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[bloodrain]

Read this thread before asking a question, it will answer most of your basic questions.

I almost forgot. THE ABSOLUTE MOST IMPORTANT THING ABOUT APPROACHING WOMEN IS BODY LANGUAGE. The best advice I can give you is just stay calm, slow your words down more than normal and give her time to answer your questions. Also dont fidgit with things, thats a big no-no.


lol well guys, I have actually recieved a few PM's from people (names will be hidden unless they want to be revieled) And I decided to start my own thread. If you have any questions on dating, love or attracting the opposite sex, feel free to PM or write a question in this thread and I will give you advice on what I have learned. And keep in mind, its ADVICE. Anywho you can find some older advice in this thread

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 19, 2006 - 10:06 AM

[brianforster]

treat a girl like dirt and shell stick to you like mud.

[CelicaBuddy]

treat a girl like dirt and shell stick to you like mud.

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That seems so f'd up... but it is true in some cases... Girls that do that in my opinion are stupid for putting up with a guy who's treating them like dirt...

I myself would scram if I even had the sense I was being treated like dirt... Hence my last relationship, he suddenly changed from a nice guy to a big douschebag... I left him quick, even though we were together for a year.

2 Weeks later I got another boyfriend (my current one) and I guess you could say I've never been happier... I've been with him for nearly 8 months strong now and he's my best friend. He has never treated me badly, he's respectable, he listens, he's there for me, he can cheer me up... and I do the exact same thing for him.

Unfortunately though... our relationship is going to be going through a huge test... He's going off to the military in less than a month. I really dont know whats going to happen. Time might get the best of us, I really hope it doesnt tho... I really love him and he loves me...

[bloodrain]

treat a girl like dirt and shell stick to you like mud.

first, this statement is completly false. Girls DO NOT WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE DIRT. Now your probably gonna say "i see it all the time, he treats her like ****, but she wont leave." The thing is, the girls not attracted to be treated like ass, shes attracted to the fact he is mature (more or less) and he doesnt act clingy. While hes treating her like ass he is demostrating leadership and male dominance, which girls are attracted to. Girls DO NOT want to make decisions, that is the mans job.


and celicabuddy, your situation is gonna be difficult. As I see it, you have 2 choices.

Option A: Continue the relationship
If you choose to continue it and try to have a long distance relationship, keep in mind they RARELY ever work out. You also run into 2 majors problems.
1) Human nature - While it is possible to 'hold out' until he comes back, you must realize BOTH of you are fighting human nature. Its 100% natural to have 'cravings' for the opposite sex. We love attention from the opposite sex, and being gone for extended periods of time creates thoughts that arent so 'loyal' so to speak. This comes down to how much do you trust him, and how much he trusts you. Because let me tell you, it only takes 1 time for someone to cheat and it will permanatly put thoughts in your head.

2) The military - When people go to the military, they change. He WONT be the same person when he comes back. You can ask anyone who has been in the military, Im sure they will all agree with me. Or even look at your other friends who went into the military, they changed. While he will have alot of the same characteristics of he did before, there will be things that have change, and you will notice them. Now keep in mind I never said ANYTHING about changing for the worse or for the better


Option B: End it on a good note

This would honestly be my choice. Im sure you've heard the old saying "If you love it, set it free, if it comes back, its meant to be" or some variation of that saying. Its 100% true. This will give you time to miss each other, you will be free to date and experience other things. Maybe you find someone else, maybe you realize hes who you want to ultimatly be with. The time apart is a good thing. And like I said, you ended it on a good note, there were no bitter rivlaries. If he kiss's another girl or you kiss a guy, you guys werent together anyways. And when he comes back you can decide if you want to resume where you left off.



Anywho, ultimatly its your choice, as I said before take everything I said with a grain of salt. Use your judgement on what to do. All im here for is to provide some insight on how us humans work, and share past experiences.

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 18, 2006 - 5:31 PM