Am I in the wrong?, Just venting, folks. Options

[SwissFerdi]

Just to clear things up from the start, I live with my dad. His girlfriend pays for groceries, and my dad pays for college tuition and books (I have a scholarship covering 78 dollars per credit hour). However, I don't contribute monetarily to the household. My mother, on the other hand, pays for my insurance (health, car) and paid for the car itself...pretty much providing me with everything else I need. My parents are divorced.

Having said that, my dad is pretty strict, stubborn, hard-headed, and close-minded. I have no problem with the guy most of the time. However, I had a girl over last night, we watched a movie and just chilled, cuddled, etc., nothing more. She ended up staying over for the night (and I was just enlightened again that this is not acceptable). Apparently his girlfriend noticed she was still there in the morning (don't know how) and told him, along with the fact that I left some dirty dishes on the counter-top from when we made food. So he calls me up and reams me a new one for breaking some ground rules...well, the fact is that a) nothing happened, b) his girlfriend did not inquire whatsoever to the situation, I haven't even talked to her about it since I haven't seen her, and C), he does not know the girl since he's away to work and I basically just met her. I did introduce her to his girlfriend when we came in.

So basically, I feel like this is unnecessarily overprotective. I'm 19, an adult by American standards, responsible, and respectful of the rules. There's no way I'll have Ferdi Jr.'s running around anytime soon, and it's ridiculous to be so protective when he hasn't even met the girl yet.

All in all, I really like this girl and she feels the same way, so I don't want a potential relationship to be ruined because of this.

This post has been edited by SwissFerdi: Oct 13, 2009 - 9:43 PM

[TRD_Ian]

i ran in to this issue before i moved out....i payed for my own car.insurance gas and was going to trade school and was paying room and board as soon as high school was over


so i sat down with my folks and they set rules and i set rules myself one of them was i was aloud to have girls over....

i explained i was active and that being able to stay home with a girl was alot safer then trying to get home nights after partying or trying to rail in the back seat of a tercel...i lived in my own lil apartment thing down stairs so they didnt have to see or hear any one coming or going.....i ltr moved away from home were i created my own rules and pretty much had my girl friend live with me (big frigin mistake lol) for 2 years then moved back home after being laid off..... new girl friend apeared and i went threw the rule deal again when my mom interupted me and the gf one night while in the middle of it....i explained im 22 i pay room and board and live in an apartment pretty much....unless u want a cranky 22 year old on ur case let me have my fun...its not harming u any.....its been great ever since