Opinion on my relationship Please!, All opinions wanted please. Options

[JonCars17]

I've been in a relationship for a month now and it was going great until a week ago. Therefore I'd like to have everyone's opinion on this. Just put yourself in my position and hers and tell me what you think. I'll give you the facts and try to not leave out anything or to be biast because I want your honest opinion. I will show her the percentage of results to prove that my actions over this is justified because she claims I'm acting like an asshole. We are an hours drive away from eachother and I can't see her everyday because of her schedule with school and her mom because of her age (she is 18 in less than a month) and I'm 23.

Her Facts:
`Her ex-boyfriend still calls her
`He doesn't know about me
`When he calls, it is back to back until she answers
`He wants to get back together with her because he thinks she is single.
`She had a girl tell her that she was gonna beat her up today so she calls her ex wanting advice on how to handle the situation because he has been there before.
`He is violent towards other guys and doesn't want us to fight over her and claims it isn't my choice to tell him but hers and only hers.
`He has shown up to her house in hopes to get back together. They sat for like an hour with her family there.
`He is still number 2 on her myspace page where as I'm number 1. (I don't care about this, just stating).


My facts:
`I have 4 classes with a female friend
`My girlfriend doesn't like her (doesnt know her either)
`Her and I study together sometimes (very rarely) at the college campus' library, but only for a test, which is like everyother week if that, but not every test.
`We don't hang out or anything. (Friend and I)
`If I go to the library at all, she assumes I'm meeting up with the friend
`The friend and I only talk on the phone when she has missed a day of class and needs information on a test.

So far results have been from people I've asked are:
3 dump her (2 girls and 1 guy)

Note:
I made it loud and clear I didn't like him calling her and him not knowing about me long before this post, but now I'm just sick of it.

[JonCars17]

kill the ex bf?

Thought about it :-D, lol, but not gonna go to jail for doing something stupid.

Does her myspace say in a relationship? If your #1 on her page, and it says IAR I'd think he already knows.

Trust is THE MOST important thing. If you dont trust her, theres going to be no future. Same goes with her. If she doesnt trust you for no reason this is going to end real fast.

Girls dont like other girls, period. They are way more competitive than guys when it comes to this sorta thing. Her not liking this friend is normal, but she cant be telling you that your lying about seeing her, not after a month. This is supposed to be the honeymoon period.

I selected both of you are wrong cuz honestly I dont think this should be shown to her unless you already said "I'm going to post this ..." I do think that if she's not telling people especially ex's that your going out I think this spells trouble.

If she doesnt tell her ex's or ex about her new b/f, I'd say dump her.

Her myspace never changed even when they were broken up. So when they weren't together it still said In a Relationship so when we got to together that didn't change. All that changed was my position and his on the list. She is telling her friends that we are. Just not her ex and so far she has no intentions of doing so, which I donno why.

how long has she and the ex been split up? cuz if its been less than like 4 months this could just be a rebound for her... and to me it seems like she has been toying with the idea in her head for this past week, or maybe even longer

They have been broken up for 3 months roughly now. So maybe I am a rebound.

Edited:
I doubt she will ever go back to him because of him cheating and she has already stated many times that she would never go back to him because it was a crap relationship. I know this because I asked.

This post has been edited by JonCars17: Dec 13, 2006 - 12:13 PM