BUNCH OF BS, Need someone to talk to...... Options

[lubu]

All good advices. But you gotta understand something: Why is she considering some one else? Is it because:

a. Is it because you havent been good enough to her?
b. You were good but lately slacking that affection that you once had??

In my opinion people especially girls, tend to lean on guys who love them and can provide their needs. I personally think she is an honest person for telling you abt the other person, she can just mouth-shut then out of a sudden, leaves you.

Maybe us, guys, feel betrayed and hurted when our girls having a second thought but please look in the mirror and ask urself a few simple questions, "are you what you should be???"

Nowaday i tend to concentrate on modding my car and not leaving enough time for my girl, but i quickly realised and made up for it. Doesnt have to be anything special, just simple outdoor dinner with some wine and way you go...

Just advice based on experiences. Look back and think what went wrong, if she is nice then the fault must be you. FIX IT. If she isnt that great then its time to move on.

Three 1/2 years is a long time....

edit: for ppl who saids that she's banging the other guy, what are you based on? Dont say it if you dont know abt the girl. Have some respect!!!

This post has been edited by lubu: Sep 5, 2007 - 12:50 PM

[ThePettingFairy]

more importantly...how old is SHE? Girls under the age of 25 have their heads up their butts...Do you live with her? Do you have a career?

Excuse me? Girls under 25 have their heads up their butts? I beg to differ. I am 22 female with her head on her head not her rear end. But coming from a girls standpoint when she says "I don't know who to pick" it may just literally mean "I don't know who to pick" we are simple its you guys that think girls are complicated. She's confused cos she was tempted by someone else and the whole question of "what if" comes in to play. Everyone thinks it, some just act on it. Or she can just be a bitch and just wanna string you along but not all girls are bitches. But if I were you.. just dump her. Someone is out there that wants to be with just you and only you and noone can confuse her mind of that. Just gotta go fishing for girls again. Maybe have a couple wild nights. Be good for you. Where are your boys..let them take you out.

[yarik83]

Ok now that I came from work and my eyes are not bothering me but my stuffy nose is..

If you study human behavior and yes that includes psychology you would recognize signs of cheating from signs of relationship burnout.

Scenario one-seven symbolize just seven of gazillion ways a relationship is not working out.

I think i need more space
I am not sure this is working out
Where are we going with this relationship
I cant stand all ........(listing things here).....things you do
Me and ... decided its best for us to....
Why cant we be like....
See if you had a better job.....

Now here are few signs of many of how to spot that a lady is cheating.
-I think I have feelings for someone else.
if she had some feelings as of fell in love with someone that would signify that she had been close with that person. Whether that was kissing, dry shtooping and or intercourse.. because a girl may have a crush on someone like brad pit and or that guy in the mall passing by.. but in those cases she tells you about it making you a bit jealous. And she does it on purpose and playfully. Ladies are extremely easy to seduse whether they admit it or not. A married woman with 3 kids and a loving husband could fall far the "lagoon creature" if all things fall into right places. Does that mean that she plans to leave family? No but an act is an act is an act. And lagoon creature whoopsie doopsie stays on your mind often with reprecussions. A guy does not tolerate cheating the way a girl may. If you are a guy and your girl does so much as plants a kiss on another guy who is not her family member or a business kiss on cheek we immediately steam about it because at that very moment we envision our lady being with that guy and in that very moment only 3 words come on our mind. What The F.

Another way to tell is if she is not in the mood for.... over and over and over

Of course this may sound like a generalization and of course if a lady was ready this she would be rather upset with my words but I have seen it all too many times. A lady tipycally has more common sence than a guy does when it comes to relationships and a lady who lost interest in her guy would first break up and then go looking for other opportunities rather than the other way around.

[ILuvMyCelica95]

I'd have to agree with lubu in some of his points. Maybe you did do something and are unaware of it?

Of course people don't just have feelings for someone out of the blue but i also think it's a pretty big assumption to say that shes sleeping with someone else.

3 1/2 years is a very long time, I think you should talk to her and since she was so honest maybe she'll tell you why she has feelings for this other person and did you do something or perhaps not do something to cause this to happen. Then you can figure out if you should move on or if it's worth working on.

[Culpable04]

maybe she'll tell you why she has feelings for this other person

I wouldn't wanna know that, there are some questions that unless you can really handle any answer, they should never be asked.

[lubu]

Just a reminder to all of us. I dunno whats ppl point of view on girls but i think they are one hell of a creature. Without them the world would be so much quiter , we would have all the time in the world for our cars ..etc...but despite all the positives its will be just boring and dull and of course we would all be GAY!!!!

If you're thinking your girl is the one or even if she isnt, treasure her. Love her. Play with her. Protect her. Feed her . A girl feels so much safer when shes with you for these reasons and would never want to leave you, but if she does wanna leave after all this, then:
a. she is tapped!
b. you arent very hanshome at all (more like veryx100 ugly)

I was a d*ck in my previous relationship and when I realised, it was too late, I did everything to save it but couldnt. So, dont take the winding road when you can take much easier ones. You will miss her when she's gone!!!

If you think that Im giving out lesson, no Im not. Just something I like to share with you guys especially the males in this site. You want her to treat you nice and with love, god damn it I think she does too!!

..and finnaly to the topic starter celiracer, the river aint dry yet, you can still get your boat across. Godd luck!!

[CelicaBuddy]

Honestly... I'd just end it, it will save you from more potential hurt later down the road. Like a lot of people were saying, if she REALLY loved you, she wouldn't be questioning your relationship together. If its meant to be, then its meant to be...

That's what I should have done a long time ago with the ex bf, when he said basically the same things your girl is saying now... From past experience trying to hold the relationship together and make it work after something like that just back fired in my face horribly... Turns out he just ended up cheating on me anyway Not saying your girl is doing the same... but thats what happened to me...


3 1/2 years is a long time, she may just be taking your relationship for granted and not realizing how good she may have it. Its a common thing that happens in a long relationship... Once you dont have the person anymore, you truly appreciate them and everything they did for you... maybe give it a break... though technically I dont really believe in breaks...

good luck

This post has been edited by CelicaBuddy: Sep 5, 2007 - 7:14 PM

[slvr_celica_GT_8...]

sorry to hear that ive been with my g/f for 3 1/2 years too

[giang723]

ya y dont u drive ur car to his house...

yeah that's really good advice mate, if you read my post properly as i was merely joking


where is celiracer anyway?

[97Celica]

Thepettingfairy, you may have a head on your shoulders but I was generalizing to make him feel better. I am 25,my GF is 21, We live together and have an awesome relationship but still...she's not 100% grown up. Also, I have been married before and have been in long term relationships...I am speaking from experience. Girls HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THEY WANT til they find out who THEY ARE. If you get a girl without self confidence or goals in live,you might as well do the WHAM,BAM,THANK YOU MA'AM type thing. It's not worth your time.