Starting Over Again......., Kind of hard to admit this stuff, but I ask for advice Options

[Random_Stranger]

Okay, need both the advice from a woman's perspective and men who know how to talk to girls (obviously I am tired of being shy and ready to get back out there). So I am over this whole "Ex" thing now and ready to get back out there. Naturally I am not too too aggressive, but aggressive is necessary in my city as women are not likely to just walk up and talk to you.

So I want some advice on etiquette. Is it okay to ask a chick out who you just met for the first time, let's say if you show up at her work? For instance....

Just tonight coming back from Tuner Tuesdays, I stopped off at a store to get some smokes. A girl about my age asked if I needed help. So I asked for the smokes, showed ID. Then she is like "So how are you doing tonight?" and I was like "Good" then I paused thinking "Why would she even bother talking to me? No one really does that they just ring you up and send your happy ass on your way". I am not the kind to take kindness for general interest, yet I was curious to pursue because she was pretty and had a Fat Booty (which I admit I like that* Here is where you laugh). So I asked her "How is your day?" and she was like "Good actually, and I get off work here in a bit so that is even better" and I was like "Yeah, that is good". Then she was like "Well you take care" and I said "you too" and left.

Now, normally this really doesn't happen to me. The only time it does is when I make eye contact with a girl and she smiles a lot and then we end up talking a bit before I leave. So I dunno how to read women. Was a situation like that just out of kindness? I mean, me personally, would strike up conversations with "regulars" be it man or woman, and if a girl caught my eye, then I try to talk to them. So would a woman operate the same way?

I am lost. It has been awhile (like a few years) since I have started dating (I mean seriously, not just having booty calls here and there from chicks a lil lower than your standards). Looking for something around my level (not saying that I am all that either though). I know this is a stupid thread, but I dunno who else to turn to and it is starting to be kind of a big deal for me. I mean I am 26! I am still young, but this stuff I should have down already!

You guys wanna flame me it is cool, but like I said, I really ask your thoughts.

[forkee]

I wouldnt read too much into the conversation. It was just small talk and its not like she was asking you what you were gonna do later. she just sounded either bored or tired of working that day and couldnt wait to get off. a lot of times, striking meaningless conversations with people makes the time go by faster. it also thins the air if its awkwardly quiet for no reason.

what you should do next time to get a better idea of whether or not she is into you is to continue the conversation and have her say more

her - "Good actually, and I get off work here in a bit so that is even better"

"Yeah, that is good".

then you can either ask

-- "but why stop the fun youre having here?" (sarcasm, use only if you think theyre that type of person)
-- "long day?" (safe question that just allows them to talk freely)
-- "you going to go home and relax?" (an ok question but predisposes an idea that doesn't include you unless youre really that lucky)
-- "were you going to go out and see a movie or something? (takes some guts, allows you to talk about a movie or restaurant you like or want to check out and if they havent gone, maybe you can take them) ex. "well actually im not doing anything tonight but i really wanted to check out ______ because ive heard it was really good. if you don't have anything planned, would you be interested in joining me tonight?"
-- "sounds good. is your boyfriend taking you somewhere special tonight?" (really ballsy if you think about it, but if said calmly, comes out smooth like normal conversation. it also flat out asks if they have a significant other, great if you want to know right away so you dont have to waste anymore of anyone's time.)