My woman problem..., A little advice please? Options

[ExSane]

Ok, this is kinda weird for me to post this up about my personal life but all my friends and family have given me some bad advices and they don't really care so...

Anyways, my ex-girlfriend who I've had a relationship with for a year and a half wants to get back with me. We've broken up for about two months now. She tells me that she cries herself to sleep almost every night and it pains her that I keep pushing myself away. She even cries on the phone when we talk. She calls me almost everyday but I tend to ignore her calls. We use to be close, until she moved up north. I use to be in love with her and I know she is deeply in love with me. But the thing is, I've given her so much and she hasn't given anything since we've been together except words. I don't ask her for anything only becuz I shouldn't have to. And honestly, I have nothing else to give but the words goodbye. For example, for christmas I bought her the rare green Lucky Care Bear (big size) to finish her care bear collection, as well as $200, the new eminem cd, and my promise ring to her. She only got a me a christmas card becuz she spent all her money on clothes for herself. She has my promise ring... still. I even opened up my other phone line for her and I got her about 4 new cellphones becuz she broke most of them when we argued. I've probably sent her $2,500 cash total since we've been together. And another grand or so for all the other stuff. She hasn't sent me anything since we've been together. Ever since she moved away from Florida, we've been planning to meetup. She keeps changing her mind and lying to me constantly. I just had enough and I've given up on her or better yet, us. I never ask anything out of her. The least she can do for me if she loves me like she says she does is to come down from North Carolina for a weekened or a week. But she keeps making excuses and she doesn't even want me to go up there. She is very stubborn. Whenever she wants her free time and space, I respect that and give it to her. But whenever I want to have my own time, she doesn't want to give it to me at all. We've broken up a couple of times before but I kept taking her back becuz I felt bad. I don't want to take her back anymore becuz I know that she will never change. I told her that she has to earn me back now but she hasn't done anything since. I've talked to her last night and I just felt really bad inside becuz she drove to a nearby lake and cried all night. I really don't want to take her back becuz I know I will do it for all the wrong reasons. But becuz the fact I care for her is making me do it... but, I'm not in love with her. Not anymore.

[CelicaBuddy]

hmm sorry to hear about all this... hope everything will work out for ya

yeah... if you dont love her anymore, there is no point in dragging out something that wont work or ever change.

Lil confession from myself... I have done somethin sorta similar in a previous relationship. I just didnt want to be a lone, and go through heart break (even tho I never did). We prolly broke up more than a couple times, but I was stupid at the time and kept wanting to get back even though in the back of my mind I knew things prolly wouldnt change... Finally towards the end, I just got sick of the sh*t he did to me, he wasnt a nice guy lets just say, and we broke up for good.

But main reason why I think your ex-gf is trying to get back to you is because she doesnt wanna be a lone like a lot of people mentioned...

This is what I'd do, I'd just pretty much ignore her completely... Go on with your life and enjoy yourself. Dont waste your time feeling bad about the past, you got better things to do. You've moved on, and if you give her time she will too... It really seems not worth it, and your only hurting her by giving her hope that you two might get back together... Not that saying that you are hurting her, but you get the idea...

hope everythin works out


This post has been edited by CelicaBuddy: Jul 31, 2006 - 10:24 PM