Opinion on my relationship Please!, All opinions wanted please. Options

[JonCars17]

I've been in a relationship for a month now and it was going great until a week ago. Therefore I'd like to have everyone's opinion on this. Just put yourself in my position and hers and tell me what you think. I'll give you the facts and try to not leave out anything or to be biast because I want your honest opinion. I will show her the percentage of results to prove that my actions over this is justified because she claims I'm acting like an asshole. We are an hours drive away from eachother and I can't see her everyday because of her schedule with school and her mom because of her age (she is 18 in less than a month) and I'm 23.

Her Facts:
`Her ex-boyfriend still calls her
`He doesn't know about me
`When he calls, it is back to back until she answers
`He wants to get back together with her because he thinks she is single.
`She had a girl tell her that she was gonna beat her up today so she calls her ex wanting advice on how to handle the situation because he has been there before.
`He is violent towards other guys and doesn't want us to fight over her and claims it isn't my choice to tell him but hers and only hers.
`He has shown up to her house in hopes to get back together. They sat for like an hour with her family there.
`He is still number 2 on her myspace page where as I'm number 1. (I don't care about this, just stating).


My facts:
`I have 4 classes with a female friend
`My girlfriend doesn't like her (doesnt know her either)
`Her and I study together sometimes (very rarely) at the college campus' library, but only for a test, which is like everyother week if that, but not every test.
`We don't hang out or anything. (Friend and I)
`If I go to the library at all, she assumes I'm meeting up with the friend
`The friend and I only talk on the phone when she has missed a day of class and needs information on a test.

So far results have been from people I've asked are:
3 dump her (2 girls and 1 guy)

Note:
I made it loud and clear I didn't like him calling her and him not knowing about me long before this post, but now I'm just sick of it.

[LuvinMyCeli]

I think it boils down to how much drama you want in your life. It's obvious that this is causing conflict, and I don't know about you, but there's only so much I'd put up with. (At this point in my life, I have a zero tolerance policy for "drama" anyhow) Really though, weigh the pros and the cons. If you are ready to deal with this day in & day out, then stick with her. But if you aren't...it's time to move on. I can promise you that even if this issue blew over and she told the ex boyfriend that she no longer wanted to talk to him, there would be something else that would come up in the near future. It has afterall only been one month. Immaturity and the inability to see how you feel about this has a lot to do with it. You need to be focused on other things more important, and not dealing with added stress and drama of a dysfunctional relationship. I mean that in the nicest possible way. I feel like if she really cared about you, she'd be working on this with you and not fighting you about it all of the time. Sounds fishy to me.

Not to mention the lack of trust. I have found this to be true though: If someone is constantly nagging you about something; chances are they're doing that very thing themselves. Think about that. She's always accusing you of being with your female friend, and yet she won't even tell her ex-boyfriend that she's no longer single? Hmmm.

I think you'd find you were a whole lot happier in the long run if you let this one go. I can promise you'd see that in a future relationship where there's trust and a whole lot less drama. Hopefully none. Best wishes to you. I hope you get it figured out & make the right decision.