I need advice., -sigh- Options

[Jen]

I really need advice, and would appreciate that whomever has something against me to refrain from commenting unless you have real advice that pertains to my situation.

I will put this very vaguely. I found out my boyfriend lied to me. No, he didn't cheat, but he lied.. and it was indeed a very big lie.

Should I just confront him? Or should I ask him more questions to bury him deeper into his hole of lies?

[Galcobar]

In this situation, I'd say give him the rope to hang himself -- whether you drop him through the trapdoor after he's put the noose around his neck depends on the circumstances, most especially prior offences.

Why he lied is a question, but only if there isn't a pattern. Think of it like an assault case: guy beats someone up, claims justified self defence. Believable if he doesn't get into fights. Put a couple of assault convictions on his record, and now it's a pattern of behaviour that shows he isn't learning.

If that's the case, it's time to rescue yourself from the situation. And if you're sentimental enough to worry about the effect on him, it'll have one of two results. Either he's an intractable ass who will be angry at you, or it will be enough of a shock to force him to critically examine his actions and alter his behaviour. Short form: if you haven't reformed him already, dumping him might be the only therapy that will work. Not that I'd suggest considering his feelings in this.

He's the transgressor. Are you hurt, can you trust him? The very fact you're confused enough about this to solicit advice from Internet acquaintences says yes to the first question, no to the second.