Dedicated to my girls of 6gc Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

I was gonna PM this to the girls but didnt wanna forget any of them!

This is my tribute to the nice girls. To the nice girls who are overlooked, who become friends and nothing more, who spend hours fixating upon their looks and their personalities and their actions because it must be they that are doing something wrong. This is for the girls who don't give it up on the first date, who don't want to play mind games, who provide a comforting hug and a supportive audience for a story they've heard a thousand times. This is for the girls who understand that they aren't perfect and that the guys they're interested in aren't either, for the girls who flirt and laugh and worry and obsess over the slightest glance, whisper, touch, because somehow they are able to keep alive that hope that maybe... maybe this time he'll have understood. This is an homage to the girls who laugh loud and often, who are comfortable in skirts and sweats and combat boots, who care more than they should for guys who don't deserve their attention. This is for those girls who have been in the trenches, who have watched other girls time and time again fake up and make up and **** up the guys in their lives without saying a word. This is for the girls who have been there from the beginning and have heard the trite words of advice, from "there are plenty of fish in the sea," to "time heals all wounds." This is to honor those girls who know that guys are just as scared as they are, who know that they deserve better, who are seeking to find it.

This is for the girls who have never been in love, but know that it's an experience that they don't want to miss out on. For the girls who have sought a night with friends and been greeted by a night of catcalling, rude comments and explicit invitations that they'd rather not have experienced. This is for the girls who have spent their weekends sitting on the sidelines of a beer pong tournament or a case race, or playing Florence Nightingale for a vomiting guy friend or a comatose crush, who have received a drunk phone call just before dawn from someone who doesn't care enough to invite them over but is still willing to pass out in their bed. This is for the girls who have left sad song lyrics in their away messages, who have tried to make someone understand through a subliminally appealing profile, who have time and time again dropped their male friend hint after hint after hint only to watch him chase after the first blonde girl in a skirt. This is for the girls who have been told that they're too good or too smart or too pretty, who have been given compliments as a way of breaking off a relationship, who have ever been told they are only wanted as a friend.

This one's for the girls who you can take home to mom, but won't because it's easier to sleep with a whore than foster a relationship; this is for the girls who have been led on by words and kisses and touches, all of which were either only true for the moment, or never real to begin with. This is for the girls who have allowed a guy into their head and heart and bed, only to discover that he's just not ready, he's just not over her, he's just not looking to be tied down; this is for the girls who believe the excuses because it's easier to believe that it's not that they don't want you, it's that they don't want anyone. This is for the girls who have had their hearts broken and their hopes dashed by someone too cavalier to have cared in the first place; this is for the nights spent dissecting every word and syllable and inflection in his speech, for the nights when you've returned home alone, for the nights when you've seen from across the room him leaning a little too close, or standing a little too near, or talking a little too softly for the girl he's with to be a random hookup. This is for the girls who have endured party after party in his presence, finally having realized that it wasn't that he didn't want a relationship: it was that he didn't want you. I honor you for the night his dog died or his grandmother died or his little brother crashed his car and you held him, thinking that if you only comforted him just right, or said the right words, or rubbed his back in the right way then perhaps he'd realize what it was that he already had. This is for the night you realized that it would never happen, and the sunrise you saw the next morning after failing to sleep.

This is for the "I really like you, so let's still be friends" comment after you read more into a situation than he ever intended; this is for never realizing that when you choose friends, you seldom choose those which make you cry yourself to sleep. This is for the hugs you've received from your female friends, for the nights they've reassured you that you are beautiful and intelligent and amazing and loyal and truly worthy of a great guy; this is for the despair you all felt as you sat in the aftermath of your tears, knowing that that night the only companionship you'd have was with a pillow and your teddy bear. This is for the girls who have been used and abused, who have endured what he was giving because at least he was giving something; this is for the stupidity of the nights we've believed that something was better than nothing, though his something was nothing we'd have ever wanted. This is for the girls who have been satisified with too little and who have learned never to expect anything more: for the girls who don't think that they deserve more, because they've been conditioned for so long to accept the scraps thrown to them by guys.

This is what I don't understand. Men sit and question and whine that girls are only attracted to the mean guys, the guys who berate them and belittle them and don't appreciate them and don't want them; who use them for sex and think of little else than where their next conquest will be made. Men complain that they never meet nice girls, girls who are genuinely interested and compelling, who are intelligent and sweet and smart and beautiful; men despair that no good women want to share in their lives, that girls play mindgames, that girls love to keep them hanging. Yet, men, I ask you: were you to meet one of these genuinely interested, thrillingly compelling, interesting and intelligent and sweet and beautiful and smart girls, were you to give her your number and wait for her to call... and if you were to receive a call from her the next day and she, in her truthful, loyal, intelligent and straightforward nice girl fashion, were to tell you that she finds you intriguing and attractive and interesting and worth her time and perhaps material from which she could fashion a boyfriend, would you or would you not immediately call your friends to tell them of the "stalker chick" you'd met the night prior, who called you and wore her heart on her sleeve and told the truth? And would you, or would you not, refuse to make plans with her, speak with her, see her again, and once again return to the bar or club or party scene and search once more for this "nice girl" who you just cannot seem to find? Because therein lies the truth, guys: we nice girls are everywhere. But you're not looking for a nice girl. You're not looking for someone genuinely interested in your intermural basketball game, or your anatomy midterm grade, or that argument you keep having with your father; you're looking for a quick fix, a night when you can pretend to have a connection with another human being which is just as disposable as the condom you were using during it.

So don't say you're on the lookout for nice girls, guys, when you pass us up on every step you take. Sometimes we go undercover; sometimes we go in disguise: sometimes when that girl in the low cut shirt or the too tight miniskirt won't answer your catcalls, sometimes you're looking at a nice girl in whore's clothing - - we might say we like the attention, we might blush and giggle and turn back to our friends, but we're all thinking the same thing: "This isn't me. Tomorrow morning, I'll be wearing a teeshirt and flannel shorts, I'll have slept alone and I'll be making my hungover best friend breakfast. See through the disguise. See me." You never do. Why? Because you only see the exterior, you only see the slutty girl who welcomes those advances. You don't want the nice girl.. so don't say you're looking for a relationship: relationships take time and energy and intent, three things we're willing to extend - - but in return, we're looking for compassion and loyalty and trust, three things you never seem willing to express. Maybe nice guys finish last, but in the race they're running they're chasing after the whores and the sluts and the easy-targets... the nice girls are waiting at the finish line with water and towels and a congradulatory hug (and yes, if she's a nice girl and she likes you, the sweatiness probably won't matter), hoping against hope that maybe you'll realize that they're the ones that you want at the end of that silly race.

So maybe it won't last forever. Maybe some of those guys in that race will turn in their running shoes and make their way to the concession stand where we're waiting; however, until that happens, we still have each other, that silly race to watch, and all the chocolate we can eat.

[chucho]

if u can find me a girl that doesnt play head games and can hold a serious conversation w/ me then i'll go out w/ them tonight. & I dont date whores, if I find out you've taken a couple laps around the block I have to say "Peace"

[ILuvMyCelica95]

Maybe i'm overly sensitive... or maybe this just hit too close to home... all i know is I'm definatly in tears.

But sometimes i need to hear it and I know im not alone. Thanks Nat <3

[Jen]

That was beautiful.

[amysmojo]

Did you steal my thoughts or somethin??? Very nice

[latinomasfino]

well nat im touched by wut u said cause i agree with u and i am a guy..we guys look for the "nice girl" yet someeimtes are blinded to see that she is right in front of our eyes..we look at the exterior first and most times leads us to short skirt girls who end up being whores....yet this is for all the guys
this is a tribute to the genuine nice guys
to those guys who are innocent and caring..who would treat their girl with respect and love..who would go out of thier way for thier girl.
for all the guys who are not sex freaks and honetly feel it should be with someone who u have deep feelings for not just that drunken slut from a party
to those guys who call it "making love" and not just "fukcing"
to all those guys who listen to what the girl says and ends up talkin to her till 5 am
to all those guys who are nice but are said to be "too nice and too innocent"
to all those guys who are not given the chance and are rejected beacue they are not "experienced enought"
to all those guys who have been dumped or rejected by a girl who ends up with that "bad boy"
to all those guys who still belive in romance
to all those guys who find the greatest joy in something soo simple like to just cuddle up with girl and fall asleep together in each others arms
to all those guys who just felt they were not good enough for a girl
to all those guys who didnt even get a kiss from a girl till the age of 18

yes we guys look for the sweet girl that girl that is smart compelling and has something about her that we cant resist. yes many times girls are with guys who treat them like shyt and u want to tell them "i woud never treat u like that y dont u give me a chance" as for the comment about if we found that girl would we give her the light of day...for the guys who are genuilly tru yes we would. cause when u meet a girl like taht and you have a connection like that no other girl matters..because the tru guy will be thinking about that girl the next day and its not thoughts like "damnn shes banging i want to hit that" its more like "wow shes soo amazing i miss her smile i miss her voice i miss her kiss i miss givingher that tender hug i miss cuddling up wiht her i miss just hearing her breathe as she sleeps in my arms" thats wut the genuine guy will be thinking

so girls yes many many guys are assholes and i think almost all of us have been at somepoint..but dont think all of us guys are players and just want a quick bang..some of us want to find a girl that touches our heart...also girls sometimes us guys are just slow i knwo cause i am LOL but see sometiems u expect us to understand to be able to read u but its not that we cant its just that we might not be on the same page as u thats y i cant stress it enought : COMMUNICATION....whether it be u like us and find us appealing yet u dont tell us..or we did something and we are kinda slow and dont notice it and you get mad cause we dindt say we were sorri

im gonna be honest..we do look at appearence but i think so do girls i mean first thing u notice in a person is the way they look...its human nature..yet it is the personality and the way the person is that end up etching that person to our hearts
a girl could be sooooo sexy have a stunning body and gorgoues eyes but if they are a bithc us genuine guys wiill lose instant attraction to them...we would rather go for that girl who might not be as SEXY but has her sexiness but most importantly has the small things that attract us to them whether it be the way they giggle, the way they smile, the way thier eyes look into yours...the way they caress ur face when u cuddle next to them...the way they make you laugh...or playfully make fun of u....who argues with u but in a playful way..that girl who is nice yet has her edgy side to her..

thast the girl we want a sweet caring girl with an edge beautful to our eyes who makes us realize the purpose we wake up in the morning everyday : )

This post has been edited by latinomasfino: May 6, 2005 - 12:30 AM

[Jdog1385]

damn thats a long post

[Mr2_Joel]

nat did u copy that off myspace or something ?

[celica47]

LAtin i love you man lol.... Yours and NAts are deep bro

[lil_lissa]

so pretty..

[ILuvMyCelica95]

Well Latin... I'm sure there are guys like that out there...but either I'm really really ugly or they dont exisit in New York. So in this case i need a good plastic surgeon and a plane ticket... hahahahaha

[95gtschick]

i was lucky enough to find one of those genuinely nice guys that's why i'm keeping him forever

[latinomasfino]

Well Latin... I'm sure there are guys like that out there...but either I'm really really ugly or they dont exisit in New York. So in this case i need a good plastic surgeon and a plane ticket... hahahahaha
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haha nooo tina ur gorgeous babe and ur ITALIAN ; ) ill fly down to NY just for u lol see i think we shouldnt like attempt to make something work we shoudl just accept it if it comes...we shouldt go loooking for love..it should just happen..or when there is an opportunity dont waste it sometimes we are looking in the wrong places

[ILuvMyCelica95]

Well Latin... I'm sure there are guys like that out there...but either I'm really really ugly or they dont exisit in New York. So in this case i need a good plastic surgeon and a plane ticket... hahahahaha
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haha nooo tina ur gorgeous babe and ur ITALIAN ; ) ill fly down to NY just for u lol see i think we shouldnt like attempt to make something work we shoudl just accept it if it comes...we shouldt go loooking for love..it should just happen..or when there is an opportunity dont waste it sometimes we are looking in the wrong places
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ha ha there you go, guys should come to me!

yeah i give up on trying to find a guy, so i'll just sit around and wait, seems like a plan to me

[BlackCelicaGT94]

My book called "HES JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU" says we shouldnt ask guys out. If a guy is too intimidated by us to ask us out to coffee then we dont really want that guy.

I love this book. I am definetly not asking another guy to go out for coffee.

I have been trying to look for love for the past year and a half and im done with it.

[ILuvMyCelica95]

My book called "HES JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU" says we shouldnt ask guys out. If a guy is too intimidated by us to ask us out to coffee then we dont really want that guy.

I love this book. I am definetly not asking another guy to go out for coffee.

I have been trying to look for love for the past year and a half and im done with it.
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agreed!!

one of my guy friends said im intimidating... personally i don't think so.. but whatever

[BlackCelicaGT94]

ive had a lot of guys ive dated say that they were too intimidated to approach me cuz they assume i would have a bf


...I WISH

[ILuvMyCelica95]

oh and Nat... did you write that?

[BlackCelicaGT94]

No i found it on some girls myspace blog

[nik]

No i found it on some girls myspace blog
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thats what i though i could have sworen i read that some where
no offence but thats a little too in depth for you to write