Turn offs Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

What are your turn offs with the opposite sex?


Heres mine

Bad Teeth
when they cant read my mind or take hints :-P

[yarik83]

To answer your questions I would like to mainly concentrate on financial ties. I am not sure how things are in Croatia, but in usa the concept of living together does not just imply living together. In usa you need medical insurance, then you need car insurance, then you have bills to pay for including tv, internet, phone, you have other things to worry about as well such as buying essentials for life and more expensive stuff such as furtniture and electronics. So somewhere down the road you stop and think. How am I to pay for it all? In america there are 2 options to get money. One involves taking out a loan from a bank and second one involves saving for years and years. So basically with loans behind you for things like college, furniture, car payments etc etc. It all piles up into the wonderful thing you call adult life. Its also fun and games if you are managing credit card bills and other bills for yourself rather than for 2 people. You are not married but yet you often find yourself having to pay for 2 people. Yes there are 2 incomes but for 2 young people thats often not enough.. so what happens is that you start catching yourself adding the "little things" for example your phone bill starts getting bigger and since no self respecting parent would pay for a cellphone bill of their child who is grown up and lives with a partner you start combining things. You get a shared plan for both of you. Then there are other things like neccesity for tv and internet among other things. Then college bills and med insurance bills to cover... then something else. So you find your paycheck cut from x to x-14% (for government taxes)-75%(bills)-rest of it is left on you. Then you realise that your love'd one's income does not cover tuition all too well and frankly it does not cover many things because her hopes of being a non profit what you may call it.. dont work out too well. So you start paying for that.. then you buy 2 cars and pay for that and insurance then you definetly need a bed, a tv, chairs, a table, silverware, kitchen appliances, towels, toilet paper etc etc etc. And somewhere down the road you catch yourself thinking,, why am I under 24 and have bills that of a married 30 year old? So financial side is always there. If you and your girlfriend/boyfriend havent gone through that yet... ohh trust me you will. It hits you like a truck and if you dont pay there are consiquences.

To answer your question about maturity. I never had the opportunity to have a unconditional girlfriend whereby I have nothing to worry about. I never did. I skipped all that and moved straight on to adult life because when you live in a different country on your own that is something that you do. And eventually female compationship that you do encounter starts showing up at your place more than once per week, then she kinda sleeps over a few times, then she kinda moves in then you kinda start sharing bills then she kinda gets comfortable living not paying rent and start using your credit card. Then you ask her for money to help pay for things.. she gets either pissy about it or accepts it.. and in either case you are either not having enough money to keep up with consumeristic tendencies of your other half or just holding on to your pants and hoping there will be no extra bills to pay. Living in america is har for a young adult, its especially hard for young adults who get no help.
Before I run off to work here is a perfect example about some of my past experiences. You walk into a store to buy tooilet paper. 3 mins later you come out with toilet paper.
You send your lady there and she comes out 45 mins later with toilet paper, socks, slippers, sun glasses, a plant, pillow cases, a loveseat rug, completely forgets toilet paper but buys laundry detergent and grabs a magazine on her way out.

-same thing applies to running phone bills up or backing up into an old ladys car, leaving her info (because old lady was not there)and calling cops so that your insurance skyrockets. Just to name a few.

This post has been edited by yarik83: Jul 17, 2007 - 6:00 AM