow it down a bit. I think im just afraid cuz im not doing my typical thing of still talking to guys to keep them as backup. Ive actually given up my flirting for him and everything. He wants me to tell guys who call me that im with my "boyfriend" or "guy im seeing" when were together as he tells people when they call that hes with his "girlfriend"


sorry im ranting! I just wanted to throw up when i saw that comment. I mean i know were not together so why is it so much to ask for to just have him be straight up and honest with me about if he is meeting other people?

[1900WattCelica]

Still...Call me old fashion but ieeeshh

[acenova]

Still...Call me old fashion but ieeeshh
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Old Fashion... Hey there's no problem with spending the night, its what you do at night that matters. My girl sleeps over every night, but generally we don't spend the day together because of classes and what not, but she's always over at some point in the night. We've only officially been dating for a month, we've been seeing eachother for like 3 though. I got those flipped, but whatever. She's slept over for about a good 2 months or so. Anyway....

Natalie, first off, you gotta give the dude space, and don't be randomly flippin' on him, and if you feel you're gonna randomly flip, count backwards from 10 and wait for his response to a perfectly reasonable, calm and collected question. As far as kickin' with his boys, I'm surprised he doesn't do it more often, especially since you guys have been dating for only 3 weeks. Personally, I don't let anyone tell me who I can and can't hang out with, and you know me, I'm a laid back guy, but my friends were there for me through more Ish and just crap and for me it's friends first up until I'm engaged (so long as they're my close friends). I've made the mistake of doing it vice versa, and stuff gets messy. So look, give him his space, a guy appreciates that, and if he's trustworthy, the things between you two will be that much better.

Now, for the Myspace thing, believe him so long as he hasn't given you any reason to mistrust him. But if I were you I'd look into it just a bit more, because you don't know him that well considering the amount of time you've been dating him. Go onto his myspace account using yours or whatever and look this "friend" up and see where she lives. If she lives on the east coast or something, then it's whatever. If she lives in Seattle, just raise an eyebrow and keep it in your mind. Give him the sense of trust, but keep an eye on them to.

One more thing on top of that...DON'T EVER GET TOO COMFORTABLE. I don't care how much you think you've got someone or how much you think they like you, that don't mean anything until they're proven trustworthy.