Ex coming for Xmas, Advice needed Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

So my boyfriend and I were in the car last night and he said "hey babe dont be mad but my ex is coming to my grandparents for xmas." i was like "what? why" and he said his mom invited her over because shes like the daughter they never had and the mom has presents for her. So I told him that was rude and made me feel like his mom doesnt like me. He said she does.

My boyfriend and the girl dated for 5 years and broke up a year ago. I understand that theres history there and the parents probably do love her but they need to realize that hes not with her anymore. If you have gifts for the ex then you do it on a seperate time. Take her to lunch or something. WHy would they invite her over for xmas when im going to be there??

My boyfriend didnt get her gift and he said his mom didnt get her a gift for him to give her or anything.

Part of me doesnt want to go but then i feel like she wins if i dont go. But i dont want to put my boyfriend in a bad situation though if I was him Id be like "WTF MOM WHY ARE YOU INVITING MY EX OVER WHEN MY NEW GF IS COMING." So im thinking of having a talk with him and telling him I really need him to be there for me and be my side that day. Im not going to tell him not to talk to her while shes there but tell him that its really difficult for me.

Theres no reason his mom shouldnt like me. Coomers parents love me, my friends parents love me...Its weird how my boyfriends parents dont LOVE me. They talk to me but they dont seem to think im the best for him for whatever reason. Maybe its cuz im a city girl and hes a small town guy. I dont know. :-(


What do you guys think I should do?