Need some opinions...., I guess there's a first time for everything.... Options

[dabazied]

Ok, you guys and gals are fam, so I figured I'd vent and get some opinions here.

Went to a buddy's house for his b-day party(it was all day and night). He turned 40 and had all kinds of family and friends come over(along with some mutual friends). One of his nieces was there and we kind of hit it off all day. By 630pm all the older family members left so the party got a little wilder. I took her to bed around 9 and had a bedroom dance going on. Got woken up after a lil 15min nap by 2 friends I hadn't seen in 2yrs at around midnight......

Side note.... She had been asking her uncle(my buddy) whether I was a good guy or whether I was going to "play her face" during the day and asked for advice from her brother's g/f. They told her the truth, I am an a-double snake-hole but am honest, upfront, forward, loyal(when in a relationship), and sweet(to those close to me). Also, I found out that the niece lives only like 10 mins from where I'm staying at the moment(the party was about 2 hrs drive from where Im staying). Also, the niece was steady saying, "you won't even remember my name or who I am if I get your number but I want it anyways." End side note.

I got up and hit the keg again and tons of shots with my friends I hadn't seen in a while.(At this point the niece is still sleeping in the room) At this point the party had dwindled to only about 9 of us not counting the sleeping lady. I went for a bathroom break and as I finished washing my hands, the door opened suddenly and I was pushed into the shower by two 19 yr old ladies and it went from there. Anyways, that all finished a while later and then one of the 19yr old's bro was ready to go and he took both of them home.

Side note #2.... None of the birthday boy's family was at the party by the time I got woken up by the friends I hadn't seen in 2yrs other than my friend and the niece. End side note #2.

After another hour or so of partying the niece woke up and decided to hang out. At this point there are only 6 of us. One of the friends left and we were more in chill mode and hanging other than partying.

I had to leave at like 5am because I had a meeting for business about an hr and a half on the other side of where I am currently staying, so about a 3.5hr drive. I gave the niece my number because she asked for it. I went to my meeting and all that jazz. After the meeting on Sunday(a week ago) she texted me and we texted for a while just talking. Monday, work work and more work for me but we were still texting all day. My night work didn't end until 1am Monday/Tuesday morning. She works 715-415. Tuesday she was supposed to go out of town for some learning thing for her work, but she wasn't driving and wanted me to come over after work Monday night/Tuesday morning. So I did.

We learned a lot about each other and have a lot in common. We talked for hours about anything and everything without skipping a beat and never running out of stuff to talk about. I told her, when it's time I have to leave just to let me know. We ended up having some more fun again that night, talked some more and then she let me know that she needed to get to bed and stuff so I took that as the sign to go, but asked just for reconfirmation to be the nice guy. She said yeah, so I left.

We texted all day Tuesday(her initiating all texting btw from the get go). She had told me she has no b/f and it appeared so from her apt. We texted Wednesday as well. Then it all stopped, no texts no communication at all. I sent her a text on Friday and got no response. I have tried not bothering her, but this has been kinda bothering me quite a bit. I really like this girl(for her, not the fact that we had bedroom time cuz bedroom time is easy to get). Ive never had anyone just fall off the face of the earth before and never been played before. Did I just get played or am I over thinking things? We are really compatible. Hit me up with opinions. This is just frustrating and has been bothering me a bit.

[SwissFerdi]

Who gives a **** what she thinks...WTF do you do to get two women to rush you in the shower?

But anyway, I'm gonna echo what has been said...she probably found out. Unless her line got cancelled or her family took her phone away or something, she's just not replying is my thought. Her initiating all of the texting would make me think that she'd want to talk, and the fact that there's suddenly no response makes me think it's her choice.

This post has been edited by SwissFerdi: Apr 19, 2010 - 7:28 PM

[D-Man]

Who gives a **** what she thinks...WTF do you do to get two women to rush you in the shower?

... or her family took her phone away or something...

1- it's quite easy actually. I find being a total asshole to everyone works, and dont care about anything but yourself, and whats yours. Chicks dig self-centered ass holes! look at how far Lil'Bit has gone for me; with only knowing me a few months. But to keep this thread open (well, as long as it's going to last) you can PM me for tha details.


2- Not everyone here is 14 years old just you.

[dabazied]

Who gives a **** what she thinks...WTF do you do to get two women to rush you in the shower?

... or her family took her phone away or something...

1- it's quite easy actually. I find being a total asshole to everyone works, and dont care about anything but yourself, and whats yours. Chicks dig self-centered ass holes! look at how far Lil'Bit has gone for me; with only knowing me a few months. But to keep this thread open (well, as long as it's going to last) you can PM me for tha details.


2- Not everyone here is 14 years old just you.

Point #1 is sooooo very true and one to live by..... And of course she knows about the 2 in the shower(I'm an a**hole and am very honest, so I've told her that before even going to her house).

All of your guys who think the 2 19 yr olds is a big deal, simmer down, it's nothing new and not at all a big deal(maybe to the niece but not overall). Stuff like that happens to me on a regular basis to be honest. I coulda had a 3rd in there but her bf was actually at the party and watching her like a hawk. And both of the 2 19yr olds' bfs called me the other day(same time, conference call) and were acting all hard(like most Caucasian males do and on the east coast they don't do much). I gave them all my info, where I work(both job infos) what my schedule usually is and when I should be in their area again for the next party that they don't have an invite to but told them that their gfs were more than welcome to come again(in more ways than one). They got flustered(especially since one of the girls told me that she had never had the big "o" before me and I used that as a convo piece with the bfs) and haven't heard from them since. Have heard from the ladies tho, meh..... I'm over it.

The niece called me last night. Apparently her bro has been in the hospital, I went and saw him this morning and then me and the niece left to celebrate the holiday today. I jumped the gun, my bad, but its cuz she is pretty cool.

Side note, she knows that until she asks if she can claim me as a bf/gf status relationship, I will still be up to shenanigans. End note.