Is this cheating? Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

So i got my phone back from my ex and went thru it and he didnt delete texts messages so i went thru them to find out he was texting with some chick he knew online. She wrote something to the effect of "if you were here id make out with u" and he wrote back "im jealous of the lucky guy"

he doesnt think that is like mentally cheating.

he just lost any chance to get back with me down the line thats for sure. im over even talking to him.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

so now what? hes written me a couple of times saying he misses me and truly cares about me and wants to be with me but we both know that right at this moment in time we cant be. He has things to work on and im kinda doing my own thing to better myself.

but....we were talking about what would need to happen if we got back together and I said he would need to stop talking to the chick who disrespected our relationship. I also mentioned he was one to disrespect our relationship by talking to her in a flirting manner.

he said he would not put up with an altamateum (sp?) of who he could talk to or not. Its not like im saying he cant talk to his friends. Im saying that he should end contact with a girl who hes never even met and who he disrespected our relationship by flirting with.

Do you think I should stick to my guns? I mean im very serious about that ending before we get back together. Im not going to tell him who he can and cant talk to and id hope that he would wanna stop talkign to her considering he would lose me if he doesnt. and he says he really wants to be with me and truly cares for me. So why would it be that hard to give up some internet chick?

Tell me what you guys think.