Celi Vs. Celi (My gf and my car!) Options

[tranthecelicaman]

Ok so my girlfriend Celi is taking all my time away from my other Celi..hehe the celica
ive got like nothing done to my car lately cuz i have to do everything with Celi
i see her every single day, and i work..so i have no timew for my car then
she gets mad at me if i want to spen one day working on my car
she made me delete my myspace cuz i was talking to girls...girls that are just friends!
i just ended up making a new one a few days ago but im just adding people with .into celicas cuz thats mostly what i used myspace for b4 anyways, but she didnt believe me.
we have been together for 5 YEARS! so i definitely dont wanna flush 5 years of my life down the drain
BUT NOW!!! SHE SAYS SHE WILL BREAK UP WITH ME OF I DONT TAKE HER TO THE CELICA MEET!
omggg, she gunna be a bitch and want my attention 98% of the time, but the onyl reson i cwould be theere is for the cars and to hang out with some friends i havnt seen in a few years!!!!
ahhhhhhhhhhhhh im ready to explode idk what the F*CK to do!!!!!!!
HELP!!!

This post has been edited by tranthecelicaman: Jul 18, 2006 - 2:37 AM

[Jen]

your girlfriend's name is.. Celi?

[purplegt4]

err uhhh...i say...uhh WOT THAT B!TCH! see what she says after that.

[tranthecelicaman]

yes my girfriend name is Celi...well really Cecelia...but since the day i met her ive called her Celi

[Jen]

sounds like she just has a bit of an insecurity problem.

[tranthecelicaman]

i just dont knwo what to do, i love this girl , ive been with her 5 years..but i want one time for myself with my boys...cant i have like onew wek tomyself???? sighhhh

[Jen]

well, don't break up with her - she just loves you, and is worried that she may lose you
always reassure her, ask her for some space, and that there's nothing going on, you just need a bit of space
honestly, you should take her to the celica meet (which is it, btw? i see youre in fl) and show her that it is nothing to be worried about, maybe she'll see
she kind of reminds me of how i was in my last relationship
fcked me over, then again the guy i was with didnt cooperate at all

[tranthecelicaman]

see thats the thing, the meet is in cali
im going just to be with some friend that moved there...
and this is the first summer i can take a road trip
so im going for only 2 reasons
to see my buddys and the celica meet
i want to spend time with them cuz i havnt seen them
and i wanna go to the meet and not have to worry about if shes having fun ever second, she doesnt like cars much and i know it and she never has fun...and i cant put all of my attention on her like i can normally, but thats what shes used to and when she doesnt get it she freaks out...i spoiled her! lol

[daazndood]

communication is definetly key. you should tell her (nicely) how u feel and that you love her and dont want her doing this to you etc.

with my gf, everytime we got in arguments we'd just get mad and avoid each other, but now we always tell each other how we feel, why we are mad etc and its alot better. we understand each other a whole lot more now

[tranthecelicaman]

ill try but shes so not understanding..in 5 years shes went liek everwere with me...i take her everywere...shes like glued to my hip...and im so scared shes gunna feel like unwanted cuz im dont want her to go...errrr idk....ok how bout this:

if i bring her:
she will want my attention every second
shes not gunna have fun
shes gunna feel like im ignoring her
im gunna feel liek **** cuz shes upset


If i dotn bring her:
possibly dump me
she will be super pissed for like a week and prolly wont talk to me
ill miss her
she will miss me
ill prolly end up calling her 5 times a day just to see if everythings ok
ill be worried about her 24/7

[daazndood]

ill try but shes so not understanding..in 5 years shes went liek everwere with me...i take her everywere...shes like glued to my hip...and im so scared shes gunna feel like unwanted cuz im dont want her to go...errrr idk....ok how bout this:

if i bring her:
she will want my attention every second
shes not gunna have fun
shes gunna feel like im ignoring her
im gunna feel liek **** cuz shes upset


If i dotn bring her:
possibly dump me
she will be super pissed for like a week and prolly wont talk to me
ill miss her
she will miss me
ill prolly end up calling her 5 times a day just to see if everythings ok
ill be worried about her 24/7

that sucks man. i remember goin to a party with my girl and like i would spend half the time with my buddies and half my time with her and she would still get mad at me. now whenever i ask her she just makes me go by myself.

[Predator]

kinda sounds lika a one way relationship to me, you gives and she takes, maybe she's just insecure, either about herself and doesnt want anything to happen that may ruin your relationship, or maybe she don't trust you, maybe something happened to her in a previous relationship or maybe you did something that made her loose her trust?. however, ask for some slack to let you do what you like and see how it works out, of it doesnt it's either you or her that needs to change if you want to have a succesful relationship

[MaskedMan]

well it might not neccessarily be that she doesn't trust him, but maybe she just doesn't trust other girls. but it sounds like a hard decision man. Hey man, how about a compromise. It takes atleast 3 days to drive up here anyways (im going to be driving from Ohio to Cali later this year) So how about you spend quality time for her during the trip and a little bit while your here (how long are you staying here anyways?) and since the meet is only 1 day, you can ask for this day to do something you want, and give her another day where you guys can do something she wants. Idk, seems like the only way to make both of you happy. atleast a little?

[tranthecelicaman]

oh god three daysin a car with her? do i have to?
lol ill turn a corner and she will be like "wtf you almost hit the stop sign!" and im like omggg i didnt even come close to it!!!! haha or like even worse when i dont come to a total compete stop at a stop sign if i just go down to like 3 mph, she will be like " justin stop!!!"
idk i guess ill take her...then at least if i ever wanna go on a road trip again... she wont wanna come lol
ill make it so boring for her she will hate it hahaha
im so mean.. o well ive gave that gurl everything and spoilered her for the last 5 years ...i want sumthinf or me now!

[MaskedMan]

haha, get used to it now man haha.

[tranthecelicaman]

okok so ill be honest now i was thinkin at first what if she find this site or w/e cuz i swaer if she was sum criminal ro stalker or sumthin shes be good at it, but this website is .net she will never find it lol.... not without a myspace or anything
ok i know im young and all but ive been with her for 5 years and ive been perfectly happy...nothing major has ever went wrong, no lil break ups nothing
im in the proces of looking for a ring YES A RING ...and she will have no clue cuz we talk about getting engaged often and i told her i wanna wate till im at least 21.... she looks os sad every time i say it but i realised i wanna be with this girl.... sooooooooo i dont wanna screw things up , that would totally suck. lol and thats sumthin i would do , screw things up rite b4 we get engaged lol. but yea thats my story!

[MaskedMan]

oh she will find this site and here's how.... (haha, i can trace anything haha)

Ok well you have a myspace, and you recently added me to your myspace. So now i am in your friends list. So there is a link to my myspace from your page. So she could go to my page, and there is a link to this site on my page. And i post a lot on here, so most likely she will find my posts. and from my posts, she will find your posts. Muhaha! i know the trail to everything!

[tranthecelicaman]

she doesnt know i have a myspace, and even if she finds it...its private hahahaha =) i win! CHECKMATE!

This post has been edited by tranthecelicaman: Jul 18, 2006 - 6:40 AM

[JoKeRkId613]

wow. get used to it now? lmao. i feel bad for anyone that has to live their life like that. but hey, it's yours, do as you wish with it. if she'll break up with u for going to a celica meet without her, imagine what other dumb crap she'll break up with you over. and i bet when she wants to do something u wouldnt like her to do, she does it anyway and you either dont do sh!t or try to but she doesn't care and keeps on doing it. goodluck with that.

^be careful, she might break up with u if she finds out u have it on private!^

This post has been edited by JoKeRkId613: Jul 18, 2006 - 6:41 AM

[tranthecelicaman]

eh well she will never find it, i decided my myspace rules:
1. im not adding anyone i personally know...well except 4 people i know for a fact do not know or talk to her,
2. im not adding people untill i dind out who they are and how they got my myspace.
3. my default is of my celica, not of me
4. my default name isnt my ame or snyhting that will give it away

this is the first time shes been liek this but this has been the first time ive tried to leave hor foe a long time...i understand her more now, shes just scared of me leaving her for so long, the most ive ever been away from her in 5 years was like 3 or 4 days

[pure_dx]

this is starting to sound like the other guy in here who said his gf used him to do stuff to her celica, like buy her rims and paint her car and other stuff, then his gf dumped him, and he came on here and made a thread about it, its on here somewhere........

what i'm trying to say is, just be careful man, i dont wanna see ya get hurt dude, 5 years is 5 years, but ya gonna be spending the rest of your life with a person who ya gonna marry, catch my drift? but...it does kinda seem like she really loves you and just worrying about you, anyways, good luck....

This post has been edited by pure_dx: Jul 18, 2006 - 8:13 AM

[ExSane]

OMG! I FEEL YOU MAN! My girl is like that too! The hell is wrong with girls these days!?!? It's like it's all about them. Well I say, f*** them! Do what you want to do. And she has to appreciate and RESPECT your decisions and the things you want to do on your own time. They are such freakin hypacrytes! I swear. It's like whatever they do they can have it, but when we wanna do our thing, "No!" AHHHHH!!! We can only take so much girls! Jeez! Don't worry friend, I know how you feel. The whole point being is that your girl (just like mine) is insecure and does not know how to manage her time with you properly. It's not like you guys are married! She does not need to be on your back 24/7. She needs to learn to respect your decisions and TRUST you.

[CilverSeliST205]

Dude your girl is acting like your slave-master. I cant believe that some of you guys let this happen to you... i lost two friends like that because their gf weren't too happy about them having a life away from their girlfriends don't let her do this sh!t to you... Give her lots of WOT as suggested by purplegt4, and then tell her who's the man in the relationship and who makes the decisions, if she does not like that idea tell her to find another victim.

Good Luck

[sinner96ST]

Personally, I think your woman is trying to control you.

If you let her get away with telling you how to act, who to talk to, and what to do with your spare time, it will only get worse as time goes on.

Put your foot down and tell her that you love her more than your car, but you want to be able to do things you enjoy. If she doesn't like that you work on your car instead of hang out with her, tell her to come over while you're working on your car.

I swear, women spend 99% of the time in a relationship trying to change you, then years down the road, they bitch that you aren't the same person that they first met.

[crismillencolin]

lose the girl - save the world

[Akira_g4]

oh **** this sounds exactly like my last relationship!!! but yea sounsd like a insecurity thing. id say if the girl cant except who you are then it aint worth it. youre just a guy that loves his car, she can deal with it or not...come on after 5 years of being together and she made you delete the myspace. man youre tough, i wouldve said **** that, deal with it.

[tranthecelicaman]

i know i understan dall of you but i love her and its hard to say no to her, id do anything in the world for her, and to see that pouty face when i say no tears me up (even though its so freaking cute!) what i think is ill talk to her and tell her i wanna do this for me, and that ill bring her back a special surprise from cali (she loves new things from differnt places) and that "special surprise" will be an engagement ring... and ill come home like 2 days earlier than i tell her and totally catch her of guard....theres no way in hell she can be mad at me ...rite?

[MaskedMan]

personally it doesn't sound like a good idea. it's sweet for sure but i think your rushin into things man. ok yeah 5 years of being together, that is a long time, however it seems if she would break up with you over something as little as a celica meet, then i dont think your ready to get married. just my .02.

[gt_driFFter]

personally it doesn't sound like a good idea. it's sweet for sure but i think your rushin into things man. ok yeah 5 years of being together, that is a long time, however it seems if she would break up with you over something as little as a celica meet, then i dont think your ready to get married. just my .02.

+1

You sound pretty young, what's the rush in getting married? If you're relationship is one that will survive marriage, then it'll last a few more years of just being together!

[ExSane]

i know i understan dall of you but i love her and its hard to say no to her, id do anything in the world for her, and to see that pouty face when i say no tears me up (even though its so freaking cute!) what i think is ill talk to her and tell her i wanna do this for me, and that ill bring her back a special surprise from cali (she loves new things from differnt places) and that "special surprise" will be an engagement ring... and ill come home like 2 days earlier than i tell her and totally catch her of guard....theres no way in hell she can be mad at me ...rite?

You are rushing it man. I know you love her and all but how can you run into marriage when she doesn't even trust you yet? And also, you are getting an engangement ring so that she won't be mad at you? Dude, if you are getting an engagement ring, you don't even have to ask that. You should already know she would be happy to be engaged if you know her that well. It's like you are getting it for the wrong reasons. MaskedMan and gt_driFFter are also right.

[tranthecelicaman]

ok well this meet is in more than a mnth...so ill talk to her tonight again and explain more...and if she takes it good and she understands i need my time and everything i wanna propse to her, if shes guna be abitch to me, then i eont...you know what i mean???
pretty much if she finalyl comes to her sences..then i will.... i wthink she will, theres plenty of time for her to think things over

[playr158]

dude i been in your shoes...ask forester..mine called me when i was workin on his car took me 2 hours to get her off the fone

but honestly she's controlling and thats not straight at all its not fair to you and she needs to learn that its not going to work that way..i've been in your same spot with a relationship of several years..needless to say i broke up with her cause of insecurity/control issues and a few others...you both need to understand eachothers sides and take a break learn not to be so dependant on eachother....being stuck to the hip will only lead you downhill...

good luck hope you work things out

[hurley97]

sound like my previous relationship. only i was in almost the same situation as you and im the girl lol

we were together 3 years, i just broke up with him in the beginning of may. it was three years of me trying to make him happy and thinking i was just as happy. i finally realized i wasnt happy because i wasnt doing anything for myself anymore. i was only 16 when we started going out and he was 17 and we were so sure we'd get married for the longest time (he still says he would if i wanted to). we also spent everyday together and when id say i was going out with 'just the girls' hed get all offended and upset so i didnt anymore and my friends were pissed off to say the least. im just glad they understood and were there for me when we broke up.

i was always saying to myself when i felt unhappy "why am i going to break up with him after soo long? id just be looking for what we already have" meaning the comfort and history of the relationship. after breaking up with him and finally doing things for myself, ive been happier than i have in years. its a little scary when your so sure of something for so long then you start having doubts...you may disagree with me but i just think before you go buy a ring you need to step back and think about everything long and hard

i have loads more that i can say but i wont bore everyone with my story lol
but if you want to talk to me on aim your welcome to, i cant tell you what decisions to make but i can offer my experience and maybe it'll be of some help

[easternpiro1]

take it from this pimp...do what u gotta do but PLEASE edit the part where u calld her a beeyotch! that will DEFINATELY get ugly....im in a predicament too...girl wants to go with me to nopi cuz its in atlanta, the same place where i shagged this model chick last weekend... dont worry...you will choose the right thing...

[tranthecelicaman]

any girls in here have any advice as in what they would wanna hearfrom me??
i called her and im talking ot her tonight about it in person for the first time, and i dont wanna screw up =\

[RapidGT]

see thats the thing, the meet is in cali
im going just to be with some friend that moved there...
and this is the first summer i can take a road trip
so im going for only 2 reasons
to see my buddys and the celica meet
i want to spend time with them cuz i havnt seen them
and i wanna go to the meet and not have to worry about if shes having fun ever second, she doesnt like cars much and i know it and she never has fun...and i cant put all of my attention on her like i can normally, but thats what shes used to and when she doesnt get it she freaks out...i spoiled her! lol

I only need to say one thing "Trust". She only wants to go with you as she does not trust you. Your saying that you love her and you don't want to lose her.
If there is not trust in a relationship, you have to come to terms with there is no relationship. A relationship is built on trust.
Friends are forever, partners can come and go.
I learn't this from my last relationship.
She needs to trust you mate, there's nothing else to it.

[MaskedMan]

ok well this meet is in more than a mnth...so ill talk to her tonight again and explain more...and if she takes it good and she understands i need my time and everything i wanna propse to her, if shes guna be abitch to me, then i eont...you know what i mean???
pretty much if she finalyl comes to her sences..then i will.... i wthink she will, theres plenty of time for her to think things over

So your going to decide proposing to her or not, depending on how she takes this situation? Idk man, i mean, if you want to marry someone, then you want to marry them no matter what. But i mean, if your going to base this engagement off her being a bitch this one time, then i think you need to do some more thinking of what you really want. Engagement isn't something you should take lightly. If you really want to propose to her, then thats your choice, cuz i don't even know you haha, so i can't tell you how to run your life, all i can do is be happy for you . But just from the what it looks like from the outside, it looks like you two aren't ready for that kind of commitment. Seems to me like your taking engagement as a temporary fix, or a "reward" for her letting you go to this meet alone.

[tranthecelicaman]

well i know for sure oe day i will propse...but i reallt liek this oppertunity...if shes being lie this then it just ruins is, butif shes fine with everything then its the poerfect oppertunity...
o well ill talk to her tonight and see how everything goes...
i really think shes just freaking out cuz she doesnt wanna be away from me that long... an di think after i talk to her she will be fine, BUT only time will tell...ill see in a few minutes cuz i gotta leave now, be back later =)

[MaskedMan]

ok man goodluck with that, and i don't mean to be a douche or anything, but i think you posted this in the wrong place. I think it should be under the "Off Topic" category haha

[tranthecelicaman]

i agree...but i didnt see there was a off topic thing til ater i posted it...so sorry eeveryone, im still kinda new here =\

[behindthesmile]

Ok so my girlfriend Celi is taking all my time away from my other Celi..hehe the celica
ive got like nothing done to my car lately cuz i have to do everything with Celi
i see her every single day, and i work..so i have no timew for my car then
she gets mad at me if i want to spen one day working on my car
she made me delete my myspace cuz i was talking to girls...girls that are just friends!
i just ended up making a new one a few days ago but im just adding people with .into celicas cuz thats mostly what i used myspace for b4 anyways, but she didnt believe me.
we have been together for 5 YEARS! so i definitely dont wanna flush 5 years of my life down the drain
BUT NOW!!! SHE SAYS SHE WILL BREAK UP WITH ME OF I DONT TAKE HER TO THE CELICA MEET!
omggg, she gunna be a bitch and want my attention 98% of the time, but the onyl reson i cwould be theere is for the cars and to hang out with some friends i havnt seen in a few years!!!!
ahhhhhhhhhhhhh im ready to explode idk what the F*CK to do!!!!!!!
HELP!!!

man i feel you i had an ex like that but i got it worse she made me choose between her and my family and friends in the end we couldnt work it out since it was going way one sided and her insecurity really made things really difficult i loved her alot and we went out for almost 3 yrs but man that was freaking hard so we ended up breaking up which i thought was a good thing in the end since we loved each other but made each other misserable you really have to talk with her but if she was anything like my ex shed take it the wrong way... best thing you can do is bring her and one of her friends that way you can have more time with your boys. i learned my lesson i stay away from high emo girls as much as i can and when i ever go out with someone i wont spoil them

[tranthecelicaman]

Yea so me and her talked and shes really scared of being away from me ...i promised her i will spen every second she wants with her b4 i leave.... and i will bring her back a souvinere from cali....and shes been wanting to go to disney lworls so i promised to take her when i get back everything is set....she took it amazingly, i was so proud of her and how she listed to me and saw my side of it. thats my girl ! =) sooooo i decided that i do wanna propose to her. she impressed me so much tonight and showed me she really can be independent if she needs to and be understanding and supportive of me...soooo i decided this is how its gunne go down:

my friend Jayna is her best friend...Jayna is gunna plan a whole day out with Celi 2 days b4 im supposed to coem home... so celi wont make any other plans,.,,, then just when jayna gts to her house i will show up....having tons and tons of pink roses in my car fo her (she loves pink roses) then i will tell her were going for a lil drive and take her to disnney world....spend a day there with her and she will think thats it, will be extremely happy with just all that and ill make it like the days over im taking her home...then the next part im not sure when or where to do this but i will tell her i ave one more surprise and give her a fake pink rose with the ring attached inside the bud of it.... and tell her i willlove her untill that rose dies...and il tell her to smell it or sumtin and she will she the ring and ill ask her to marry me........ whewwww..... how does that sound???? haha i think she will love it
i just dont knwo when or were to give her the fake rose =\ any suggestions?

[pure_dx]

oh snapz brotha! dayum mangggg....that sounds like a fairy tale, lol....sh!t, i dont know man....getting married and sh!t, that sh!ts a lot of responsibility, i hope you know what you're doing and getting into, best of luck bro, keep us updated

This post has been edited by pure_dx: Jul 19, 2006 - 12:29 AM

[MaskedMan]

soooounds fun. goodluck with that, and i hope everything works out for ya man. haha something like that would never work for me haha. My plans always find a way to turn out opposite of what i exspected. haha

[tranthecelicaman]

rhanks for the luck lol and masked man, damn sorry dude haha ehhh thats how things usually are for me but i will make this work lol

[hurley97]

maybe its time to tell her you have a myspace. starting a marriage with secrets is a no no lol

[mzztoyota]

Well I'm glad that she was able to take everything maturely, and you seem to have a good head on your shoulders...I wish you guys all the luck...

Find somewhere scenic and isolated for the proposal, somewhere that you can visit again later in life to remember it.

And, yeah, make sure that this isn't a one-time thing with her being ok with you going away to enjoy the other love of your life; at least mention that you want a myspace just for car-talk purposes...if you want to get married then she should trust you enough to let you be your own man.