Breakups Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

How do you handle a break up? This was my first real relationship. It was still a short one - only 4 months and I broke it off cuz it was coming anyways and id rather be the one to do it then sit there and be told im being dumped. Im saddened but also glad that i wont have to worry about why he seems distant and whos calling him and what not. I have to see him tonight to give him his stuff back. Im thinking short and to the point. No drawing it out and talking about what happened.


He text me saying he really didnt want this to happen and he cares for me but he needs to become a better man before he can be in a relationship and to that I said thats fine. I hope you figure things out and find someone at the time for you. And he got mad and said ya know what ill just talk to you later. and im like why are you geting upset and he said cuz its not easy for him and he didnt want this to happen. so idk if hes upset or upset that im not crying to him about it.

Idk what to do. I wanna cry but i dont. I wanna be strong cuz im sure ill have worst breakups down the road. And i keep thinking this wasnt a bad breakup. it coulda been worst. he coulda cheated or something.

Peoples input on how to just not think about a breakup would be helpful. I warned him that i cant be friends with him..atleast not right now. I also erased him off my myspace. took down the pics of us and what not. I took down the pics in my room. I dont wanna throw them away cuz what if we become friends at some point. Ya never know.

Any suggestions (in a nice manner) would be greatly appreciated

[cjh4l22]

sounds pretty typical. me and my ex, still a decently good friend of mine as of now, have been going through pretty much the same stuff. difference is... we're quite a bit younger (19&18) and i have a feeling part of it is because she doesn't wanna regret me later and wants the opportunity to date other guys before we get anymore serious than we already were. anywho... sorry to get sidetracked, but it sounds like he def. didn't feel it was necessary to end it but, at the same time IMHO, i think he might be smart and make use of this time to upgrade his life... maybe he will, maybe he won't. At the same time, just remember.. everything happens for a reason. And if your a believer as I am... god has a plan for everyone. Yea i know that doesn't sound so helpful but i'm trying to use it to keep my spirits up. not working, but yea. lol best of luck.