getting hitched?, Need some ladies advice here Options

[Rayme]

I'm at that point in life wherw me and the GF talks more and more about marriage. I don't have a problem with it I love her. But my main concern is all that is money related wise..specially the "stone".

To put things in perspective, we have 2 relatively new cars and a house, all which are not paied, I make under 30 000$ a year, she makes about 15% more than me annualy.

Cliff note, the girl wants a ring that is about 2000$+, she has that way of saying afford what you can but I'll be sad and disapointed if I get a 400$ ring.

Oh and by the way, I got the reputation of being cheap. That's the way I can afford a WRX with my salary, no really. I want to make sure that everyone knows I'm hovering the "paycheck to paycheck" situation.

Why does getting married be a money issue? Girls are so brainwashed into that one fairy tales day in their life. I'll say right now I'd like to get a cheaper ring and actually use that saved money toward something more practical. Her day is being added to the pressure saying a man should spend 2 months salary on a ring..yea thats like 4000$ or 80$ a month for 4 years. Actually I investigated that thought and found it to be a marketing ploy by a diamond company so I dont think much of it anymore.

Am I being cheap talking like that? I spent the 2 last years getting out of debt..I refuse to be slave to money problems. And then we have all those project..which would eventually be more $ spent..

need counseling

[ILuvMyCelica95]

my gf would take anything i give her and still love it...if its a $50 ring vs $4000...its suppose to a symbol of your love not how much you pay to love her

The real truth spoken right here.

You gots to pay to keep tappin that bootay!

I lol'd Art.

You know what? Today's fake diamonds are indistinguishable from real diamonds to the untrained eye. Some are so hard that they can actually cut glass too.

I say you get her a ring with a 3/4 carat (not too big) fake diamond with a REALLY nice gold band that you think she would like. It will set you back about $250 but it will look identical to a $3000 ring. You could say you got it on ebay. That way if she ever gets it appraised and finds out your secret, you could claim that YOU got scammed!

[I do not take responsibility to what this might do to your relationship if you are caught.... ]

Not a bad idea.


And now for my rant.

I HATE when women talk about marriage all the time and pressure their boyfriends. I talk about it with my b/f but we BOTH bring it up.
If she HAS to have a $2,000 ring tell her tough **** you're going to have to wait If you are at the paycheck to paycheck point putting yourself in debt so she can show off a ring to her friends is pure stupidity. If you have a really good relationship you should be able to talk about it openly. That's what I do. Chris knows exactly the kind of ring i want but he knows that whatever he gives me whether it be 2 carats or .2 i'm going to be happy because I get to spend the rest of my life with someone i love.
In conclusion it SHOULD NOT be all about the ring. Do what you can afford and if she can't deal with that then it's time to move on.