What to do !, my dad is killing me ... Options

[NaderG]

So i tuned 18 like a month ago and i can actually do stuff without needing parents signature... i wanted to get a bike so i went ahead bought some ride gear , signed u for a motorcycle safety course for which is really really good and i recommend it to those who ride but learned on their own .... anyways , my dad found out after i went for the first session in the course and is against the idea completely ! he said to forget about it and not even bother finishing the course and even return my gear and stuff.... i tired explaining how it can be safe depending on the driver( he thinks i am an insane driver because he drivers slower than the average grandma while i am a bit more spirited) and the techniques plus i am planning to buy a pretty slow bike ! ( GS500F ) .... he is also against me customizing the car in any form , he is against engine swap, lowering and what not ..... so what should i do ?????
Things i need to mention :
1-i cant move out ... i from Egypt ( probably only Egyptian with a 6gc woot!) and as culture dictates , it is not so ok to move out
2-Even if i moved out because of school or whatever, i still have to get his permission for everything ( culture too)

So ya , i am pretty much screwed ....... uh , i just needed to rant !!

thanks if u bothered reading this

[kerosene]

I know a few middle eastern people, and they deal with the same thing... but look at the positive side to all of it, since you are such a tight knit family you don't have to worry about how you are going to pay for school, or a place to live. If I remember correctly, you arn't really allowed to move out for school. It has it's benefits and it's negative's, all your dad is trying to do is look out for you, and quite frankly he is right about motorcyles, they do kill 18 year olds, especially when they decide to show off for their girl.

Sorry to say your screwed, but until you get a wife he is the boss, and when you do get a wife, she will be the boss, no win situation what so ever. Good Luck ^^

[lubu]

..... all your dad is trying to do is look out for you, and quite frankly he is right about motorcyles, they do kill 18 year olds, especially when they decide to show off for their girl.

Sorry to say your screwed, but until you get a wife he is the boss, and when you do get a wife, she will be the boss, no win situation what so ever. Good Luck ^^

No not really, if he is really looking out for you he should tell you to wear safety helmet or actually teach you how to drive..for god sake you've already signed for the safety course. I feel that you're a responsible driver and I dont think that motocycle are dangerous at all if driven correctly, btw Im also planning to get my motocycle license sometime this year's fall.

Ur dad, sorry if I offence you/him but I think he is a bit narrow minded. Hes living in the 21st century, should losen up abit. He should let you do all the things you've been wanting to do (good things) while ur young, he couldnt/didnt do while he were young doesnt mean that you cant do it too. Some parents are really narrow minded and as a result their childrens usually arent very sucessful in life due to the facts that they werent allowed to do anything when they were young, and these are the things that contribute knowledges and experiences.

Dont try explain to him (thats what we do when we are kids, explain. Ur not in the wrong here) just sit him down and talk to him man to man. Calmly, slowly, make him feels that he can trust you with that bike and that you are a man now, you're fully aware of what ur doing and hes not needed to worry..He'll understand.

GL

[kerosene]

No not really, if he is really looking out for you he should tell you to wear safety helmet or actually teach you how to drive..for god sake you've already signed for the safety course. I feel that you're a responsible driver and I dont think that motocycle are dangerous at all if driven correctly, btw Im also planning to get my motocycle license sometime this year's fall.

Doesn't matter safe you are, just like Chinaman said, it is all the other A**holes you have to worry about...

Ur dad, sorry if I offence you/him but I think he is a bit narrow minded. Hes living in the 21st century, should losen up abit. He should let you do all the things you've been wanting to do (good things) while ur young, he couldnt/didnt do while he were young doesnt mean that you cant do it too. Some parents are really narrow minded and as a result their childrens usually arent very sucessful in life due to the facts that they werent allowed to do anything when they were young, and these are the things that contribute knowledges and experiences.

It is not like that, you really can't do that either... family, tradition, respect for parents are the top things... You can't really say something like "this is the 21st century" you will get nowhere....

[lubu]

No not really, if he is really looking out for you he should tell you to wear safety helmet or actually teach you how to drive..for god sake you've already signed for the safety course. I feel that you're a responsible driver and I dont think that motocycle are dangerous at all if driven correctly, btw Im also planning to get my motocycle license sometime this year's fall.

Doesn't matter safe you are, just like Chinaman said, it is all the other A**holes you have to worry about...

Ur dad, sorry if I offence you/him but I think he is a bit narrow minded. Hes living in the 21st century, should losen up abit. He should let you do all the things you've been wanting to do (good things) while ur young, he couldnt/didnt do while he were young doesnt mean that you cant do it too. Some parents are really narrow minded and as a result their childrens usually arent very sucessful in life due to the facts that they werent allowed to do anything when they were young, and these are the things that contribute knowledges and experiences.

It is not like that, you really can't do that either... family, tradition, respect for parents are the top things... You can't really say something like "this is the 21st century" you will get nowhere....

Thats no family tradition, no such thing as "no riding motorbike tradition". Respect your parents, yes i'e always have and will always will, but when they are trying to control how you life and they are in the wrong you just gotta talk to them. Talking to them stating what you want to do doesnt mean disrespect, it means you've grown up and fully aware of ur actions...If you cant even sit down with ur parents and have a real conversation then you will have a lot headaches in the future.

If you always think abt the other bad drivers outthere then for all ur life you wont be able to drive a bike. Mate if you think all the bad things that might happen then just might as well go back to ur mother's womb, coz life is rough!!!

You've said "you cant really do that either",have you ever sit down and talk to your parents??? I guess not. Dont discourage others and make a bold statement when you cant do it urself. Thats pathetic.

Oh and for the part "will get you nowhere", well i think it got me somewhere...how abt a mining engineering degree? My parents raised me caringly always treat me like an aldult, we have much respect for each other. All opinions are discussed together at dinner table and the pros and cons were outlined, Im grateful that i turned out the way am im now so dont go and say you will get nowhere when you dont know the person to talking to, at all...

This post has been edited by lubu: Oct 21, 2007 - 10:43 AM

[kerosene]

No not really, if he is really looking out for you he should tell you to wear safety helmet or actually teach you how to drive..for god sake you've already signed for the safety course. I feel that you're a responsible driver and I dont think that motocycle are dangerous at all if driven correctly, btw Im also planning to get my motocycle license sometime this year's fall.

Doesn't matter safe you are, just like Chinaman said, it is all the other A**holes you have to worry about...

Ur dad, sorry if I offence you/him but I think he is a bit narrow minded. Hes living in the 21st century, should losen up abit. He should let you do all the things you've been wanting to do (good things) while ur young, he couldnt/didnt do while he were young doesnt mean that you cant do it too. Some parents are really narrow minded and as a result their childrens usually arent very sucessful in life due to the facts that they werent allowed to do anything when they were young, and these are the things that contribute knowledges and experiences.

It is not like that, you really can't do that either... family, tradition, respect for parents are the top things... You can't really say something like "this is the 21st century" you will get nowhere....

You've said "you cant really do that either",have you ever sit down and talk to your parents??? I guess not. Dont discourage others and make a bold statement when you cant do it urself. Thats pathetic.

I don't speak to my parents too often, I wasn't part of a "Family" that really cared what we did I respected my mum and still do, i havnt spoken to my "father" in 10 months now, not even a word... Never had to sit down with my "parents" but than again Middle Eastern traditions are DIFFERENT than Polish... I just know many people that are in the same situation which are older than me, and can't really do anything about it until they move out, and then start their own life.