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[Celica_Fan]

I call this chick everynight and I am speaking to her next minute I run outta things to say I kinda like her a bit I'm really shy and it's pissing me off tonight I had to go coz I forgot what I was going to tell her she gives me one sentence after I ask her what she likes and I want to be able to make a descent conversation any tips this is really making me mad. and I made myself look like a dick and tonight she isn't on msn.

This post has been edited by Celica_Fan: Dec 16, 2005 - 1:31 AM

[acenova]

Alright, first off man, you need to relax, and start breathing! Second off, talking online and on the phone are two completely different concepts. Online you don't have the akward silences, and thats the first hump to surpass!
Now look, what I've found to help me relax when talking is to just tell myself "F*it. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out, and it just wasn't meant to be." You care too much about the impression you're making on this girl which inhibits you from your natural flow of speach that you have around your friends, where there, you may be a chatter box. The only impression you need to make on this girl, is to show her your true self, and if she doesn't like it, the **** her, she wasn't deserving in the first place, then you move on.
As soon as you can tell yourself that, and believe that to be a fact in your mind, you'll be able to speak your mind. You'll be able to say anything that comes to mind, you just have to relax when you're on the phone and not build it up to be such a big deal, because right now it seems as though this is a HUGE deal, and its REALLY not! Just one fish in an ocean full of boobs...I mean girls! Regardless man just calm yourself down and say what comes to mind and if she has one sentence answers, then even use that as a topic of conversation! Just give her **** a little, a little bit of a hard time. If you can clown on her in a purely joking manner without over doing it, that will relax her a little bit to. Bring up BS conversations and tell her she should learn to BS, which is basically talking about empty topics that keep the mouth moving, but no one's really listening!
Trust me man, if you can relax yourself, everything tends to sail smoothly from there.