I feel like ripping my hair out. Options

[Phat_99CeliGT]

Tonight i told a girl how i felt about her. i told her everything i thought, felt, dreamed, and could offer.
Lets just say that after writing 2 pages so i didn't miss anything and getting the nerve to tell her, i didn't get the response i was hoping for.
im not sure how to take her response. i mean, she didn't say she didn't like me. she was suprised that i liked her.
See, she is comming out of a ****ty relationship. i been by her side the whole time. she tells me everything. her BF is an ass ans just keeps her around to do laundry and a weekend booty call. i hate him with a passion. she has been trying to call him for 3 days and won't answer. she left him VMs telling him its over. shes going crazy waiting on his call.

She is a great girl and deserves ALOT better, and i KNOW i can give her what she was and needs.

I just hope she doesn't go back to him.

I don't know what to do.

should i just keep on doing what i been doing? be her friend and just deal if she takes him back?
if she takes him back, he won't let her talk to me or hang out with me anymore.

[celicaST]

damn i feel you phat. sometimes you want to tell a girl what she means to you, but its a bad idea every time. telling them your feelings is NOT something you want to do no matter how much you want to or you see it in those damn romance movies. life doesnt work like the movies! its creepy for the girl, even if the girl really likes you. for one, actions mean sooo much more than words. you have to show her how you feel over time, not tell her it all in one sitting. its too much for her to handle, especially now. dont be so impatient damnit! should have just played it cool, supported her, keep in touch and she would have came to you if she was interested. you had it in the bag, but sorry man, frankly you blew it. i agree with mac completely, you do sound like a very nice guy but you have to learn how to control your emotions (girls like guys who are confident and in control). i really dont see any way of getting out of this. just find another girl.

***oh and dont rip your hair out, that wont do any good unless she digs bald guys just wanted to add this is one of those learning situations. i would forget about this girl as soon as you can (at least the thought of a relationship, but stay friends) you never know, one way to get her would be to act like you never said anything. get another gf, and then shell start wondering if you meant what you said. let her come to you is what im saying. do not go after her, bad idea. be patient. id say a 50/50 shot if shes interested at all. but in any case, dont dwell on your mistake (because it was a mistake), learn from it.

This post has been edited by celicaST: Feb 14, 2006 - 1:34 AM