Starting Over Again......., Kind of hard to admit this stuff, but I ask for advice Options

[Random_Stranger]

Okay, need both the advice from a woman's perspective and men who know how to talk to girls (obviously I am tired of being shy and ready to get back out there). So I am over this whole "Ex" thing now and ready to get back out there. Naturally I am not too too aggressive, but aggressive is necessary in my city as women are not likely to just walk up and talk to you.

So I want some advice on etiquette. Is it okay to ask a chick out who you just met for the first time, let's say if you show up at her work? For instance....

Just tonight coming back from Tuner Tuesdays, I stopped off at a store to get some smokes. A girl about my age asked if I needed help. So I asked for the smokes, showed ID. Then she is like "So how are you doing tonight?" and I was like "Good" then I paused thinking "Why would she even bother talking to me? No one really does that they just ring you up and send your happy ass on your way". I am not the kind to take kindness for general interest, yet I was curious to pursue because she was pretty and had a Fat Booty (which I admit I like that* Here is where you laugh). So I asked her "How is your day?" and she was like "Good actually, and I get off work here in a bit so that is even better" and I was like "Yeah, that is good". Then she was like "Well you take care" and I said "you too" and left.

Now, normally this really doesn't happen to me. The only time it does is when I make eye contact with a girl and she smiles a lot and then we end up talking a bit before I leave. So I dunno how to read women. Was a situation like that just out of kindness? I mean, me personally, would strike up conversations with "regulars" be it man or woman, and if a girl caught my eye, then I try to talk to them. So would a woman operate the same way?

I am lost. It has been awhile (like a few years) since I have started dating (I mean seriously, not just having booty calls here and there from chicks a lil lower than your standards). Looking for something around my level (not saying that I am all that either though). I know this is a stupid thread, but I dunno who else to turn to and it is starting to be kind of a big deal for me. I mean I am 26! I am still young, but this stuff I should have down already!

You guys wanna flame me it is cool, but like I said, I really ask your thoughts.

[forkee]

ummm.....yea u totally blew that one. you should have ask "so do u usually have classes around this time? or just on (day of week)? that way you can find out what kind of schedule she has (possibly suggesting that you can wait for her to get your parking the rest of the semester). hell you could have continued on the subject of your name and asked if you were gonna get lucky tomorrow too, lol. then you can continue by asking what classes shes taking, if theyre hard, easy, whatever. good/bad teacher. suggest maybe you can swap numbers so that when a particular class comes along maybe you can get/ receive some pointers, etc. this approach is way less creepy than flat out asking for their number. chicks see that as desparation rather than being straightforward.

"Oh you got a ride, so you were lucky", and I was like "Yeah, from a pretty lady, so I suppose I am quite lucky". "totally. i just wish i was this lucky every day. so whats your schedule tomorrow?"

never use pretty. use cute, hot, stunning, fine
never use lady (unless theyre old). use chick

"maybe i can get lucky again and get another ride from a hot chick."

fyi college people always ask if you want a ride to your car, especially if theyre late for class. it guarantees them a spot rather than having to stalk someone walking then realizing theres a car idling nearby that has first dibs on that parking space. think happy thoughts if u like, but if its an ugly chick or even a dude, theyre not trying to hit on you, they just want your parking.

[Random_Stranger]

ummm.....yea u totally blew that one. you should have ask "so do u usually have classes around this time? or just on (day of week)? that way you can find out what kind of schedule she has (possibly suggesting that you can wait for her to get your parking the rest of the semester). hell you could have continued on the subject of your name and asked if you were gonna get lucky tomorrow too, lol. then you can continue by asking what classes shes taking, if theyre hard, easy, whatever. good/bad teacher. suggest maybe you can swap numbers so that when a particular class comes along maybe you can get/ receive some pointers, etc. this approach is way less creepy than flat out asking for their number. chicks see that as desparation rather than being straightforward.

"Oh you got a ride, so you were lucky", and I was like "Yeah, from a pretty lady, so I suppose I am quite lucky". "totally. i just wish i was this lucky every day. so whats your schedule tomorrow?"

never use pretty. use cute, hot, stunning, fine
never use lady (unless theyre old). use chick

"maybe i can get lucky again and get another ride from a hot chick."

fyi college people always ask if you want a ride to your car, especially if theyre late for class. it guarantees them a spot rather than having to stalk someone walking then realizing theres a car idling nearby that has first dibs on that parking space. think happy thoughts if u like, but if its an ugly chick or even a dude, theyre not trying to hit on you, they just want your parking.

True, but I asked her if she wanted to follow me for the spot. I have had them follow me before without saying anything before, or just following me. A ride? You know we got ex convicts an stuff at my college? Literally people straight up out the Pen. Notice in movies like The Cell, psychos are often related to "Bakersfield" in movies? They mean here for a reason.

I really hope I run into her again. I am going to try and leave class again early the next day on purpose! Sit outside the car on the phone and piss off everyone else until I see her up around that time. LOL It is going to be great!