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[bloodrain]

8) For your next relationship/gf, when you get her number, DO NOT call her for atleast 5 DAYS. So if you get it on a saturday call her one a thursday. But if the 5 day rule falls on a friday, saturday or sunday(IE. you get the number monday you call on saturday, right? NO only call and make plans for non-normal date days (normal date days are friday saturday)

^ ok tom lykis


NEVER approach a woman in a club who has her girlfriends with her. There is NO point, you will NOT get laid when women are in groups.

If you are not getting laid by the 3rd date, dump her and move on. (i agree with this if both sides arent really looking for a relationship)

Haha nat, first, im not tim lykis (whoever he is, lol) second, there is nothing wrong with approaching a woman in a crowd, its just VERY hard to get the number. You have to know what your doing, i've succsesfully done it 4 times, out of about 8 attempts (all different groups of course.) And about the getting laid part, if you base your relationship off sex, its not going to last. Period. If you looking for a good time, then follow that rule, if your trying to have a relationship, then dont even push for sex. And the less you push for it the better your chances are of getting it. Again, this throws girls in a loop, they always assume you want to get laid, if you can show them you dont, you've managed to retain the power. Good job ;-)

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Ya know whats hot? when ur dating a guy and ur in the moment of messing around and he wont let it go further!

[bloodrain]

Ya know whats hot? when ur dating a guy and ur in the moment of messing around and he wont let it go further!

and again, it proves my point. Girls want what they cant have. And the less you want it, the more you get it. lol

[BlackCelicaGT94]

No its more of a wow he wants this to go somewhere rather than a place to keep his friend warm and happy

[brianforster]

treat a girl like dirt and shell stick to you like mud.

[CelicaBuddy]

treat a girl like dirt and shell stick to you like mud.

^

That seems so f'd up... but it is true in some cases... Girls that do that in my opinion are stupid for putting up with a guy who's treating them like dirt...

I myself would scram if I even had the sense I was being treated like dirt... Hence my last relationship, he suddenly changed from a nice guy to a big douschebag... I left him quick, even though we were together for a year.

2 Weeks later I got another boyfriend (my current one) and I guess you could say I've never been happier... I've been with him for nearly 8 months strong now and he's my best friend. He has never treated me badly, he's respectable, he listens, he's there for me, he can cheer me up... and I do the exact same thing for him.

Unfortunately though... our relationship is going to be going through a huge test... He's going off to the military in less than a month. I really dont know whats going to happen. Time might get the best of us, I really hope it doesnt tho... I really love him and he loves me...

[bloodrain]

treat a girl like dirt and shell stick to you like mud.

first, this statement is completly false. Girls DO NOT WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE DIRT. Now your probably gonna say "i see it all the time, he treats her like ****, but she wont leave." The thing is, the girls not attracted to be treated like ass, shes attracted to the fact he is mature (more or less) and he doesnt act clingy. While hes treating her like ass he is demostrating leadership and male dominance, which girls are attracted to. Girls DO NOT want to make decisions, that is the mans job.


and celicabuddy, your situation is gonna be difficult. As I see it, you have 2 choices.

Option A: Continue the relationship
If you choose to continue it and try to have a long distance relationship, keep in mind they RARELY ever work out. You also run into 2 majors problems.
1) Human nature - While it is possible to 'hold out' until he comes back, you must realize BOTH of you are fighting human nature. Its 100% natural to have 'cravings' for the opposite sex. We love attention from the opposite sex, and being gone for extended periods of time creates thoughts that arent so 'loyal' so to speak. This comes down to how much do you trust him, and how much he trusts you. Because let me tell you, it only takes 1 time for someone to cheat and it will permanatly put thoughts in your head.

2) The military - When people go to the military, they change. He WONT be the same person when he comes back. You can ask anyone who has been in the military, Im sure they will all agree with me. Or even look at your other friends who went into the military, they changed. While he will have alot of the same characteristics of he did before, there will be things that have change, and you will notice them. Now keep in mind I never said ANYTHING about changing for the worse or for the better


Option B: End it on a good note

This would honestly be my choice. Im sure you've heard the old saying "If you love it, set it free, if it comes back, its meant to be" or some variation of that saying. Its 100% true. This will give you time to miss each other, you will be free to date and experience other things. Maybe you find someone else, maybe you realize hes who you want to ultimatly be with. The time apart is a good thing. And like I said, you ended it on a good note, there were no bitter rivlaries. If he kiss's another girl or you kiss a guy, you guys werent together anyways. And when he comes back you can decide if you want to resume where you left off.



Anywho, ultimatly its your choice, as I said before take everything I said with a grain of salt. Use your judgement on what to do. All im here for is to provide some insight on how us humans work, and share past experiences.

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 18, 2006 - 5:31 PM

[IdiotStick]

I bet you he's been reading it all and writing down notes, but just wanted to add the usuall immature remark, such as that.

I can't think of anything else to ask right now, you've pretty much summed up the basics.

[MaskedMan]

wow you are awesome, this is all very good advice.

[CelicaBuddy]

I get what your sayin Bloodrain.... I dont ever really find myself cheating. I would end it before I'd ever stoop that low.

I've thought of both choices to be honest...

K my reason's for hanging in there and continuing...

His job he's got in the Army will give him A LOT of leave time... He's going to be a Linguist (sp?). Basically he'll get every federal holiday off and then some more... Which means he's gonna be around a lot, but then again he wont.

Then also... It wont really matter that he's gone, cuz even if he was still around I wouldnt really have the time to hnag around with him. Cuz I'm gonna go to school in the winter. I'm gonna be far too busy with that, like homework, projects, studying all that bs and then plus working. i wont really have time for a boyfriend With him leaving it's kinda a bonus... Cuz now where doing what we want to get our lives all figured out, and we cant really slow each other down... In my eyes I see it as a positive thing...

There's a few other reasons... but thats basically it...

Then I thought of just ending it... cuz well I'm still very young. I dont wanna like make a mistake by waiting around for someone, when later having it end... Cuz then whats the outcome of that? I waited around for someone who was never around, then when they were around it ended and i wasted my time for nothing, when I coulda been out and about with other people ya know... finding out what type of person i really want... Thats the main reaosn why I thought about ending it.

And then yes the military does change people... but not that much. I would know My best friend left for the army after I graduated. She calls me every now and then and its as if nothing really changed. She's got the same old sense of humor, and everything. I think the only thing that's changed about her is that now she's more responsible, WAY more mature, and well serious. But she's still herself... But that's just one person from the military. I dont know what could happen to my boyfriend... But from what Ive seen with my best friend, that would be an added bonus to my boyfriend lol

Im not too worried about the military changing him... Ive hung around a lot of military people, and I love them all, they are all just so awesome... I'm actually kinda excited to see what the military will do to my boyfriend...

For now I'm gonna hang in there and see what happens... When he leaves in the middle of September, he'll be back for Christmas... 3 months basically... We'll see what 3 months can do...

It definetly sucks tho...

This post has been edited by CelicaBuddy: Aug 18, 2006 - 9:19 PM

[bloodrain]

ya you have good reasons for tryin to hang in there. And like I said about the military, just because it changes people doesnt mean its bad, it also can be for the better (and usaully is) And since your going back to school that will definatly help, because right now you need to worry about school. Knowledge is forever (until you get old, lol) boyfriends, usaully arent... when hes down, focus on the time that hes there, not about what hes been doing. When he comes back hes gonna have a few stories to tell but hes really interested in you, so try to stay away from the "what did you do, where did you go" questions. Anywho, I wish the best of luck to you guys and if you have any other questions (relationship related or not) feel free to ask :-D or PM like a few others did who didnt want there bussiness posted on the internet, you secrets are safe with me! lol

bloodrain you so crzy I think this is really good.

The only problem i have is I spend so much on my car just to get it maintenance cause the previous owner did not care for it at all. I spend my whole paycheck just about. After getting all my maint. done i get a hit and run, broken into or one lil thing cause a whole castrophe. I feel like giving up on it. But i dont want to let it go. I'm in love with the car, I adore it so much and its so bad that its a turn off to the girls i talk to now. I was looking around for a mr2 or a rx7, but i just cant seem to let it go. I really need a reliable car right now cuz my job is a 45min drive and i car pool with a guy that listens to gothic death metal @ 6am in the morning. gd. i rather drive myself but i only got 4 gears to work with and i dont wana blow my motor up driving 5k rpm. So iono. What would YOU do? Maybe i should post a couple of pix of whats bad of it.

sorry I didnt reply to ya, didnt see ur post at the bottom.

this is another pretty simple situation, even tho it doesnt involve girls (much) it involves material possession. The first thing you have to do is decide what do you really want. What makes you really happy? From your first sentence alone I said to myself was "the celica is a highly reliable car, why would you have to blow paycheck after paycheck to fix it." So what I would theoretically suggest is sell the car and buy a decent celica. How much did you buy the current celica for? How much have you dumped into it for repairs? How much would a decent celica cost? Im sure you got the celica pretty cheap, no? Well the old saying still stands "you get what you pay for."IF it was me, I would sell the celica and just buy a reliable one and save your money for something larger (house, condo, or just plain out save your money) but I do understand how you feel, its fun to have a nice car that u can work on. As far as always talking about it around girls, thats just something you have to train yourself on. If you think your going to start talking about your car to them, simply just stop yourself. Now im assuming when you talked about your celica to girls it was on a date or something? Give me an example and I could help ya out more with it. Maybe give you something to say, or just find another way to divert your attention away from the celica.

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 18, 2006 - 9:36 PM

[BlackCelicaGT94]

I get what your sayin Bloodrain.... I dont ever really find myself cheating. I would end it before I'd ever stoop that low.

I've thought of both choices to be honest...

K my reason's for hanging in there and continuing...

His job he's got in the Army will give him A LOT of leave time... He's going to be a Linguist (sp?). Basically he'll get every federal holiday off and then some more... Which means he's gonna be around a lot, but then again he wont.

Then also... It wont really matter that he's gone, cuz even if he was still around I wouldnt really have the time to hnag around with him. Cuz I'm gonna go to school in the winter. I'm gonna be far too busy with that, like homework, projects, studying all that bs and then plus working. i wont really have time for a boyfriend With him leaving it's kinda a bonus... Cuz now where doing what we want to get our lives all figured out, and we cant really slow each other down... In my eyes I see it as a positive thing...

There's a few other reasons... but thats basically it...

Then I thought of just ending it... cuz well I'm still very young. I dont wanna like make a mistake by waiting around for someone, when later having it end... Cuz then whats the outcome of that? I waited around for someone who was never around, then when they were around it ended and i wasted my time for nothing, when I coulda been out and about with other people ya know... finding out what type of person i really want... Thats the main reaosn why I thought about ending it.

And then yes the military does change people... but not that much. I would know My best friend left for the army after I graduated. She calls me every now and then and its as if nothing really changed. She's got the same old sense of humor, and everything. I think the only thing that's changed about her is that now she's more responsible, WAY more mature, and well serious. But she's still herself... But that's just one person from the military. I dont know what could happen to my boyfriend... But from what Ive seen with my best friend, that would be an added bonus to my boyfriend lol

Im not too worried about the military changing him... Ive hung around a lot of military people, and I love them all, they are all just so awesome... I'm actually kinda excited to see what the military will do to my boyfriend...

For now I'm gonna hang in there and see what happens... When he leaves in the middle of September, he'll be back for Christmas... 3 months basically... We'll see what 3 months can do...

It definetly sucks tho...

Good luck Sabrina :-) If its meant to be it will all work out.

Sabrina not to scare u cuz from what ive seen ur bf does not seem low and not to say all military personel are but...have you been on base before? Barracks are full of horny dudes and its not weird to see a few guys in line to do a military hoe (the girls that flock to a man in uniform) Ive been on base more than a handful of times and it can get nuts (i dont know from like first hand experience just from walking around and observing) <--dont want yall getting the wrong idea

This post has been edited by BlackCelicaGT94: Aug 19, 2006 - 3:16 AM

[celicurr]

this is the biggest promotion thread evAr, to make all the girls on the board think that bloodrain is a pimp LOL

[hitcachi]

its good advice and all but its just so weird............taking relationship advice from a guy that has a screen name of "Bloodrain". I've seen it all on the internet!

[IdiotStick]

its good advice and all but its just so weird............taking relationship advice from a guy that has a screen name of "Bloodrain". I've seen it all on the internet!

Maybe he doesnt use his own advice to get sex, he uses it to get them to trust him so he can RIP THE HEARTS FROM THEIR CHEST!!!

This post has been edited by IdiotStick: Aug 19, 2006 - 7:13 AM

[bloodrain]

oh I also added a paragraph to my first post in this thread, its required reading!!!

this is the biggest promotion thread evAr, to make all the girls on the board think that bloodrain is a pimp LOL

SHH your gonna ruin my plans!!! lol

its good advice and all but its just so weird............taking relationship advice from a guy that has a screen name of "Bloodrain". I've seen it all on the internet!

have you seen the girl that had sex with.... nevermind, its gonna get this thread closed... lol

its good advice and all but its just so weird............taking relationship advice from a guy that has a screen name of "Bloodrain". I've seen it all on the internet!

Maybe he doesnt use his own advice to get sex, he uses it to get them to trust him so he can RIP THE HEARTS FROM THEIR CHEST!!!

Im just getting girls back for all the times they messed with us!! lol

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 19, 2006 - 10:07 AM

[CelicaBuddy]

Good luck Sabrina :-) If its meant to be it will all work out.

Sabrina not to scare u cuz from what ive seen ur bf does not seem low and not to say all military personel are but...have you been on base before? Barracks are full of horny dudes and its not weird to see a few guys in line to do a military hoe (the girls that flock to a man in uniform) Ive been on base more than a handful of times and it can get nuts (i dont know from like first hand experience just from walking around and observing) <--dont want yall getting the wrong idea

I've been on the base lots of times, cuz I use to go there with my best friend all the time before she went off to basic training. I'd even sit down and have lunch with all the army guys... It would be funny cuz me and my best friend would be the only two people in the room not in camo, while the rest of the room (which would be completely packed full) was army guys in uniform... It was not only awkward but it was pretty funny. Whenever I'd get up to like grab something, all eyes were on me... hahaha

But I get what your saying... I can see why some guys would be like that, them not being around chicks in awhile lol.

Yeah from what I've seen of my bf for 8 months, he doesnt seem like the type to just go and do something like that. He's got that very loyal, trusting, honest personailty... He's a good guy.

I hope everything works out tho.

This post has been edited by CelicaBuddy: Aug 19, 2006 - 11:25 AM

[amysmojo]

PS - a girl wants a guy thats the right amount of available and not available because i know personally I would love a guy to be there to adore me but once I have it im over it and want the chase.

I realized that when this happens to me it means he isnt right for me anyway cause if he was I wouldnt lose interest

[amysmojo]

treat a girl like dirt and shell stick to you like mud.

Some girls actually do like to be treated like dirt. Dirt might even be too nice of a word to use...

My best friend of 6 years has been seeing this stupid guy for like 5 months...they are always together, ALWAYS. Mainly because he doesnt have a job, cause he cant keep one! He is 29 for crying out loud...OH & he still lives with his parents. *every girls dream* Anyway he farts & burps on her literally 15 - 20 times a day. This guy doesnt care who is around or where he is at he just lets it all out, then laughs about it. One time he told her to close her eyes, so she did, & when she did he dumped a beer down her head then laughed saying "I cant believe you let me do that!!!"

Anyway...I hate him, she adores him. She doesnt realize that he is ruining her friendship w/ other people...like me. She knows I hate him but "no one has ever made her happier" Although a couple months ago he stormed out of her place one day callng her a terrible mother (she has kids) & that he feels like she is just using him for sex. So she calls me (since im the best friend) & of course Im right there by her side like a best friend should be, trying to comfort her & dry her tears while telling her he is a jerk & to move on. BUT no.. a few days later he is back & she lets him right back in w/ open arms. Thats the other thing...he rarely wants to have sex & my friend cant live with out it!!

There are tons of guys she knows who would loooove to date her & treat her like a princess, she is a pretty girl!! But she wants this idiot...... I dont understand it, all I know is I want my friend back This isnt like her @ all....

This post has been edited by amysmojo: Aug 19, 2006 - 2:50 PM

[JoKeRkId613]

wow. this thread is real depressing. anyway, i would like some advice while it's still free.

im currently 19 years old. i used to be a friggin pimp in high school. now that im in college and work fulltime i find myself not having as much time as id like to dedicate to a gf. ive been working at this place for 2 years and hold a professional position and deal with fortune 500 clients all day long. i think this has grown my mentallity a lot and i find myself not enjoying the same conversations/friends that i used to back when i was in high school. i also think i lost a lot of self-esteem and confidence in myself. i try to be myself when i go out. i try to talk to girls but it's not how it used to be when i'd go out in high school because i find all girls i meet to be immature and focused on dumb ****. not to say that im focused on all the right things, but in my opinion, dumb ****. anyway, i wish i could go somewhere where they have hot chicks with dreams and goals that go to school and work or just go to school. is there such a place? ive met girls like that but they're all 30+ rich chicks but i dont believe in the whole "age aint nothin but a number" thing. i mean, i still hit the old rich chicks, but im looking for a real relationship. its been almost 2 years since my last real relationship and i kinda miss the whole relationship thing. i really dont know what to do. perhaps im approaching this the wrong way? i dunno, life is too short and i dont wanna end up alone or anything.

*sigh* im going to some strip club now to pay for some ass. jk, but its saturday night. for now, i guess i'll try to have more of an open mind and see if i find anyone interesting.

thanks.