Breakups Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

How do you handle a break up? This was my first real relationship. It was still a short one - only 4 months and I broke it off cuz it was coming anyways and id rather be the one to do it then sit there and be told im being dumped. Im saddened but also glad that i wont have to worry about why he seems distant and whos calling him and what not. I have to see him tonight to give him his stuff back. Im thinking short and to the point. No drawing it out and talking about what happened.


He text me saying he really didnt want this to happen and he cares for me but he needs to become a better man before he can be in a relationship and to that I said thats fine. I hope you figure things out and find someone at the time for you. And he got mad and said ya know what ill just talk to you later. and im like why are you geting upset and he said cuz its not easy for him and he didnt want this to happen. so idk if hes upset or upset that im not crying to him about it.

Idk what to do. I wanna cry but i dont. I wanna be strong cuz im sure ill have worst breakups down the road. And i keep thinking this wasnt a bad breakup. it coulda been worst. he coulda cheated or something.

Peoples input on how to just not think about a breakup would be helpful. I warned him that i cant be friends with him..atleast not right now. I also erased him off my myspace. took down the pics of us and what not. I took down the pics in my room. I dont wanna throw them away cuz what if we become friends at some point. Ya never know.

Any suggestions (in a nice manner) would be greatly appreciated

[jason]

dont rebound.. will make you look bad, and dont do stuff to make him jealous, be mature about it, let him ruin his ego on his own. its hard losing a part of your life, but trust me... there are ALOT of tin cans in the dump. aka im sure someday you'll find someone much better, if your not at least 90% happy with someone or cant tolerate/understand them 100% its never gonna work. my advice, dont be a whore, dont rebound because its only a temporary fix, if ya rebound, your gonna drag someone along hurt them, and in the end realize you f'd up. take him outta ur life slowly like they said above, but you gatta stick to ur guns, if you have come this far to the point were you wanna break it off, dont double guess yourself. if your not 25 or older and you have more than 5 friends im sure you will be juuuust fine =) - for the next time around... find a REALLY sweet and nice guy, find someone who makes you laugh and is easy going, yet cares & has alot of concern for you - i dunno how you guys stood with one another, or what type of person you are, but find someone who makes you feel good and also makes you feel good - fyi the honeymoon stage norm lasts 3-4 months