Psychology Stuff, Anyone need some info? Options

[Bigmeanbulldog55]

I just want everyone to know that I'm a graduating Psychology major (BS) with a good deal of experience for my age, and I want to make myself available to those who need me. I know it's embarrassing to admit that there could be something wrong or to even ask questions sometimes, but believe me I know the stats on it and I know the huge amount of people that suffer from these issues. Feel free to post here or pm me any questions you have. Remember, I am giving my educated opinion. It may always be correct, but it's the best I can do.

If this is a success, I may start my own forum just for this.

[Bigmeanbulldog55]

Question:

I have been wanting to see a psychologist cuz I have pretty bad anxiety issues. It just ended my last relationship cuz I never trusted him and always assumed the worst. If he says he was going to go bowling with his parents I would assume that it was a lie and really he was hanging with some girls or something. So its something I wanna seek help for before I get in another relationship cuz I don't wanna end up marrying a guy and he says he's going on a business trip and I freak out and harass him about probably cheating. ya know what I mean? Any ideas on how to resolve anxiety?

Answer:
I think it's a great idea to wait until you feel comfortable with yourself and your anxiety before starting a new relationship. I'm so glad to hear that instead of starting a new relationship to fix anxiety issue, which only compounds the problems. As far as your anxiety with relationships goes, is this the strongest factor? If so, there could be a lot of reasons for that. I believe we, although born with certain attributes, are mostly products of experience. If you have had trouble with your partner cheating on you in the past, you should feel anxious about future partners doing the same. If you didn't, you wouldn't be learning and it would be unnatural. You have to be at peace with yourself, and so does your partner. If you feel jealous or suspicious, they need to know and the two of you need to deal with it appropriately. And of course, appropriately never means by fighting about it. Accepting a partner with anxiety issues is no different than accepting a partner with messy habit. Some can deal with messy people, and others can't. However, if your anxiety is more generalized to the point that you notice worrying about a lot of stuff, you should consider seeing a psychiatrist and consoler. I believe in medication to help solve problems. The brain is the same as your arm, if it experiences trauma, it will be hurt. This is easily thought of as damage brain means mental retardation, but that's not what I'm talking about. When a traumatic event occurs, it can elicit so many strong emotions that it can "sprain' the brain. This causes chemical imbalances sometimes that can lead to anxiety or depression. These imbalances sometimes stay that way your entire life if not treated. But with treatment, medication can be like a cast on a broken arm and get things back to normal relatively quickly. It's important to note that psychiatric medication is still a growing field and as such has not been completely perfected. It does work, but you cannot expect to go to a psychiatrist and take the first or even second medication they give you and have these give you your desired results. If any medication is ever given for any psychiatric problem, it needs to be accompanied by consoling. Otherwise, it has a big chance of failing.

This post has been edited by Bigmeanbulldog55: Mar 16, 2007 - 10:04 AM