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[bloodrain]

Read this thread before asking a question, it will answer most of your basic questions.

I almost forgot. THE ABSOLUTE MOST IMPORTANT THING ABOUT APPROACHING WOMEN IS BODY LANGUAGE. The best advice I can give you is just stay calm, slow your words down more than normal and give her time to answer your questions. Also dont fidgit with things, thats a big no-no.


lol well guys, I have actually recieved a few PM's from people (names will be hidden unless they want to be revieled) And I decided to start my own thread. If you have any questions on dating, love or attracting the opposite sex, feel free to PM or write a question in this thread and I will give you advice on what I have learned. And keep in mind, its ADVICE. Anywho you can find some older advice in this thread

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 19, 2006 - 10:06 AM

[Celiracer18]

So yeah.... theres this girl.... and she loves my car....more tahn me probly. How can i stop her from stealing it? lol..............It's true

[celicaGT96]

ok this is something that has been really bothering me lateley and I dont know what to do.
Theres this girl that moved down over here not too long ago and when she moved down here I met her beacuse a friend introduced us. Right away we connected and I was one of the very few people she talked to over here and still am. We have since then been talking online and I see her every so often with my other friend. I really like her alot and I cant stop thinking about her. Theres only one BIG problem and thats that she has a bf already...

I totally respect that and all but its hard to just talk to her all normal like nothings there. What Im asking is, would it be wrong of me to just let her know how I feel??

I do know that she fights alot with her bf but I dont get into her buisness so I just ignore the topic.

[ExSane]

You can tell her how you feel. It's ok. But just make sure and let her know that your friendship is open, not your heart. Your heart can wait till she is single but your friendship can last forever.

[celicaST]

the link where you gave that advice is golden, should be a sticky for every guy to read. all too often i see guys making mistakes being too nice, too available, etc. from what you wrote in other thread i can tell that you know your stuff everybody asking for advice, listen to this guy.

[IdiotStick]

So, could you give us examples of being too nice/avail? And examples of where we should stay, in terms of the 'nice/avail scale'? I'm one of them guys who just throws himself out there and I can't seem to fathom how to be in the middle of either "all out" and "not there at all".

[6th_celi_vert]

so ive got this rash...o, misunderstood the thread...



sorry. : ) lol

[chucho]

So yeah.... theres this girl.... and she loves my car....more tahn me probly. How can i stop her from stealing it? lol..............It's true

I wish I had that problem, all my ex's think i'm obessed w/ my car. And honestly I dont spend or go online nearly as much as I used to. And I really dont talk about my car like I used 2. I only really talk about cars to car guys now.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

I think youre more of a psychologist...but if ur a psychiatrist can I get some meds?


PS - a girl wants a guy thats the right amount of available and not available because i know personally I would love a guy to be there to adore me but once I have it im over it and want the chase.

This post has been edited by BlackCelicaGT94: Aug 18, 2006 - 11:05 AM

[bloodrain]

ok this is something that has been really bothering me lateley and I dont know what to do.
Theres this girl that moved down over here not too long ago and when she moved down here I met her beacuse a friend introduced us. Right away we connected and I was one of the very few people she talked to over here and still am. We have since then been talking online and I see her every so often with my other friend. I really like her alot and I cant stop thinking about her. Theres only one BIG problem and thats that she has a bf already...

I totally respect that and all but its hard to just talk to her all normal like nothings there. What Im asking is, would it be wrong of me to just let her know how I feel??

I do know that she fights alot with her bf but I dont get into her buisness so I just ignore the topic.

Ah the age old dilema. Its a simple answer, you dont tell her anything. Simple as that. What most guys dont realize is they give all the power to women. The very second you tell a girl you have feelings for her you lost all the power. The real problem is this, your deciding if your good enough for her, when in reality it should be is she good enough for you. Now think to yourself, if she has a boyfriend, and breaks up with him to be with you, what makes you think she wont do it again? If a girl EVER does that, dont ask questions, dont make excuses, just leave. History ALWAYS repeats itself. Now if you still want to be with her (and im assuming you do) all you have to do is be patient. (Refer to link at the top of the page) The first thing you have to do is NOT always be there when she wants, like I said, girls want what they cant have. And by waiting around hand and foot for her your doing exactly opposite of what you should be doing. If she is having problems with her boyfriend, dont try to interfere because more than likely it will not work out for her. Be patient, its also ok to start talking to other girls. If she has any feelings for you it will only fuel the fire. (Again, refer to my other page for DATING guidelines). If you can give me some more info on her I will be more than happy to give you more advice on what to do. But right now this statement is kinda vague because all I know is "you like her, she has a boyfriend" lol.

[bloodrain]

I think youre more of a psychologist...but if ur a psychiatrist can I get some meds?


PS - a girl wants a guy thats the right amount of available and not available because i know personally I would love a guy to be there to adore me but once I have it im over it and want the chase.

Ha, thanks for the catch ;-)

Anywho shes totally right, its all about the chase. If you know how to keep the girls guessing, your as good as gold. And thats what im here for!

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 18, 2006 - 11:19 AM

[bloodrain]

So, could you give us examples of being too nice/avail? And examples of where we should stay, in terms of the 'nice/avail scale'? I'm one of them guys who just throws himself out there and I can't seem to fathom how to be in the middle of either "all out" and "not there at all".

Ah idiotstick, you need to read my link again, lol. Read the part where I have 1-12 (i think it was) and if you still have any questions feel free to ask. Basically you have to learn to enjoy your "single life" even if you have a girl or are interested in them. Im assuming you have guy friends or other girl friends,
its OK to say "oh sorry I already have plans for thursday, how about we do something sunday." Be focused on yourself, show her you DONT NEED HER to be happy. Because as soon as she sees you trying to 'cling on' it shows a sign of weakness and insecruity, and as we discussed before, thats bad.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

So what happens when she becomes a "cling on" does a guy find that unattractive as well? much like a girl does?

[bloodrain]

So what happens when she becomes a "cling on" does a guy find that unattractive as well? much like a girl does?

The same principle still stands. While there is no denying there are different personalities, im giving general advice, so take it with a grain of salt. But for the most part, guys do not want a clingy girlfriend because they feel they lose there 'freedom'

[jgreening]

So what happens when she becomes a "cling on" does a guy find that unattractive as well? much like a girl does?

The same principle still stands. While there is no denying there are different personalities, im giving general advice, so take it with a grain of salt. But for the most part, guys do not want a clingy girlfriend because they feel they lose there 'freedom'

Except some guys that drop off the face of the earth when they get a girlfriend and their friends are like "What ever happened to him?"

I agree with what Blood is saying but think that the rules dont transfer as well to guys because guys can make up their mind better. A woman is generally always looking for something better until she hits about 32...then the panic begins to set in.

[bloodrain]

if they drop off the earth so to speak, thats the cause of a clingy guy

[Chanh55]

bloodrain

[LewFX]

i love my car more than my gf, is that normal!?

[bloodrain]

i love my car more than my gf, is that normal!?

then you obviously dont love your gf... simple enough :-p

[My2Celi]

bloodrain you so crzy I think this is really good.

The only problem i have is I spend so much on my car just to get it maintenance cause the previous owner did not care for it at all. I spend my whole paycheck just about. After getting all my maint. done i get a hit and run, broken into or one lil thing cause a whole castrophe. I feel like giving up on it. But i dont want to let it go. I'm in love with the car, I adore it so much and its so bad that its a turn off to the girls i talk to now. I was looking around for a mr2 or a rx7, but i just cant seem to let it go. I really need a reliable car right now cuz my job is a 45min drive and i car pool with a guy that listens to gothic death metal @ 6am in the morning. gd. i rather drive myself but i only got 4 gears to work with and i dont wana blow my motor up driving 5k rpm. So iono. What would YOU do? Maybe i should post a couple of pix of whats bad of it.

This post has been edited by My2Celi: Aug 18, 2006 - 12:43 PM