Breakups Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

How do you handle a break up? This was my first real relationship. It was still a short one - only 4 months and I broke it off cuz it was coming anyways and id rather be the one to do it then sit there and be told im being dumped. Im saddened but also glad that i wont have to worry about why he seems distant and whos calling him and what not. I have to see him tonight to give him his stuff back. Im thinking short and to the point. No drawing it out and talking about what happened.


He text me saying he really didnt want this to happen and he cares for me but he needs to become a better man before he can be in a relationship and to that I said thats fine. I hope you figure things out and find someone at the time for you. And he got mad and said ya know what ill just talk to you later. and im like why are you geting upset and he said cuz its not easy for him and he didnt want this to happen. so idk if hes upset or upset that im not crying to him about it.

Idk what to do. I wanna cry but i dont. I wanna be strong cuz im sure ill have worst breakups down the road. And i keep thinking this wasnt a bad breakup. it coulda been worst. he coulda cheated or something.

Peoples input on how to just not think about a breakup would be helpful. I warned him that i cant be friends with him..atleast not right now. I also erased him off my myspace. took down the pics of us and what not. I took down the pics in my room. I dont wanna throw them away cuz what if we become friends at some point. Ya never know.

Any suggestions (in a nice manner) would be greatly appreciated

[Digndoug]

In all honesty, I think you did what you needed. All relationships have there ups and downs, 2 people have to be devoted to keep a healthy relationship. Also, you are young, you need to figure out what you want, in life a relationship and a guy/man what ever.

Just keep friends around you, dont do anything stupid like a rebond or anything, as well dont competly cut him out of ur life. but keep any talking very short and brief.

I personally have wanted to break up with my girl many of times. Im stil with her, we have been togeather for a little over a year. I get to the point i want to, I then space my self from her, and basicly ride it out. Its not the best thing to do, but i dont want to end a relationship and regret it. But the other thing is, im only making it harder on myself if we were to...

I myself, want a break.. but, I have never seen a "break" work well. For my situation, its not that i want someone else, or what to go sleep with others, i just need my space to get my life stright. But I also am sure if i were to take a break, somthing would most likly happen for us not to get back togeather.

One of the biggist problems with relationships is spending to much time togeather. you need to have your space from the other. I know thats why my relationship has been going down hill, I dont get my space.

Ok , il end ranting, im not even sure if i helped or even awsnerd anything