BUNCH OF BS, Need someone to talk to...... Options

[celiracer]

I really need someone to talk to right now. I've been dating my g/f for 3 1/2 years. And I just found out that she has feelings for someone else. She says that she doesn't know what she wants right now. And doesn't know if she wants me or this other person. I have no idea what to do. I love her so much, and she means everything to me. She also says that she still cares for me and still loves me. But doesn't know what to do. what should i do? And what does everyone else think about this situation?

[yarik83]

Ok now that I came from work and my eyes are not bothering me but my stuffy nose is..

If you study human behavior and yes that includes psychology you would recognize signs of cheating from signs of relationship burnout.

Scenario one-seven symbolize just seven of gazillion ways a relationship is not working out.

I think i need more space
I am not sure this is working out
Where are we going with this relationship
I cant stand all ........(listing things here).....things you do
Me and ... decided its best for us to....
Why cant we be like....
See if you had a better job.....

Now here are few signs of many of how to spot that a lady is cheating.
-I think I have feelings for someone else.
if she had some feelings as of fell in love with someone that would signify that she had been close with that person. Whether that was kissing, dry shtooping and or intercourse.. because a girl may have a crush on someone like brad pit and or that guy in the mall passing by.. but in those cases she tells you about it making you a bit jealous. And she does it on purpose and playfully. Ladies are extremely easy to seduse whether they admit it or not. A married woman with 3 kids and a loving husband could fall far the "lagoon creature" if all things fall into right places. Does that mean that she plans to leave family? No but an act is an act is an act. And lagoon creature whoopsie doopsie stays on your mind often with reprecussions. A guy does not tolerate cheating the way a girl may. If you are a guy and your girl does so much as plants a kiss on another guy who is not her family member or a business kiss on cheek we immediately steam about it because at that very moment we envision our lady being with that guy and in that very moment only 3 words come on our mind. What The F.

Another way to tell is if she is not in the mood for.... over and over and over

Of course this may sound like a generalization and of course if a lady was ready this she would be rather upset with my words but I have seen it all too many times. A lady tipycally has more common sence than a guy does when it comes to relationships and a lady who lost interest in her guy would first break up and then go looking for other opportunities rather than the other way around.