Would you give up your kid?, on a serious note Options

[Clipsetuner]

I dont know how to begain this but, its just about the hardest thing in my life.

So about 5 months ago Im with this girl, been dating her for about 9 months, and she ends up cheating on me go figure. Well she called me up last week and told me she was pregnat. Yeah I think you could peice the rest together. I am bascily at the worst lowest ever I have so many things to think about, consider, and deicde, and also let her sit back and decide what she wants.

I know the kid could or could not be mine, but its still hitting me really deep. I know I want to be a good guy / mabey father but I dont know If I can do it, I think about if she gave the kid away, yes it would be to a loving family but I would be giving up my baby girl forever. If the kid isnt mine yeah im out of the clear but the other guy is a jackass, and there is no way she could even do this on her own. I still love her, could I ever love her more then a friend ever again no.

I am really torn in this situation, I relize Im only 17 and this is just huge (dont give me that typical teenager **** , condom, and no sex bs, its all lies for the most part) I dont want this child weither it be mine or not to face the world without the love and care she deserves. I am a only child myself and only had my mom around and I know how hard it is to say your dad didnt want you. I guess this is why it strokes such a deep hurt inside me.

I dont really talk to anyone anymore on this site sep mac, and he didnt even know this was going down. There is just so much more I could type but this makes me hurt enough to cry. I guess I really need some sort of support and reinforcemnt of what things I need todo.

DTE

[creis]

On one side I wana say if the relationship got to a far enough point where sex got involved and she when aside and cheated, give her the finger and walk off, there is absolutly no exscuse for that nor full forgivness (sp) however personaly, on the other side there is no way I could let her even for what she did be stuck alone in that position wither its yours or not, at that age you have to really step up and help/take over the situation, however if its yours (a test would solve that but i think there costly) then you have a whole new aspect to think about. what natalie said is right, you have to think about it, if the chiled is keeped you have to deside if your/she is able to give it a chance at life, and a resonable place to live and grow up, hopefully with 2 active parents for this baby girls whole life.

I would think of all the options, giving a baby up for adoptions does put a lot to chance, its not a garentee they will get into a good home, (not to discurage you, there are many great fostor care places, and many people who would adopt a baby, the younger the beter I think most cases are) anyway I would alwasy consider obortion because of the situation, it sounds to me like it would be hard to give that baby a great shot at a "normal" chiledhood (not saying its imposible, just hard) and maybe the best thing is to spare the hardship it will induse for the 3 of you (4 if that jackass comes to turms with it)

First step tward taking the resposability for the situation:
- You can pray all you want, but someone is gana have to make the miricle, you have the chance to make it for the girls, both of them, but no one can tell you how but yourself.

Second step:
- Take a LONG drive with her and talk about any and every thing relating to the situation.