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post Mar 20, 2005 - 5:59 AM
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I dont know how to begain this but, its just about the hardest thing in my life.

So about 5 months ago Im with this girl, been dating her for about 9 months, and she ends up cheating on me go figure. Well she called me up last week and told me she was pregnat. Yeah I think you could peice the rest together. I am bascily at the worst lowest ever I have so many things to think about, consider, and deicde, and also let her sit back and decide what she wants.

I know the kid could or could not be mine, but its still hitting me really deep. I know I want to be a good guy / mabey father but I dont know If I can do it, I think about if she gave the kid away, yes it would be to a loving family but I would be giving up my baby girl forever. If the kid isnt mine yeah im out of the clear but the other guy is a jackass, and there is no way she could even do this on her own. I still love her, could I ever love her more then a friend ever again no.

I am really torn in this situation, I relize Im only 17 and this is just huge (dont give me that typical teenager **** , condom, and no sex bs, its all lies for the most part) I dont want this child weither it be mine or not to face the world without the love and care she deserves. I am a only child myself and only had my mom around and I know how hard it is to say your dad didnt want you. I guess this is why it strokes such a deep hurt inside me.

I dont really talk to anyone anymore on this site sep mac, and he didnt even know this was going down. There is just so much more I could type but this makes me hurt enough to cry. I guess I really need some sort of support and reinforcemnt of what things I need todo.

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post Mar 20, 2005 - 1:38 PM
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On one side I wana say if the relationship got to a far enough point where sex got involved and she when aside and cheated, give her the finger and walk off, there is absolutly no exscuse for that nor full forgivness (sp) however personaly, on the other side there is no way I could let her even for what she did be stuck alone in that position wither its yours or not, at that age you have to really step up and help/take over the situation, however if its yours (a test would solve that but i think there costly) then you have a whole new aspect to think about. what natalie said is right, you have to think about it, if the chiled is keeped you have to deside if your/she is able to give it a chance at life, and a resonable place to live and grow up, hopefully with 2 active parents for this baby girls whole life.

I would think of all the options, giving a baby up for adoptions does put a lot to chance, its not a garentee they will get into a good home, (not to discurage you, there are many great fostor care places, and many people who would adopt a baby, the younger the beter I think most cases are) anyway I would alwasy consider obortion because of the situation, it sounds to me like it would be hard to give that baby a great shot at a "normal" chiledhood (not saying its imposible, just hard) and maybe the best thing is to spare the hardship it will induse for the 3 of you (4 if that jackass comes to turms with it)

First step tward taking the resposability for the situation:
- You can pray all you want, but someone is gana have to make the miricle, you have the chance to make it for the girls, both of them, but no one can tell you how but yourself.

Second step:
- Take a LONG drive with her and talk about any and every thing relating to the situation.


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- Clipsetuner   Would you give up your kid?   Mar 20, 2005 - 5:59 AM
- - BlackCelicaGT94   My feeling is if u think ur mature enough to be ha...   Mar 20, 2005 - 8:09 AM
- - SinisterWhisper   well i dunn about condoms being lies (seemed to ha...   Mar 20, 2005 - 10:48 AM
- - Digndoug   I think the whole fact that she cheated on you is ...   Mar 20, 2005 - 11:16 AM
- - spunky393   Thank you Digndoug, i was waiting for someone to p...   Mar 20, 2005 - 12:08 PM
- - creis   On one side I wana say if the relationship got to ...   Mar 20, 2005 - 1:38 PM
- - BlackCelicaGT94   if shes 5 months along (right?) its too late for a...   Mar 20, 2005 - 1:58 PM
- - Anub1s   My friend and his girlfriend had a child together ...   Mar 20, 2005 - 8:06 PM
- - Clipsetuner   Thanks guys this really means alot to me. Its real...   Mar 20, 2005 - 9:06 PM
- - coustoe   hmmm, the problem is there are so many factors, if...   Mar 21, 2005 - 1:04 AM
- - Clipsetuner   O my godd I feel so much better, well sorta but al...   Mar 21, 2005 - 1:56 AM
- - CheesyLobster   you are very luck that she miscarried. dont do tha...   Mar 21, 2005 - 6:15 AM
- - BlackCelicaGT94   hmmm could have sworn bleeding was a sign of a mis...   Mar 21, 2005 - 8:55 AM
- - BlackSTX   Stay away from that girl and never go near her aga...   Mar 21, 2005 - 10:38 AM
- - BlackCelicaGT94   You know if u have a miscarriage!!   Mar 21, 2005 - 11:25 AM
- - nik   i have a one year old and i would NEVER give him u...   Mar 21, 2005 - 12:54 PM
- - acenova   I'm happy for you man, although miscarraiges a...   Mar 21, 2005 - 1:32 PM
- - BlackCelicaGT94   or do what i do! bc and condom and if im not c...   Mar 21, 2005 - 4:08 PM
- - Clipsetuner   Yeah I know I am lucky as hell, but I had some thi...   Mar 21, 2005 - 7:50 PM
- - creis   QUOTEo yeah there was a condom. Dubble up, next ...   Mar 22, 2005 - 12:21 AM
- - BlackCelicaGT94   Ok u never wanna use two condoms! thats just a...   Mar 22, 2005 - 12:49 AM
- - Exile04   Hey im on the same boat as you i dated a girl for ...   Mar 22, 2005 - 1:09 AM
- - Clipsetuner   Yeah It sucks losing a kid persay even tho I wasnt...   Mar 23, 2005 - 5:09 AM
- - creis   how about this... If you dont want it to rip, lea...   Mar 26, 2005 - 6:00 AM


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