Breakups Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

How do you handle a break up? This was my first real relationship. It was still a short one - only 4 months and I broke it off cuz it was coming anyways and id rather be the one to do it then sit there and be told im being dumped. Im saddened but also glad that i wont have to worry about why he seems distant and whos calling him and what not. I have to see him tonight to give him his stuff back. Im thinking short and to the point. No drawing it out and talking about what happened.


He text me saying he really didnt want this to happen and he cares for me but he needs to become a better man before he can be in a relationship and to that I said thats fine. I hope you figure things out and find someone at the time for you. And he got mad and said ya know what ill just talk to you later. and im like why are you geting upset and he said cuz its not easy for him and he didnt want this to happen. so idk if hes upset or upset that im not crying to him about it.

Idk what to do. I wanna cry but i dont. I wanna be strong cuz im sure ill have worst breakups down the road. And i keep thinking this wasnt a bad breakup. it coulda been worst. he coulda cheated or something.

Peoples input on how to just not think about a breakup would be helpful. I warned him that i cant be friends with him..atleast not right now. I also erased him off my myspace. took down the pics of us and what not. I took down the pics in my room. I dont wanna throw them away cuz what if we become friends at some point. Ya never know.

Any suggestions (in a nice manner) would be greatly appreciated

[BlackCelicaGT94]

^ thats why we broke. cuz he needed to get his life straight. hes 23 and lives at home, has no car of his own and is in debt and has nothign to show for it. he said he wants to become a better man before being in a relationship. makes sense. idk. hearing from his friends that hes taking this hard is bitter sweet. im glad to hear hes probably more upset than me but also it sucks cuz it makes me wanna talk to him and be like lets just get back together.

none of my friends, family or coworkers really liked him tho cuz he was 23 and isnt doing my much for himself. they want me with someone better.

My friend wants me to go to a club tonight but ive never really liked clubs and im not sure if im ready to go out and be around lots of people.

You guys keep saying dont cut him outta my life but it seems easier to just do that. talking to him would just lead me to wanting to talk about our relationship and i dont wanna do that. I told him that the line is always open and he can make the contact to talk to me and I will talk to him but I probably cant and wont go outta my way to talk to him.