My woman problem..., A little advice please? Options

[ExSane]

Ok, this is kinda weird for me to post this up about my personal life but all my friends and family have given me some bad advices and they don't really care so...

Anyways, my ex-girlfriend who I've had a relationship with for a year and a half wants to get back with me. We've broken up for about two months now. She tells me that she cries herself to sleep almost every night and it pains her that I keep pushing myself away. She even cries on the phone when we talk. She calls me almost everyday but I tend to ignore her calls. We use to be close, until she moved up north. I use to be in love with her and I know she is deeply in love with me. But the thing is, I've given her so much and she hasn't given anything since we've been together except words. I don't ask her for anything only becuz I shouldn't have to. And honestly, I have nothing else to give but the words goodbye. For example, for christmas I bought her the rare green Lucky Care Bear (big size) to finish her care bear collection, as well as $200, the new eminem cd, and my promise ring to her. She only got a me a christmas card becuz she spent all her money on clothes for herself. She has my promise ring... still. I even opened up my other phone line for her and I got her about 4 new cellphones becuz she broke most of them when we argued. I've probably sent her $2,500 cash total since we've been together. And another grand or so for all the other stuff. She hasn't sent me anything since we've been together. Ever since she moved away from Florida, we've been planning to meetup. She keeps changing her mind and lying to me constantly. I just had enough and I've given up on her or better yet, us. I never ask anything out of her. The least she can do for me if she loves me like she says she does is to come down from North Carolina for a weekened or a week. But she keeps making excuses and she doesn't even want me to go up there. She is very stubborn. Whenever she wants her free time and space, I respect that and give it to her. But whenever I want to have my own time, she doesn't want to give it to me at all. We've broken up a couple of times before but I kept taking her back becuz I felt bad. I don't want to take her back anymore becuz I know that she will never change. I told her that she has to earn me back now but she hasn't done anything since. I've talked to her last night and I just felt really bad inside becuz she drove to a nearby lake and cried all night. I really don't want to take her back becuz I know I will do it for all the wrong reasons. But becuz the fact I care for her is making me do it... but, I'm not in love with her. Not anymore.

[creamed_corn]

Wow, this sounds pretty obvious.

There are probably several things going on here:

1. She slept with a bunch of random assholes after she left you. It probably finally caught up with her and she feels like a whore (and lets face it, she is), and now she wants to cling to the one "honest" thing she had in her life.

2. Sounds like you have money. Chicks love money, it's like 60% of how their attraction works. If I go to a bar and give the cocktail waitress 50% overhead she's pretty much begging me to party with her after work. I think this girl doesn't know how to manage her money and wants to be spoiled by you.

3. The "I want what I can't have" syndrome is kicking in. Sounds like you just don't care and are being aloof towards her. Chicks love this. it drives them crazy. Basic principle: we pursue that which retreats from us.

So... my advice? If you miss that a$s, then go get your nut off a few times... then drop that b!tch like a bad habit.

Also, I haven't read what other people have said on this thread, yet, but if lagos said something, listen to him, and if any girls said anything, ignore them. Asking a girl for advice on other girls is like asking Hitler for advice on Jews.