getting hitched?, Need some ladies advice here Options

[Rayme]

I'm at that point in life wherw me and the GF talks more and more about marriage. I don't have a problem with it I love her. But my main concern is all that is money related wise..specially the "stone".

To put things in perspective, we have 2 relatively new cars and a house, all which are not paied, I make under 30 000$ a year, she makes about 15% more than me annualy.

Cliff note, the girl wants a ring that is about 2000$+, she has that way of saying afford what you can but I'll be sad and disapointed if I get a 400$ ring.

Oh and by the way, I got the reputation of being cheap. That's the way I can afford a WRX with my salary, no really. I want to make sure that everyone knows I'm hovering the "paycheck to paycheck" situation.

Why does getting married be a money issue? Girls are so brainwashed into that one fairy tales day in their life. I'll say right now I'd like to get a cheaper ring and actually use that saved money toward something more practical. Her day is being added to the pressure saying a man should spend 2 months salary on a ring..yea thats like 4000$ or 80$ a month for 4 years. Actually I investigated that thought and found it to be a marketing ploy by a diamond company so I dont think much of it anymore.

Am I being cheap talking like that? I spent the 2 last years getting out of debt..I refuse to be slave to money problems. And then we have all those project..which would eventually be more $ spent..

need counseling

[_mikeE]

Well, how long have you been with your gf? And, its not a good thing to try to "rush" you into a marriage (long-term agreement) like this, you both should wait on the right time. And yes you are right that marriage shouldn't be about how nice a ring is but the dedication and agreement you agreed to mend upon for marrying her.
But damn, you're in quite of a jam man, especially with her wanting a rock like that woosh! Still hope to seeing you coming out to Sherbrooke bro.

Also to jokerkid613, you're gonna eventually have to settle down someday. By the time you hit about 40, you're gonna eventually realize you wanna start a family and stable job and life. As goes with when you're retired, you don't wanna bum around in a retirement home now do ya? You're gonna wanna live in a nice house that you worked for and that your kids will raise and live in ease.