Opinion on my relationship Please!, All opinions wanted please. Options

[JonCars17]

I've been in a relationship for a month now and it was going great until a week ago. Therefore I'd like to have everyone's opinion on this. Just put yourself in my position and hers and tell me what you think. I'll give you the facts and try to not leave out anything or to be biast because I want your honest opinion. I will show her the percentage of results to prove that my actions over this is justified because she claims I'm acting like an asshole. We are an hours drive away from eachother and I can't see her everyday because of her schedule with school and her mom because of her age (she is 18 in less than a month) and I'm 23.

Her Facts:
`Her ex-boyfriend still calls her
`He doesn't know about me
`When he calls, it is back to back until she answers
`He wants to get back together with her because he thinks she is single.
`She had a girl tell her that she was gonna beat her up today so she calls her ex wanting advice on how to handle the situation because he has been there before.
`He is violent towards other guys and doesn't want us to fight over her and claims it isn't my choice to tell him but hers and only hers.
`He has shown up to her house in hopes to get back together. They sat for like an hour with her family there.
`He is still number 2 on her myspace page where as I'm number 1. (I don't care about this, just stating).


My facts:
`I have 4 classes with a female friend
`My girlfriend doesn't like her (doesnt know her either)
`Her and I study together sometimes (very rarely) at the college campus' library, but only for a test, which is like everyother week if that, but not every test.
`We don't hang out or anything. (Friend and I)
`If I go to the library at all, she assumes I'm meeting up with the friend
`The friend and I only talk on the phone when she has missed a day of class and needs information on a test.

So far results have been from people I've asked are:
3 dump her (2 girls and 1 guy)

Note:
I made it loud and clear I didn't like him calling her and him not knowing about me long before this post, but now I'm just sick of it.

[JonCars17]

I am disagreeing with alot of what you all are saying (mostly Jen, Natalie). Your going out with someone for one month and your going to tell them to stop talking to some of their friends? Hows is that remotely a good start to a relationship, by telling them what to do and who they can hang out with? Nobody likes being told what to do especially from somoene they just met. If your gf has known her ex for a long time, you can't expect her to just stop talking to him. Certain things must change like the two of them going out alone and chillin but talking to them? And I'm sure you dont want her to tell you that you cannot talk to this person or that person because they are jealous.

My g/f talks to a couple of her ex's and I do to. Am I thrilled with it? Certainly not but I trust her so I dont worry about it. They are ex bf's for a reason, they didnt work out. Not allowing your sig. other to have friends of the opposite sex is ridiculous. Certain rules apply to ex's but thats it. If you dont trust your s.o. theres no relationship. Long distance relationships but a very heavy strain on this and thats why alot do not work.

Bottom line: you do not NEED her to stop talking to her ex and you do not NEED to stop talking to females because this one study partner isnt where it will end. What you NEED to do is tell her if she's not telling the people who she should be telling about your relationship, she's out.

I don't really want her to stop talking to him because it is not my place to say.. yet. I just mainly want him to know about her and I as a couple.

If you are asking for advice on your relationship on a Celica message board, then that should be your answer right there.

I'm not asking for advice. I'm asking for opinions. Regardless what everyone here says I will end up making my own decision.

This post has been edited by JonCars17: Dec 14, 2006 - 9:41 AM